The twelfth house is not usually associated with romance. Traditionally, this house has all sorts of negative connotations: prisons, institutions, infirmity, bondage, hidden enemies, isolation and self-destruction. Yuck. Not very sexy, is it? But let’s take a closer look.
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So when your partner’s planets fall in this house, there is the potential for that person to become your Ultimate Other. No, not your personal deity. Rather, they could help you get in touch with your higher self. Sounds great! But how does it work?
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@Tora;
Thanks!
Since the 12th is by it’s very nature, abstract, it’s tough to write about in down to earth terms. I’m happy that I can clarify it and show that it’s just another house with it’s own set of challenges.
I have met someone whos Sun,Mars,Mercury, Ceres are in my 12th.. My Saturn and Venus are in his 12th.
Its been the most, deep confusing type of connection, I have ever had to face..
I felt deeply connected and very confused at the same time.
Yes I had to learn about my self, so I could even understand what I was feeling.
I had to dig very deep inside myself and figure out what I want and needed..
I was an emotional wreak trying to figure all of this out.
He always saw right through me.. No matter what I did, or tried… He just saw me…. Its hard when someone can SEE you…
@Lioness
My Sun is in a male friend’s 12th house. I wonder if he is feeling the same as you. I get a feeling he is deeply drawn to me, yet its bewildering. I have read that the Sun in the 12th can be very illuminating to the house person, perhaps in subconscious way that may feel uncomfortable with yet drawn to. It seems that feelings and planets in the 12th house become all ‘misty’.
Me and my Aqua have sun in 12th. His sun in my 12th. All of this is so true. We have a very spiritual empathy connection. Every ounce of superficial expectation of my SN in Leo has died away since I met him.
Secret affairs? None we both had other people when we were broken up but we both were honest about that. No Secrets.
@NovLady..
I guess it all depends on where he is at.. Is he ready to dig deep inside his self…. If he’s not ready.. He would probably get really annoyed quickly, and want some distance.
But at the same time the universe get what it wants.. He will have to face it at some point..
@Aquatic Bull
The 12th house synastry is not about keeping secrets from each other.. You will share more with this person, than other people… You wont/cant hide your secrets from this person..
The two of you might have your own secrets together..
Or a part of the 2 of you you keep to yourselves… You dont share your experiences with other people…
The two people exists on another world together.
There is the real world, that you live in…….
Then there is this other private world that you share together…
Only these two people are apart of this world that they share together.
@Lioness
I think he must be ready because not too long ago I became unavailable for him to contact when there was no change in the betterment of our communication. When I resurfaced, his communication has been far better and consistent. I’ve relaxed more into our unusual connection/relationship and since then it has felt better. I do feel like he sees me in an elevated light and spiritual conversations have ensued.
Can anyone share any insights on Venus in the 12th?
Well m Venus is in the guys 12th.. And Well… I hide the feelings I have for him… Even f he asks me, I say Nope.. Im good no feelings…. I have a deep fear of rejection… Cant bear to tell him how much I care..
I feel like its unrequited love, and he would never care for me, the way I care for him.
I also feel like he doesnt see how much I care.. He’s totally blind to it..
@Lioness
I met a man…we both had our Venus planets in each others’ houses with our composite in 12th house Venus, as well. I wonder if these placements account for uneasy feelings…or, something more mystical.
What are your natal house placements?
@NovLady my natal placements are
Asc = Pisces
Venus = Cancer
Sun, Moon,Mercury,Mars = Leo.. (yeap that much Leo.. 😀 what can I say)
@Lioness
With that much Leo in your chart are you sure you could hide your affections? 😉
Well it’s associated with romance for me anyhow since I have Venus (in Aries) in the 12th as well as Mars (in Pisces) in 12th
Amazing stuff. I know someone with Sun and Mars in my 12th (Capricorn), and It has been EXACTLY the way Nadia described it — I never would have thought that he would be my type and that I’d be so madly attracted to him. I too had my list of 10 criteria, but they all fell away….
Hello. I am giving this a shot. My usual reluctance to place comments has been shut down for the moment. Lol.
