Taurus acts like he’s interested, then disappears
November 28, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what’s going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.
As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It’s like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you’ve attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.
And when it comes to relationships, he’s no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he’ll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he’s not playing mind games with you … he’s just feeling hesitant. He’s worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.
If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who’s retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you’re not a predator. To prove that you’re not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it’s not poisonous. If he eats it, he’ll come back for seconds.
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saggi girl, really happy for you!!!
let’s just continue supporting each other and we would be able to get through love lol. with or without the bull.
looks like things are doing good for everyone…or maybe holding our breaths?
i think most of us here really knows how the taurus mind works, which makes everything frustrating…because it’s up to us if we’re up for their games or not
“it’s up to us if we’re up for their games or not”…. I think that sums it up in a nutshell…
wow, it has been quiet here for a few days…it seems no drama at all… which is good… i think..
No drama for me….my bull is grazing and eating lol… No raging here lol
well mine finished his furniture shopping, finally. damn…imagine i’m gonna do that again one day if we ever get a house together *rolleyes*
a song pop up in my head and i think it is the perfect song for taureans…
if you know the song “not the doctor” by alanis morissette…i picked my fave lines lol
“I don’t want to be your babysitter
You’re a very big boy now”
“And I don’t want to be your other half, I believe that 1 and 1 make 2″
maybe you need a new taurus…
I never had interest in more than one man at a time, but now I do.
Lessons I learned from a Taurus: it’s not a relationship until he says it is, so don’t feel bad or have a need to explain yourself if seen with another man:) If your worried about what he thinks of you, then he hasn’t taken time to get to know you. Women that date multiple men don’t have to worry about looking like a slut if men have no way of telling other’s how your cookie feels;) Don’t answer your phone after your in bed. No need to think about your relationship cus he’ll do it for you. I feel like not answering the phone too, now that I have other people on my mind;D
More lessons will come later. I’m in a very nice situation right now and am not mad about anything.
oh yeah, these are just duh things I’ve learned, nothing said is for any specific person, just me!!
haha take advice about a Taurus from a Taurus (ala me), this is how we are, we don’t like commitment, we don’t like people relying on us and expecting things from us (explains why he disappears for weeks at a time) but part of us does want to be with someone (explains why he comes back into your life after disappearing for weeks) In our own little world it is BK all day every day, we want to have it our way or we don’t want it at all…have fun dealing with a Taurus, we are stubborn and refuse to lose.
hmnn new taurus = fresh…mr. naughty by nature? lol
‘we want to have it our way or we don’t want it at all’
thats really frustrating right?
The focus should not be on the bulls and their shenanigans. The focus should be on the bigger picture and what you want as an individual. If you emphasize on what they are doing wrong, you are going to enhance the BS between you and your bull. If you focus on making your dream relationship into a reality, it will happen. Negativity begets negativity. Think about it. I am not saying we should not talk about the negative things the bull does, but to take the spotlight off his awful behavior. You can make them “see.” It takes careful planning! Make a list of what you want in a relationship. Write a comparison list of what you are actually getting. Compare the two. Count your bessings for the things you are getting. Find a way to get what you want by learning how the bull works. Honestly, most of that has been done on here! Count your blessings for this and go back and read!
It there is no establishment of a relationship, you will have to ride the wave. The quickest way to get a relationship commitment is to let him “take the lead” on calling it a relationship. Taurus is ssssslowwwww. Be patient, if he treats you well and shares personal information with you. This could indicate that is telling you these things because he wants to see how you support him. Once, you support him in a way that he is comfortable with, he will eventually move things to the next level. You must be strong, emotionally, as well. As we have seen on this blog, how they don’t take well to someone emotionally breaking down.
Resident Bulls, correct me, if I am wrong on any of this..
AlovesME, IMO, some things you say are contradicting. One one hand you say focus on the bigger picture of what you want as an individual in a relationship with a Bull; but then you say count your blessing for what ever little you may or may not be getting. The two don’t go together. If you have a list of the things that will make you happy,the things that you’ll tolerate, etc, with this Bull, then why settle and be grateful for the little things he’s giving you, when that’t only a portion of what you want?
Again, IMO, Bulls want you to be there ONLY when they are ready. Yeah, they may discuss their plans with you, want you to be their support system, but remember it’s all a two way street. Why continue to support them when they aren’t supporting you. It’s give and take, not give, give, give.
I think their foolery(?) should be discussed and “focused” on because if you don’t think about it and put it all together, you’ll (we) be fooled; fooled and blinded for the little they do give; or the little time they may put it. Again, it’s a two way street. You have to look at the whole picture, the good, bad and ugly. They all go together. We always focus on what the Bull wants; what they will or will not accept, how they don’t like emotional breakdowns…if they aren’t willing to understand and accept that you may be emotional for whatever reason, do you think this one-sided “affair” will get better or even out? It may and it may not. But when it comes to them, it seems like they’re the exception to the rules; like you have to tip toe around their feelings cuz they can’t and/or aren’t willing to handle a particular situation.
