Your Personal Lunar Phases: The Cycle of Your Relationships

moon-phasesThe Moon you were born with “moves forward” (progresses) and goes through different phases, just like the Moon in the sky. At some point in your life, you will experience your very own New Moon, Full Moon, and all phases in between. Important events in your love life often coincide with the cycles of your Progressed Moon; knowing what phase you’re in (and what phase is approaching) can be a way to gain perspective on the ebb and flow of your relationships. Read on to find out how you can work with your Progressed Lunation Cycle.

Your Progressed Lunations are calculated by looking at the angle between your Progressed Sun and Progressed Moon. Each phase lasts roughly three and a half years. There are four Waxing phases, which consist of your New, Crescent, First Quarter and Gibbous Moon. This is when your Moon is increasing in light; you start new things, build, grow and push for greater independence. Then, there are four Waning phases (your Full, Disseminating, Last Quarter and Balsamic Moon). These are the times when your Moon is growing dark;  you culminate, realize, pull back and end things. The entire cycle (from one New Moon to the next) spans approximately twenty-eight to twenty-nine years.

The phases happen at different times in everyone’s life, depending on what phase the Moon was in when they were born. For example, someone born during a Full Moon will jump right into the Waning half of their cycle, while someone born on a Crescent Moon will begin life with their Moon growing brighter (Waxing). Exactly how each phase plays out depends on what sign and house the Progressed Moon is in. But there is a general theme to each phase, no matter where it occurs in your chart.

If you’d like to know what date your most recent New Moon occurred, you can visit Astrodienst for a free chart. Go to the “Extended Chart Selection” and select the “Natal and Progressed New Moon” option from the drop down list. The green symbols for the Sun and Moon (around the outside of your chart) is your most recent Progressed New Moon. This is where your Lunation Cycle starts, even if it is dated several years ago. Sasstrology will generate a free chart that shows the current position of your Progressed Sun and Moon (your current Progressed Lunar Phase).

New Moon: Start Of A Cycle
Your Progressed Sun and Moon are conjunct (0 degrees). This is a time of major new beginnings, which are based on unconscious (or instinctive) impulses. The New Moon sheds no light, so you may experience this as a desire to move forward with no clear idea where you’re going. This is the seeding stage, or conception. For example, if you get married during your New Moon, it may be a first marriage. A new relationship that begins during this time will have some innocence to it (no matter what your chronological age). There’s a sense of romantic adventure.

Although a Progressed New Moon can be an excellent time to meet a new romantic partner, this phase can also be the time to embrace singlehood (especially if you just ended a relationship during the preceding Waning phase). But in general, your Progressed New Moon is the time to start a new chapter in your love life. Anything is possible. The seeds you plant now will be the basis of what culminates during your Progressed Full Moon.

Crescent Phase: Learning To Do It Differently
Your Progressed Moon is moving forward, 45-90 degrees ahead of your Progressed Sun. Now you’re attempting to make real the changes that started during your New Moon. It’s a learning phase, and a time of struggle. In relationship terms, this would be when you were learning how to live with your new partner. Or, you may just be starting to date again, and figuring out how to do things differently. The challenge with this phase is to resist the pull of past relationship habits, which can feel especially strong now.

First Quarter Phase: Break From The Past
This is known as the “Crisis in Action” phase. Your Progressed Moon is 90-135 degrees ahead of your Progressed Sun. This is one of the most active phases, when the struggle that began in the Crescent Phase results in a clean break from the past. You may get divorced, or married, but the basis is always a need to become independent. A relationship that begins during this time may have a rebellious quality to it. This phase kicks off with the tense energy of a square (your Progressed Moon makes a square to your Progressed Sun). It’s this tension between your needs (Progressed Moon) and how you consciously meet them (Progressed Sun) that drives you forward.

