Taurus acts like he’s interested, then disappears
November 28, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what’s going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.
As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It’s like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you’ve attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.
And when it comes to relationships, he’s no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he’ll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he’s not playing mind games with you … he’s just feeling hesitant. He’s worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.
If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who’s retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you’re not a predator. To prove that you’re not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it’s not poisonous. If he eats it, he’ll come back for seconds.
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saggi girl… you are a handful!!! that's meant with luv tooo lol….
precious,
i know and i won't take it wrong way… thanks for your comment. i know i need to stop and I will… as actually i got on my own nerves too…
thank you, sister..
lovetrue:
too much dramas i created… i am tired of myself too.. handful…hehe..
i kinda understand where you are coming from. it's only been recent since your guy finally announced that you too are officially a couple. plus he's not yet divorced. probably, you're being impatient to know if he wants to take it to the next level and the insecurity eats you up.
"don't put your eggs in one basket," that's what my old taurean buddy told me. funny thing, he also wants out in his marriage but he doesn't have the heart to leave his wife. i think the wife had gone nuts because of his behavior lol. she's a cancer according to him, a real "cancer" too, he said lol.
hang in there, girl. i know you know what to do, you just love your guy so much.
I see now, how my bull comes off confusing. They say one thing and do another. I can honestly say I can see the love in my bull’s eyes. I know it takes time for then to get it together, but as long as we have the bond we have, we will continue. I am learning to pay him no mind.
another aries girl,
i got what you were saying… it is just not my personality..if i want to be out of a relationship and then i will do it right away.. …if not, i will think that he does not want to be out of it at all…
it confused me a lot, his wife was living with her boyfriend and she is a cancer too. but she just talked to him about divorce thingfrom time to time but never really pushed for it… i do not know what she is thinking…maybe getting back together someday???
yeah that is really weird. we dunno her side of view because you haven't met her. i read your last post, i think you should start talking to him slowly. but after the drama you had, let yourself cool off a bit and ask him about the divorce. you have to do it in some way that he won't feel your pushing him. it's difficult to describe and do, even myself i have a hard time voicing out my feelings and opinion because he would be defensive sometimes. it helps that he knows how my personality is.
if you can remember before, i had a discussion with my boyfriend about marriage and moving in. i'm the type who holds onto promises. i told him if he's taking me for a ride, then there's no need to prolong the agony. i told him to set me free and we would both be happy. if i stay with him, he has to give me a reason why i have to and why he thinks he's the one for me. he made me a promise, and that's what i've been actually waiting and hoping for.
i was scared that he would leave and all the taurus disappearing act will happen to me once he does. you know how they are, "out of sight, out of mind." i told him my fears, he asked me how can he assure me. i just asked him to tell me i can hold on and everything would be okay. so he promised an engagement, something for me to hold onto, it will be like 1-3 years from now. we have an agreement that the latest time for me is 30 lol. cuz my family has history of having a difficulty in giving birth during 30's.
you just have to approach him with the right timing, with an open mind, with a calm heart. if he becomes defensive, don't flame it, let him talk and talk back only when he is done. whenever i do that, he cannot accuse me of nagging. cuz i keep quiet until i have composed myself. when i'm provoked, that's when i feel rage and i can't stop talking lol.
you can do it, but like i said, take it one step at a time, you just have been officially dating for him. for now, get busy with yourself and your career. if you can take care of yourself he will be inspired and do well in his job. his financial insecurity is the number one factor here. they tend to want all of the things they want in life done first before they could go back to you. that's why they keep you for now, they don't want somebody to have you while they do that. selfish, yes, but like what the things mentioned about them, you can trust them when they devote themselves to you. i guess your guy is just starting to realize that. just be firm of your principles and your wants. don't compromise if you think it's too much.
Another aries girl, i know taurus does not like to be pushed but it has been too long… he was telling me that once he created a little base and then he will do it… but i did not get it.. what the financial base has anything to do with the divorce… they do not have kid together…no financial support was needed from both sides..he told me that he's not in love with her anymore and does not want the marriage back, then what he is waiting for… it has been over 2 years of seperation.. they do not communicate very often, just once in a while to call to say hello.. either she calls him or he calls her. He told me that last time that he heard from her was 3 weeks ago..
i decided to give him a few months and then i am going to push it… see what will happen…
what do you think??
If I may jump in here, saggi,
Your bull seems like the kind of Guy to commit, solely to you. However, I think that some of the drama pushes him away. Once the drama drastically decreases, you will see more of the bull. Remember, he is ultra sensitive. The more he is comfortable with you, the more he will be around you and he will push for the divorce himself. Remember, they are sloooooooooooooow to move. Try and be patient with him. Trust me, he will come around.
ALovesMe,
i know he seems like that kind, but i think i need to work on my patience. i have been very patient with him and i can not imagine where i got those strength and patience to stay this far…as i am always on fire… we discussed last weekend and i told him that loving someone is not easy at all, he agreed with me..he said" love itself is a difficult matter.'
since my roomate was gone for a trip to italy, this home is all to myself now. he decided to stop by on saturday afterwork and then leave on sunday afternoon.. i will see how it goes.. hopefully there would not be any dramas then..
how was your bull??haven't heard you talking about him for a while…stable?
another aries girl,
thanks for your thought on my issue, it is hard to on my side as i do not have patience..remembered i discussed with him before we became official like over 1 month ago, i told him that my dad was not happy about the fact that i was dealing with a married man, and then i asked if we need to take a break until he resolved his issue, then he assured me that he will do it as soon as possible but not the moment as he was dealing with his mom's sickness at the time. then he told me that he needs to deal with his mom first..and then to create a little financial base…he kept repeating it to make me stay… then i listened to him but right now, his mom passed away, and he is working on his financial…but it seems too slow for me…i just do not understand why he needs to get his finanical secure and then push for divorce… i just did not get it , or maybe i am not a man or not a bull… it does not make sense to me…
well, i know he is not a bad person and like ALOVESME said that he seems like the kind of guy to commit solely to me, but i just do not want to confuse myself and my friend…even though he told me that he was not in love with her and no longer want to be with her, but until he does it eventually, i still believe that he gave 2nd thought on his marriage.. he does not mention too much about his marriage before, when we first started dating and i can see that he still cared deeply about her.. sometimes, he seems confused about what he wanted before, but right now, he seems certain what he wanted… but being slow to get it done, or maybe he thinks it is not that important to get it done as we both have someone already in life.. but it means a lot to me if he gets it done..
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