Mars in Pisces is both victim and seducer in one romantic package. The tragic artist, mysterious dreamer and vague pursuer are just a few of the personas this Mars sign can manifest. Just as the lines between fantasy and reality are blurred for Mars in Pisces, it can be difficult for you to know if this elusive fish is really into you.
Living the Dream
Pisces is the sign of allowing, rather than initiating. But Mars in Pisces can get fired up in his own way, and when he does, he’ll pursue the object of his sexual fantasy (you). Initially, it’s not difficult to figure out if he’s into you. He often makes the first move, although he won’t be aggressive. What he will be is over the top romantic. He’ll write you poetry, or invite you out for an evening on the beach and a bottle of wine. He’ll show you his paintings or songs. He’ll send you sweet emails about his private dreams and longings. Oddly enough, they’ll dovetail perfectly with your private dreams and longings. Is this guy for real? You’ll be swept away.
He’s a strange mix of passionate and passive. Bold and vulnerable. There’s a hint of tragedy about him — a whiff of the sad story. He’ll show you where it hurts and you’ll want to make it better. If he opens up and displays his wounds, you know he’s into you. Sex on the first date? Maybe, maybe not. Despite any “poor me” stories he may spin, he’s an intuitive seducer. You’ll get the sense that he’s open to almost anything. On the other hand, he’s so sensitive that it can be easy to say the wrong thing and have the evening take a sudden left turn. However, the game may not be over, even at this point. Sometimes Mars in Pisces uses his sadness as foreplay. Can you handle his deeply wounded soul? He’s never been this vulnerable with anyone, ever. Then again, he may decide that the evening is all about emotional bonding, and he’s just not ready to be intimate. Confusing? So is Mars in Pisces.
Mars in Pisces is boundary-less, and this can manifest in different ways, depending on the rest of her chart. After the first date, there may be no second date, even if you think it went splendidly. She may simply lose interest. It’s possible that she has no desire for a commitment with you, or anyone else. She won’t be straightforward about this. She may continue to see you, but there could be others on the side. Pisces is not a personal sign, and Mars in Pisces is driven to reach out to many, many people.
[show_to accesslevel=’All-Access’]But she also dreams of a soulmate union, so she may be looking for a commitment. A successful relationship means time alone for this introverted sign. She must have space to pursue her art, meditation, or whatever else she wants to do by herself. You’ll probably have to handle the practical details of the relationship, because her actions are not grounded in this world. She can be a wonderfully compassionate, intuitive lover who is ready to sacrifice everything, just to make you happy. Sex will involve losing herself in you, in the moment, in a fantasy. With Pisces spirituality and Mars sexual energy, you have a lover who uses sex as a way to touch the sky. But because she is so sensitive, there may also be times of complete celibacy and withdrawal. It depends on her mood.
Mars in Pisces can get angry, and this will probably be triggered by a threat to her dreams. Her anger can be unnerving, because it’s just so unexpected. Her daily M.O. is sweetly accommodating, or non-confrontational. You have no idea that she’s upset, until she lets loose. This won’t happen often, but don’t make the mistake of assuming she has no temper.
While she doesn’t enjoy being a victim, taking advantage of her compliancy probably won’t drive her away. Mars in Pisces can stick with someone for years, if her sense of loyalty has been twisted into martyrdom. She’s most likely to wander away from the relationship if you impose rules and restrictions on her. Take away her magic, and it’s over. It’s a delicate balancing act. She needs someone who supports her creativity and sensitivity, but she also needs to be reminded that she’s an adult. You need to figure out the difference between nailing her to the earth versus providing a stable platform for her to rest on.
If she does leave, it won’t happen abruptly. You’ll notice that she fades by being a little less present each day. She may escape, via drugs/alcohol, other lovers, or something she’s creating. But one day she’ll be gone, and you’ll wonder if she was ever real.[/show_to]