My 2 cents!!
my bull is selfish.. plain and simple……he is having the financial difficulty right now and his mom just passed away… i felt his pain, actually i do. but was that my responsibility to be there for him for financial support whenever he is in need of it? is that what bull needed? everytime, he is in trouble or in need of something, you have to be there for him regardless??? i am a little bit tired of it… he called me last night to say good night and told me that he has financial difficulty for this month to cover some expenses and next month would be back on his feet and could generate surplus…but i did not responde to it as i used to do, and i became silence…then he was silent too. then he did not say anything and just said good night and gave me kisses as normal, but i can sense that he was kind of disppointed…, then i called him back in 10 minutes, he turned his phone off and has not been turned back on yet. I just checked his phone.. it was still off… what is wrong with him???? is he manipulating me???? as i do not like that attitude at all…. i am not his mother or family memeber, why i have to be there for him all the time when he needs me, i think he expected too much from me… well, he was there for me but i never needed him financially, when i was moving in, he helped.. when i had a little problem with my health and went to see doctor, and he offered to go with me… well, i guess i just do not need him in a way that he needs me… but i am really tired his selfishness… he only sees what he needs and i know he is really in a tough situation right now but my question is: was that my responsility to help??????? was that girlfriend supposed to do??? God, i felt really terrible…at the same time, i felt bad for him to go through all of this..
Saggi girl, my point exactly!! What about your needs? What about being there for you, totally!! Not just when he feels like it. I agree, many are too selfish, and it eventually becomes intolerable. It’s a two way street and they forget that. Turning off his phone…he’s probably being spiteful. And as usual, when he’s over what ever he’s feeling, he’ll call like nothing ever happened. Are you kidding me???
precious,
i agree with you…sometimes, we tip toe around their feelings but we can only do it temporarily not permanently. if we want it to be a permanent relationship, we have to let them know who we are… if we really are the people they wanted in a long run.. we are woman, we have our ups and downs and our emotional breakdown, too bad if they can not handle it as we handle their bull s*** all the time… i agree that it was two way street…but we have to make sure that our expectation is realistic..like my case, my guy is broke and having financial difficulty and i won’t expect he buys me something he can not afford, and a lot of times i pay when i go out.. but at the same time, i expected him to support me emotionally as i am woman in general, and i know they hate drama queen, and i used to be one but i learned to be more independently but at the same time he needs to be considerate about my emotional need too… i think for this part, he is getting better..
Resident bulls….like tht….
if we kno ur history…(if uve been a gud girl or have been passed around like a bottle of beer on a hot summer day in texas)….we will treat u tht way…cuz before weve evn met u…we have a picutre of u aready….tht contributes a lot towards…a longterm relationship…
Ladies…have u been paying attention?? there is no “quickest way” to a bulls heart….only his bed….heheh
but yeh if u have a clean history….(regardless of ours)u will have a gud chance of a long relationship….
” think their foolery(?) should be discussed and “focused” on because if you don’t think about it and put it all together, you’ll (we) be fooled; fooled and blinded for the little they do give; or the little time they may put it. ”
sorry ladies….we are careless…how many times shud i say this….readup readup!!
hey look at the brite side….IF u do find a Taurean who wants to settle down with u…he will be a VERY devoted one….u wont hav to be afraid about infidelity….
Precious,
update: i texted him last night like” i can not believe you just turned your phone off like that” right after he turned off his cell phone but the message has been waiting to be sent until a few minutes ago( i guess he just turned it back on), he texted me back like” was time to sleep and you had nothing to say last night.” can you believe it,,, BS..
Saggi, I do belive it..lol. That’s how they do.
@Wulkure,….”IF u do find a Taurean who wants to settle down with u…he will be a VERY devoted one….u wont hav to be afraid about infidelity”,
I totally agree, and I know it all takes time, but basically for me, have some consideration for my feelings. PERIOD!! I also agree that they want and maybe to a certain extent “need” you to have a clean slate, because you are/will be a reflection of them.
@Wulkure,
a question for you… ” do you expect your girlfriend to support you financially when you are really in need of it? if she does not do it, will you feel very bad or think bad of her? does it have anything to do with the long term relationship expectation?” well, hope you can clarify… as you are the only bull guy here… i know people are different, but could you???
Maybe I don’t understand, because I rarely had any issues with my bull. When I let him know I am not having it, he straightens up and doesn’t do it again. Mine has demonstrated time and time, again that he intends to continue our relationship. It progresses and it keeps getting better. We have had a committed relationship for about a year, now. My bull is 41 and he has always shown me his intentions of wanting to result in marriage with me. I guess he had to test me to see what kind of woman I am. I did the same for him.
I guess if you don’t know the status of your relationship, then it makes things a little more different.
