The Astrology of Kink: The Scorpio Taboo

ScorpioLeather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. This time, we’ll tackle the question of the ages: what makes Scorpio so sexy?

According to common wisdom, Scorpio is the sexiest sign around. Even when standing in the cat food aisle at the grocery store, trying to decide between Tuna Tenders and Liver Surprise, Scorpio exudes a mysterious, dark charisma. You can be sure that sex in never far from their minds; common wisdom is absolutely correct in this: Scorpio is practically obsessed.

Pluto, the planet that rules Scorpio, is powerful and difficult to predict. A strong Pluto often indicates several fundamental realignments of the core self, and a Scorpio at 45 may be an entirely different sexual creature than he was at 25. With even the slightest hint of sexualizing aspects (such as an aspect of Pluto to Mars or the eighth house) at least some of this self-regeneration will take place in the bedroom … or the basement dungeon.

Self-renewal requires a confrontation with the hidden aspects of human nature; therefore, Scorpio sexuality often includes elements of the “unacceptable.” Power games are foremost. The most persistently successful master or dominatrix will have the Scorpio/Pluto touch. Other signs may give a strong will to power, but Scorpio gives the intuitive insight and the desire to carry it through — this is a lover who can find and exploit every secret hot spot, whether on your body or in your subconscious.

We’re not talking about Bondage Lite, either. Whips, gags, genital torture devices, fully equipped dungeons … you name it, Scorpio is willing to use it if necessary. There’s a penetrative aspect to Scorpio, whether male or female, and both sexes tend to enjoy anal sex; if your sweet, mysterious Scorpio lady doesn’t already have a strap-on hidden somewhere in the house, just give her time.

Many also have vampire fantasies (Scorpio Venus especially) and some are into blood fetish. The double taboo of sex/death is Pluto’s domain; certain extreme practices, such as consensual erotic asphyxiation, are also Scorpionic in essence.

Of course, not every Scorpio you meet will be secretly sizing you up for a studded collar and leash. Depending on Mars placements, etc., some are fairly vanilla, if a bit overbearing at times. There’s no way to avoid the Scorpio desire to control, though, and if it doesn’t emerge in the bedroom, it’s likely to emerge on an emotional wavelength. Jealousy and possessiveness are often a problem, but the good news is that even the most stubborn of Scorpios can usually learn to control themselves instead of you, given enough time, patience, and even-handed treatment.

Scorpio is often known as “enigmatic,” but in truth, it’s one of the easiest of signs to understand: no matter how enlightened or self-controlled, some part of Scorpio will always want to own you, body and soul. The rest is simply a matter of working out which parts you’re willing to give up, when, and how. If you can come to a compromise with Scorpio — possibly one that includes nipple clamps — you could find that the relationship fulfills not only your need for an intense emotional connection, but also your deepest, darkest desires. Enjoy.

About the Author

Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?

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  1. I’ve involved with a Scorpio man, by the way I’m an Aries woman, and I’m usually the dominate one, but when it comes to him I’m so submissive to him in bed the sex is so explosive, every time I see him I want him, I don’t know how to control myself when he comes around, we always have sex and it’s always good. And I would let him have me anywhere and however he want it. Turn out.

  2. Hi dant,is yr Scorpio man from Thailand..he sounds v similar for me too,r we on the same edge…or is he fooling both of us.

  3. is it true Scorpios love Aquarius, but not vice versa. What we have here is a “stalker” situation between the two signs. I’m not really compatible with Scorpios – this coming from an Aquarius sun/moon male. +

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