(1) I guess, I am trying to find out whether both partners having Juno in A-his/B-her own natal 12th houses is a double whammy warning.
(2) Partner B 1st house stellium, Sun, Mercury, Venus, asteroids Pallas, Ceres, Quaoar, Ixion and North Node in Libra, overlay partner A 12th house FULL of asteroids plus Quaoar, Ixion and North Node in Libra.
(3) Partner A Pluto in Virgo 11th house overlay Partner B 12th Pluto, Moon, and Juno all in Virgo.
@Nadia
I have natal mars in Taurus in 12th house and my ascendant in gemini. He has natal mars in gemini in the 7th house with ascendant in Scorpio. His vertex in gemini mine in Scorpio. Our 12th and 7th houses overlay and although the signs aren’t conjunct our mars are really close in the overlay. He is in my dreams a lot where I wake up feeling like we spent hours together but don’t really remember what we talked about. interpretations? Thanks!
Interesting. My husband before he married me, hated writing poetry- he believes it is corny and stupid. He thinks such things are nonsense. But, because i’m a dreamy and poetic type of person, he just started writing poetry for me like crazy, even buying books and journals for me. Engraving them with my name ect. I thought omg….this man really is crazy for me. I was in heaven indeed. I must’ve activated something in him. though the mystery still eludes me. I kind of like it like that.
I totally agree with what you are saying. I’m experiencing now a relationship where I have my Moon in his 12th house, opposite his moon in 6th. He also has his venus in 12th house (but they are not conjunct). I remember it was curious from the beginning and I tried to find out some stuff about this before really involving with him. I could’t understand at the time. But now I can absolutely confirm that it’s all about the way I see through him. And it’s not comfortable at all for him, it’s as if I put him naked at a crossroad. It’s like I see everything he always tried to hide from the others. So I guess the success of such a relationship depends a lot about how mature the house person is and how much he is ready to confront these issues and change. I fear he will run away from me, as he sees me as being more mature, balanced and stronger then himself and this can be very hurtful for his self-esteem. On the other hand, he told me things he never told to anyone in his life. The example above with that piece of poetry is very good, it happened to me exactly the same. I think poetry is a very 12th house stuff. :-)) He is a poet and he never showed to anyone what he was writing before publishing. And still, even if we know each other for a very short time, he wrote some poems and showed them to me.
However, I don’t feel very well myself either. As for me it’s always hard work to get to know him, to reach him, I dig a lot and that exhausts me really. And seeing all the flaws doesn’t help me keep an aura and keep myself in love. It’s like a cold blanket every time. I sometimes feel that I see more flaws than qualities in him.
Besides, I also feel the teacher/pupil pattern between us. It’s not evident for him I think, more evident for me, being the teacher. It’s like I know exactly what he needs to learn/understand/change in himself in order to evoluate as a human being. And sometimes I feel a little obliged to help him, knowing that probably I’m the only one in his life who has this gift of seeing the things so precisely. As if we had come together to do this healing, as if I have come in his life to expand his consciousness and widen his horizon (we both have planet overlays in our 9th, my sun venus mercury, his sun mercury saturn – still for the moment I can’t feel the influence on myself. I don’t feel I have something to learn from him, maybe this will come later). That’s why I feel it’s tiresome, it’s like I drag him after me and that consumes my energy. I’m very interested to find out if in a longer relationship this smoothes out or if the situation can become more balanced. Has anyone experienced it in a marriage or longer relationship? Once these 12th house issues healed, do we have a chance to be equals and have a balanced relationship? please help with some advice.
@maya, i dont dig in that way you’re talking about, that can be very intrusive and there’s no mystery and secrecy between you. But Lioness above said it right, that the secrecy is between you and your man/or you and your partner. That is the “special” connection. It has nothing to do with keeping anything from eachother. If you’re digging and digging for something, just to dig, it is kind of self defeating. Go with the flow and relax, take it easy. i look at my husband as a kind of god to be honest. I know that’s probably crazy but he is to me, and i may look inward to myself as the one with the greatest flaws. But i’m allright with that.
