Taurus acts like he’s interested, then disappears
November 28, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what’s going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.
As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It’s like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you’ve attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.
And when it comes to relationships, he’s no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he’ll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he’s not playing mind games with you … he’s just feeling hesitant. He’s worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.
If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who’s retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you’re not a predator. To prove that you’re not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it’s not poisonous. If he eats it, he’ll come back for seconds.
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broken hearted: I’m very sorry that you have to go through this. I know a lot of guys like this, and they’re not even Taureans. :S
If he’s been closed off for over a month, you need to move on. It’s hard, and it’ll be hard to get over everything, but it won’t last nearly as long as he’ll drag you around for. These boys are probably just the exception to the sign. Not all of them can be that horrible. These are just the worst of the worst, or girls that are frustrated with this particular sign at the moment. That’s why I’m here
Aries you don’t have to push away this new Taurus crush because of his birth sign. If he’s cute, enjoy it! He could have other attributes and influencing signs that will make him amazing for you.
I’m still going through it, Pisces. It’s only been a few weeks, but it seems like the longer its been, the more I hurt. I’m a letter-writer, so I’ve been keeping a journal. I kind of go back and forth between being really sad and angry. I know I’m not going to give him a letter unless its really really good… and right now, I don’t want to hurt any more, and if I gave him what i thought and he didn’t respond and whatnot, that would just make me feel worse.
It’s hard, but I think it’s better just to leave them be. I just keep telling myself that he can’t miss me if I’m around… Even though I have so much to say. When I feel really down, I just come here and post… makes me feel better. I don’t know if this helps you, but know that everyone on here is here to be your friend and support you! Good luck
stubborn bull,
i have a question for you..what do you think it means when your taurus boyfriend told you that he was so sure that he loves me.. but was unsure that he wants to spend rest of his life with me as it was a big decision. he also said that he does not want to give me the promise he was unsure of and it won’t be genuine..he said that the only thing he can be sure of is that he loves me.. but he also said that he does not want to hurt me as i told him that i stopped communicating with my parents as they do not approve of him for taking so long to be sure of things…” then he suggested that i gave him 6 months.. if he was still unsure of that, i can leave him.
i asked him if he loves me, why not sure of the commitment? if i love someone, i will be sure that i want to marry that person. But he said that these 2 things was not necessarily go together.. He was sure of his love for me but was unsure that if he wants to or ready to spend the rest of life together.. he had a failed marriage once.
he also does not suggest to see someone else.. he said that he did not want to as he considered he is with me and we are together..
what do you think?
saggi girl.. he sounds like he’s full of excuses. sorry to say that but he reminds me so much of my taurus ex
STUBBORN
I did wear a sexy outfit. I would catch him looking at me, through the corner of my eye. It just seems like all the bonding we would do, stopped, almost abruptly. We talked about tying the knot, there is no more talk of it. Every now and then he says things like he’ll buy me a huge house, on the lake and I better not give “it” to someone else. ????? I see this man every day. Is he that comfortable that he feels he should not give me compliments? I need understanding, stubborn.
i hear you stubborn and jules. horrible is not the word, i’ve still got a few choice words that will probably get deleted if i use them. tomorrow makes it two months and i think reality is finally setting in and it hurts, that’s why i was so angry and venting yesterday, i was so much worse in person lol. i keep looking at my phone or hoping ‘maybe today’ this is so damn pathetic, i’ve never let a man have a hold on me like this, im a very guarded person. i’ll move on in time but the next man is gonna have a hell of a time with me because my trust is gone. if he calls again, i will tell him off, i can’t just let it be, it’s not in my nature. 4yrs later and worse case scenario—- lets’ say its another woman, he will have a piece of my mind even if my thoughts linger in his head for a few seconds or even if it is not another woman i will still tell him off.
the problem im having is not knowing, i need closure, or it remains an open wound with a temporary band-aid, yeah sure moving on will get easier day by day, but that ache the band aid is covering remains. I write too jules but the pages of my journal are blank right now, i don’t want to remember this heart ache, i just want it to go away. and it’s the same with me jules, the longer it goes on without anything spoken, it still hurts.
“I just keep telling myself that he can’t miss me if I’m around” I’m going to repeat that line, when i get the urge to pick up the phone to tell his a$$ off.
i should block his a$$ from my facebook page too.
A broken hearted pisces2,
i am sorry that you have to go through the hell like that and i was not in a position to give out any advice as i was having problem with my bull too. well, we are still together but things did not turn out in a way i was expecting to be..
but i think i can relate. so, it has been over 2 months of losing contact with your bull? you did not speak for 2 months?? that is too long. what has happened? did you guys fight? is that the reason he lost in touch with you??
no worries saggi, i just post, if someone listens, good… if not, that’s okay too. my friends are all married and don’t have time for the drama of singlehood.
No fight at all…no disagreement, he’s just disappeared. he made plans to go out with me, no call no show, it’s just nothing. saw him in january, then he took two weeks to call from calling every other day, ohhhh my bad he did visit the last week in feb ‘a drive by’ didn’t remember because he stayed for not even fifteen mins and he didn’t try to touch me, i had to ask several times for a hug, and a closed mouth peck on the lips when we said bye… ohhh wowww, maybe it is someone else, i want facts my mind is just filling in the blanks with assumptions. i jus wanna know why, im gonna go jog now, so i don’t punch a whole in the wall, i’ve never been so angry, i don’t know what to do with all these emotions and i sure as hell don’t wanna overeat and gain weight if he’s out with some skank.
saggi!!!
that’s the same bullcrap my bull told me before. he told me i can wait til i turn 30 and see if he still wants me. like WTF!
i’m so thankful my girl got me to jog for the last 1 1/2 hours. She told me the best revenge is self improvement and if he calls invite him over, do a little dance and tell him to get the hell out and that i never wanna see him again just as he thinks he’s gonna get some lol, she’s stupid, i’m not gonna do that.
