Venus Retrograde in a Man’s Chart
Venus in a man’s chart represents the type of woman he is attracted to. Through its sign and house position (and aspects to other natal planets) it describes his ideal of feminine beauty. When his Venus is retrograde, a man might be attracted to women and relationships that are quite different from the norm. One man with Venus Retrograde (I’ll call him Joe) in Virgo may be attracted to women with a very specific (Virgo) set of physical characteristics, such as a particular ethnicity (different from his own) or male-to-female transsexual prostitutes. Part of the draw is his desire to “rescue” these women.
Another example is Brigham Young, President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormons). He made the Church’s first public acknowledgement of polygamy and had 17 wives (at least). His Venus Retrograde was in Gemini, in his Tenth House of public image. He publicly (Tenth House) expressed his belief in multiple (Gemini) marriages, even though polygamy was not an accepted practice outside of his church. These two examples are extreme. But in general, any man with natal Venus retrograde will pursue women and relationships that rebel against conventional society. He wants who he wants, and doesn’t care what other people think.
Venus Retrograde in a Woman’s Chart
Audrey Hepburn, gracious actress and humanitarian, had Venus retrograde in First House Aries. She created a new (Aries) standard of gamine (elegantly thin) beauty. This was during the time when standards of beauty in Hollywood favored voluptuous actresses like Marilyn Monroe. The Venus retrograde woman blazes a trail with her unique expression of femininity.
How to Tell if You Have Venus Retrograde
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Look for Venus in your chart. In this screenshot, it’s the planet glyph in green that looks like ♀
Follow the path of the numbers and the zodiac sign towards the center of the wheel. If you see what looks like an “R” with a line through part of it, then your Venus is retrograde. If you don’t have an “R” then your Venus is “direct.”
Expressing Opposite Qualities of Venus
Another thing about Venus retrograde: it manifests the characteristics of its sign differently. In the examples I’ve given above, all the people seem to be expressing some of the opposite qualities of their Venus sign. Brigham Young, trumpeting his faith and beliefs (Sagittarius) through his relationships. At first glance, multiple marriages seem to be the typical embodiment of Gemini. But remember that this practice reflected his religion, a uniquely Sagittarian concept.
Or consider the example of Joe, who embraced the total opposite of virginal Virgo and became a savior (Pisces). Kate Middleton, marrying into royalty (Leo): is this her way of distancing herself from the bullying and alienation (Aquarius) she experienced as a child? And then there’s Audrey Hepburn, with her impeccable manners that seemed far more Libran than Arian. As a child, Audrey experienced the Nazi occupation of Belgium. Her refinement could be seen as an antidote to the harshness of war (Aries).
The Internalized Journey of Venus Retrograde
Both men and women with Venus retrograde are enigmatic. People can’t quite get a handle on them because Venus’ socializing energy is internalized. They end up projecting their own issues onto the Venus retrograde person. If you have Venus retrograde and experience relationship difficulties, know that this could be part of the problem. People make assumptions about you.
But regardless of what others think, your primary goal is to establish your own, unique sense of self. You’re on an accelerated, internalized journey. For this reason, the best partner for you is someone who is self-reliant (because you are more focused on becoming self-reliant). It’s also important that your lover is evolving. No stagnant partners who cling to the status quo. But you’ve probably noticed that the partners you attract are rebels in their own way. Perhaps the relationships you get involved in are a bit more colorful or dramatic than other people’s. This is not an accident; it’s designed to push your self-awareness.
In his definitive book, Pluto: Vol 2: The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships, Jeffrey Wolf Green describes the Venus retrograde person as “defined through the Taurus side of Venus, versus the Libra side.” This is key. If you have Venus retrograde, you’re less concerned with reaching out and balancing your needs with others (Libra). You’re more concerned with exploring your own needs and self-esteem (Taurus). Selfish? Yes. That’s why you need a strong partner who’s got their own thing happening. Some of you may choose to remain single (or even celibate), which is an equally valid choice. But at some point in your life, your Venus will probably turn direct by progression (progressions are the movement of your natal planets over the years). For many people, this triggers a major relationship that helps them work with their Venus retrograde issues.
It’s not easy when the planet of social interaction hides her face from the world. Venus retrograde is on a special journey, and it will be different from everyone else’s. If your Venus is retrograde, each partner you get involved with is meant to further your understanding of the journey. If you’re partnered with a Venus retrograde person, the best thing you can do is build an independent life beside them.
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