Gibbous Phase: Adjust Your Expectations
Your Progressed Moon is now 135-180 degrees ahead of your Progressed Sun. This is the fine tuning phase; you may find yourself slowing down and analyzing what has happened since your New Moon. Often, you’ll have to adjust your needs to the needs of others. For example, you may be pushing for marriage and discover that your partner is not ready. He’s not saying “No,” just “Not yet.” So you need to adjust your expectations. If you’re trying to meet someone new during this phase, be prepared for some frustration. This is not the time when you get everything you want.

Full Moon: Results

Your Progressed Moon is directly opposite your Progressed Sun (180 degrees). Then it moves “behind” your Sun, from 180-135 degrees. This phase actually begins at the end of the Gibbous Phase, and marks the culmination of what you started during your New Moon. This can be a time of clarity (your Moon is fully illuminated), but what you see depends on what’s been growing in your life. The opposition is about you and another, so the adjustments that occurred during the Gibbous Phase have now grown into the necessity to harmonize with someone else. If a relationship ends, it’s often characterized by an objective realization of what’s not working. A marriage or new relationship that starts during this phase may be approached with more maturity (as opposed to the innocence of the New Moon relationship). This is something you’ve worked for, and it will probably not be an impulsive decision.

Disseminating Phase: Sharing What You’ve Learned
Your Progressed Moon is 135-90 degrees behind your Progressed Sun. This is the teaching phase; you’re ready to take what you’ve learned (during the Waxing part of your cycle) and deliver the message. It’s is a social phase, so if you’re looking, it’s a good time to meet a new partner. But the caution here is to avoid forcing your ideas onto others. You may know a thing or two about why your past relationships didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean you need to lecture your new love interest about it. If you’ve achieved what you wanted (so far) in your love life, this phase can be a satisfying time where you share your good fortune with others.

Last Quarter Phase: Break From What’s Inauthentic
Similar to the First Quarter Phase, this phase also begins with a square between your Progressed Moon and Progressed Sun. However, this time your Moon is 90-45 degrees behind your Sun, so tension will manifest as an inner “Crisis in Consciousness” rather than an external “Crisis in Action.” You may experience a feeling that something is wrong, even if everything seems fine on the surface. Relationships may hit the rocks for no apparent reason, other than the fact that one partner is dissatisfied. In fact, something usually is wrong, but it has to do with your inner process (rather than what your partner is or isn’t doing). This is the time to evaluate your path in life. Are you happy with the direction you’re heading in? Does your partner reflect your authentic self? This is not the best time to start a new relationship, because you need to figure out what you really want.

Balsamic Phase: End of A Cycle
Your Progressed Moon is 45-0 degrees behind your Progressed Sun. In preparation for your approaching New Moon (0 degrees), this can be a time of endings. The relationship that struggled during your Last Quarter Phase may wind down. Trying to start a new relationship can be exceptionally difficult; you may want to withdraw and keep to yourself. However, you could meet a potential partner that you have unfinished (past life) business with. The purpose of this union will be to tie up loose ends. Consequently, a relationship that starts during your Balsamic Phase may end once your Progressed New Moon begins. Know that this phase is a time of cleansing, and a fresh start is just around the corner.

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About Nadia Gilchrist

Nadia Gilchrist offers over 19 years of experience in astrology. Her writings and personal consultations focus on applying practical astrological analysis to the real world. Nadia blogs regularly at Ruby Slipper Astrology.


  1. Leeat Fleischer says:

    Nadia – My most recent Progressed New Moon was at 21 Libra in my 12th house on 9/21/94 and says till 3/28/24. What exactly does that mean? Also, I found out that my Progressed Sun is at 10 Scorpio and my Progressed Moon is 14 Gemini which means they are 150 degrees apart forming a Quincunx so does this place me at the end of the Gibbous Phase? Thanks

  2. Hi Leeat,
    I would need to interpret your New Moon in the context of your natal chart, plus transits/progressions that were happening at the time. But in general, NM in the 12th House suggests a new beginning that’s hidden from public view (you would have been aware of it but others may not have been). However, the dates don’t seem quite right….1994 to 2024? If I’m reading what you typed correctly…your Progressed Moon would not stay in your 12th House for that many years. Where did you get the chart calculations?