If you love your guy that’s what matters, there’s peace within your heart and soul. Very hard to explain.
well, we haven’t reached the love level yet. it’s all too fresh and I’m afraid we have started wrong. his venus in virgo adds a lot of coolness in the mix and it’s hard for me to get to his real feelings, there is something that keeps me at a distance. and I’m quite plutonic in nature (with a scorpio rising), so I really long for passionate love and profound commitment. so that his aloofness is hard to take. we’ll see. I have patience, in two days the eclipse will strike and everything will be cleared.
Hi thank you for writing this article….. it explains a lot. My BF’s saturn and mars are in my 12th house. I have a Cancer rising and he has a Taurus rising. Can you help me understand how Saturn and Mars influence our relationship?
I think I finally have overlays and houses understood! My man’s Venus, although a tight 1 degree, and his Mercury fall into my 12th house. We do feel comfortable around each other, and he never asks me why I did this or said that. We also really communicate our feelings if something happened where I felt offended lol! I now read more into that Scorpio moon… but this whole time I was putting the blame on my birth control. I often do stop myself from losing control or making a fool out of myself because I step back and say to myself “wait, you’re mad about this and you live in a first world country?! These are not real problems” and then I straighten out in my situations.
Hello, I have a big question. My ex-girlfriend has mars, mercury and moon un cancer in the 12th house. She thought I will cheat on her because a comment that I did to call her attention. She made up a story of intrigue and cheating. It was so wrong that I thought it was justa pretext to break up. But also I knwo she fear abandonment. So, I didnt knwo what she was actually hidding (that she got bored of the relation or that she felt vulnerable because of intense feelings). Told her many times, if you just want to break up and dont want me, you dont need to make up stories, thsi si over. But if you really believe I will cheat you or hurt you, I will insist. I had done a lot, but she always mess any possibility of communication, even when she seems to have disposition to talk. I know cancerian people take long to let go resentment, even if it is invented. The question is when I will know when she says the truth and this is really over. I tend to think that if she is still anoyed and putting the blame on me, we have a chance of fixing things one day. But how to know with all these planets in the 12th house?
What does it mean when MY Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars and Venus are in my partners 12th house and HIS Sun, moon, Mercury, mars and Venus are in my 12th house in the pie chart ?????!!!!!
Such accurate description of what the 12th house does to a relationship! I have my scorpio Sun, Mercury and Saturn in this person’s 12th house. I felt the spiritual connection first, so strong – I saw so much potential in her, yet she resisted the connection with me, strangely I could tell she really liked me, so I persisted. Then when things finally started to click and her walls came down, she suddenly pulled away in the weirdest way, stating she was feeling inexplicably uncomfortable. The connection had a sensation of pain being away fr each other, quite karmic.
moon in 12th house or jupiter in 12th house in synastry?
My SN and I have composite Saturn in the 12th house in Aquarius.
A girl I’ve fallen for HARD, has her Venus in my 12th house. Yes, she effects me greatly. I was wondering if there can be any significant feelings on her part.
We both have an exact (0 degrees) Venus conjunct Jupiter aspect between us in synastry.
– She has a natal Venus in Virgo
– My natal Jupiter is also in Virgo AND in my 12th house
– She has a natal Venus trine Jupiter.
With all this, is it possible she could harbor feelings for me too?
Hi,
I’ve got a partner who’s Sun in scorpio in 6th house and his jupiter is R in taurus 12th house (+ chiron R aries).
My sun in taurus 7th house, my AS in scorpio 1st house, jupiter R scorpio and pluto R libra in 12th house.
So our jupiter R are opposites?
Im still figuring out what it al means.
Feel free to inform me with knowledge.
All I can say that we both felt it was kinda meant to be. Him coming from England and I live in holland.
Extra info:
His Mars in scorpio mine in libra R.
My Venus in aries 5th house. His pluto in libra 5th house (+ ceres virgo).
My moon in libra his in aquarius.
I know I have a difficult natal chart and have at least 10x R retrograde.
Sometimes it feels he’s the one and sometimes not.
He’s got 7 planets in his 6th house and have strong work ethics and I haven’t. Im 34 and still dont know what to do…
Could Mars in 12th conjunct ascendant be karmic then? How would it play out, like he wants sex but something is preventing it ?