Ladies I am officially horified by the Taurus dude. I texted him a naked pic of himself last nite and asked him to delete any pics he has of me. Then this morning I get a response who dis. I text back via pic mail u are disgusting please delete any pics you have of me and I state my name. Then 20 min later my phone rings its a girl she asks who is this I hang up not wanting to play the game 5 min later I say lets get this over with. I call back and no answer. Then she calls me back I ask for him she said she doesnt know him I ask how long has she had the phone did she just get the number she says no. Then I say just in case you do ask him to delete them. Gross If that mf post any of my body shots online. I will mos def put him on youtube. He really needs not to play petty childish games. I really think this fool is disturbed. You really dont want to test a scorpio we always get revenge……….
AlovesME, I don’t think it has anything to do with status of your relationship. IMO, it comes down to common courtesy and basic consideration. I think with Bulls, sometimes, they are so confused by their own thoughts, that their words don’t match their actions. It’s like an internal struggle they’re going through; what they want, need, but yet are afraid to admit it let alone really act on it.
And personally even aside from that, I want a man and or friend that’s going to consider my feelings in the things they do. If I had a female friend that only came around when they need me but weren’t there when I needed them; or who borrowed money from me but couldn’t reciprocate, then I what would I need them for. I’d disown her just like I would a Taurus, or any man for that matter. We all need some type of support system, but again it can’t be one sided.
Amber…im sad tht uve had such a abysmal experience with a taurean….the guy is sick….admit him to an Asylum…or get him a vet….
cuz tho this rule is mine…i thot other bulls felt the same way…
Never trouble an ex….nevr call back after a confrirmed break-up….and never ever mention the exgf’s names….against my rules….
tht dude is destroyin our respect….
but i have a feeling he wont put them up on line….i doubt he wud do tht….rest easy Amber…
saggi girl, hun. i think most of your prob with your bull is about financial help from your side.
you should really talk to him about that. you need to confront the issue cuz he keeps sweeping it under the rug and next time he would do try if you would give in. this is what my bull does to me, but not really on financial terms, about other stuff. that’s why we fought a lot recently but we all settled our differences because of a stupid starbucks analogy haha.
if you want to get a better response, wait until you see each other in person. do not talk over the phone or email, cuz he would only disappear and come back when he thinks you forgot about it. my bull doesn’t disappear though, cuz he knows i can beat him on that game. so whenever i don’t respond at all, he is the first one to say, “okay let’s talk about it.” or sometimes i would ask
questions in an email and he would reply only to a single question which isn’t really my main concern. when he does that, i ask the same question until he replies to it lol. i don’t care if he thinks i am nagging. he hates it cuz i tell him, just answer the question…no need to explain why you come up with that answer lol.
so talk to him when you meet. make sure you both ate lunch or dinner already before you talk lol. they are calmer and would likely respond positively rather than being defensive. my bull is now aware why i get angry at him. he becomes defensive, but i wasn’t angry at all, just asking a question. so now whenever he thinks i will get angry, he would call and say sweet stuff then tells me he already did what he’s supposed to do. i’m really glad of this progress cuz also yesterday he told me he tried to eat a chinese dumpling that he didn’t want to eat before. i guess we won’t have to fight again when it comes to food lol.
i told my bull, i know how you are and i know what i am. you want things that you are used to. if they don’t go that way, you won’t have anything else, even if it is almost similar or even better. it’s just that you are afraid to try! well you know how arians like taking the risks. then i said, i’m your alternative coffee and vanilla drink. i may not taste the same to the one you are used to but you have no choice! this is me! get over with the bitter taste or spit it out.
don’t be afraid to say what you want, girl. just be aware of the consequences. if he leaves you, then that only means he cannot handle you…cuz you know yourself you gave your best for him. that’s the only thing i don’t regret about giving. you do it not because you want to receive something back, you do it because you like doing it. having said so, i’ve stopped doing the things i really don’t like doing, just to please him. if he appreciates those little things, he would do something back for you. however, in your guy’s case…i think he thinks it’s enough for him to do those “little” things then he asks something from you which you consider “big.”
@precious
i agree, they are confused as hell lol. if my bull didn’t tell me about the things bothering him last week, i would not understand that his brain is like a hamster running around the spinning wheel at night hehe. he projects a laid back persona, but he’s really confused right now. what made it worse, i think he’s undergoing his saturn return. he’s 28 and turning 29. i’m 27 but i’ve gone through a lot of hurdles last year so i think if there’s anything i really need to focus during my saturn return, it wouldn’t be my career.
i just found out why me and my bull keeps clashing on decision making but we stick together. his venus is in taurus and mine is in aquarius. but our moon is compatible — friendship-wise: mine is aquarius and he’s gemini. all my other planets have libra in it. one of our houses has aries-leo in it, so we both like to dominate when it comes to decision-making. but it’s getting better now, he’s taking the initiative to make the decisions.