    Regarding your current Progressed Sun and Moon, I believe you’re at the Waning inconjunct of your Full Moon Phase. When your Progressed Moon was in Taurus it would have opposed your Progressed Sun in Scorpio (Full Moon). Now, your Moon has moved into Gemini, so you’re still in your Full Moon Phase. The Waning inconjunct has a similar energy to the Waxing inconjunct (at the end of the Gibbous phase) except this time you’re experiencing frustrations related to your Full Moon accomplishments (you’re adjusting your expectations related to what you’ve already accomplished instead of what you’re going to accomplish).

  3. I neglected to mention (in the article) that there is another inconjunct that happens during the Full Phase (my attempts to not overwhelm readers with technical terms). But here is the quote from the article that describes the Full Phase inconjunct;

    “…so the adjustments that occurred during the Gibbous Phase have now grown into the necessity to harmonize with someone else. If a relationship ends, it’s often characterized by an objective realization of what’s not working. “

  4. Hi Nadia,

    I’m having the same trouble understanding this as Leeat is. Using the tab “Natal Chart and Progressed New Moon” the chart appears with the ‘green’ Sun and Moon both at 2 Taurus 57, on the cusp of my Natal 9th house at 2 Taurus 30.

    Under the birth data box, in red, it says “Natal Chart and Progressed Moon for 29 March 1986 until 21 July 2015 (Web Style/Placidus) under that is says in red, Date: 23 April 1963 20:28:40 UT Playing around with the dates using a Progressed Chart, I see my next Progressed New Moon will indeed be 21 July 2015, but it will be in Gemini so I assume my last one was 29 March 1986 at 2 Taurus 30. That is roughly 29 years apart. Am I on track here? Unfortunately this tab/chart doesn’t show you were your Progressed Moon is currently, for that you have to look at Progressed Chart.

    Sasstrology’s Progressed Moon Calculator says my Progressed Sun is 28 Taurus 56′ 04″ in Natal 9th house; Moon 23 Aries 45′ 17” in Natal 8 house. Which houses should be used, Natal or Progressed? Quite confusing.

    It appears my progressed Moon in Natal 8H Aries is about 25 degrees behind my progressed Sun – this would be Balsamic, correct?

    Hope you can clarify as this seems interesting, especially being a Cancer Moon myself 🙂

  5. @Marie
    From what I understand from your question, yes, you have correctly figured out the dates of your Progressed New Moons (both of them) from
    You can look at both natal and progressed house cusps, but to make it easier (and to relate your progressed planets to your natal chart) use Progressed planets with natal house cusps.
    Yes, your Moon is in its Balsamic phase now (it also helps if you can figure out when your Full Moon….when your Progressed Moon was opposite your Progressed Sun was).

  6. Leo Piscean says:

    Hi, Nadia. Not sure if I’m getting it right. Sasstrology chart says, my Progressed Sun is 24 Ari 28′ 41″ in 9th house and Progressed Moon is 00 Vir 55′ 11″ in the 11th house. Does it mean im in Crescent Phase, ahead of my progressed sun (not sure about exact degree it makes)…..?

  7. Hi Nadia
    I read this article with interest because I just found that it is a personal new moon for me and I’m trying to understand how I can harness this energy to change my situation. (Though my situation is more to do with partnerships, 7th and 5th house stuff/ heart and head saying two very different things). My pr. moon is in 4th Leo 25.36 and pr. sun is also 4th in Leo 27.7, and right now pr.moon is conjunct pr.sun. There seems to be such a short window of opportunity (approx 3 months).
    Also, In my birth chart Sun in Cancer (3rd house) and Moon in Aquarius 9th house. Do these later signs/houses matter in interpretation?
    Thanks very much.

  8. I am in the Balsamic progressed phase and interested in knowing how best to use this time to best advantage, as it feels challenging to accomplish my goals and desires.
    My birthday is 12/12/1952 and I was born at 7pm in los angeles, Ca.
    any information you can point me to would be appreciated.
    thanks so much.

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