Well I’m calm now, goodie, i can sleep tonight
a broken hearted
Wow thats really crazy what he is doing to u…mine did the same….was very sweet n then disappeared….havent heard a word fr him since end of Jan…..i picked myself up of course n hv digested that hes not coming back….oh hes ok tho…i found some activity on Fb where hes posting on this chic status….telling her he hopes she feel better n let him kno if she needed anything as well as plans to have their kids out together for a day n last but not least a reminder to let him kno where she will be celebrating her birthday which is next week by the way….maybe she will post pics lol…..
So yessss ladies when the bull disappears n say hes busy…he most lightly busy with another gal…..move on my love…u r strong enough to do so….hes cruel to put u through this n he knos perfectly what hes doing n how rude hes being….seriously stop putting yrself thru it….its not healthy….n yes i agree that u should improve yrself…its the lesson we hv to learn.
Saggix
hey hon sounds to me like hes not sure what he wants…..he obviously has feelings for u but might be keeping his options open…Its also possible to love someone but dont wanna commit to that person…think of me for instance….that T was very important to me….but i wouldnt want to commit to a man that puts himself first….its incompatibility…..u need compatibility for a commitment…
Well why make someone a priority when ur only an option to them…just my opionion luv..take care…
Virgoloves is totally right! If he’s busy, it’s probably with another girl. They are truely afraid of confrontation, and if they’re not interested, or found someone else, than they just leave. I know you need that closure, I understand completely! You have to confront him, regardless of how hard it might be even to see him. He needs to know that he’s being a jerk! You shouldn’t have had to wait two months to hear about it either. Obviously he has some sort of trigger that tells him that he’s hurting you otherwise he wouldn’t have done a drop by. Him being cold and cut off emotionally speaks louder than anything he would ever have to say. We are very touchy people. If we want someone we have to have that physical contact. I’m contstantly touching. Even friends when they’re talking I have to touch them every now and then. For him not to give you a hug willingly without you asking or even a kiss says alot! If I could, I would hug and kiss all my friends all the time to show them how much I care about them… but I guess that’s kind of weird, and maybe they wouldn’t understand it. So tell him off whether there is another girl or not, you shouldn’t have to sit around waiting for him. I know what it’s like to wait for a phone call or email, it sucks. You have to find something to occupy yourself so you don’t drive yourself crazy waiting on him! Sometimes guys can be such jerks, regardless of their signs!!!
So I should just call? I’ve got my head on right now and I’m not as angry. I’d prefer not to wait for my birthday call either.
I think you should call him, and if he doesn’t answer leave a message explaining how much of a jerk he is and is being.
You shouldn’t wait until your birthday for him to “maybe” call. What if he doesn’t and you have a bad birthday because of it? Don’t let him ruin your birthday! You tell him off now and let him know you don’t want him anywhere around for your special day to ruin it!
That way when it comes to your birthday you can have that closure and maybe be able to enjoy your night and have some fun!!!
i called but i just left a message yesterday. he got back to me this afternoon, i thought he would take longer too. now, i’m in a weird place even though it took him a awhile, he was finally open with me. he said he loves me BUT (the big ole damn BUTTTTT!!!!!!!!) his family wants him to be with someone else, they choose someone else for him. but nothing is permanent (yet), he’s trying to talk to them but it’s taking some time and I’m like wtf??? i asked y he didn’t tell me before, he said he just couldn’t. can this be true??? i’m feeling like a wuss because i do believe him, yeah and you guys can call me a silly little girl still in love now. i’m just gonna take a few steps back from this and him. i’m just numb, it explains y i haven’t met his whole family too.
Pisces 2, first of all how old is dude. I’ve been down this road where my guy’s momma was trippin, not just on me but any woman. Also, he’s obviously feeling this other woman because he’s considering it. You shouldn’t hold your breath and just let him be. Trust me if God wants this for you he will come back for good. Also, having this mindset makes u stronger cuz when he comes back he’s going to have to prove himself cuz he will feel your strengh and know you mean business. Remember strength can’t be faked, especially with Taurus.
he’s 27 and i’m 29. i get ‘weak’ when i fall back in. and i’m trying hard not too. i’ve got alot to think about. i will let him be, i am a strong woman, and i don’t want to completly push him away either, feelings just don’t go away like that, they might get dormant, but they are always there.
he’s 27 and i’m 29. i get ‘weak’ when i fall back in. and i’m trying hard not too. i’ve got alot to think about. i will let him be, i am a strong woman, and i don’t want to completly push him away either, feelings just don’t go away like that, they might get dormant, but they are always there.
I have recently met a Taurus man. We emailed off and on for a few months, then he sent me his phone number and we texted intensely (fun, sexy stuff) for a week or two, IMing each other every day, we were both kind of addicted to it, both said so. We meet up, I was just getting over being sick. I made him promise me he would not be angry with me if he got sick (he’s a athletic trainer who can’t take time off). He laughed and swore he wouldn’t hate me if he got sick, and said, “I’m not afraid of your germs!”.
We meet, and kiss, and lay on a blanket watching the stars, we both said we were exactly how we pictured the other…
We part, and continue texting, emailing…for 3 days. Then…Nothing! I’m pretty sure he got sick, and just is too pissed off about it to talk to me. He hasn’t returned my email, my phone call or text. I made sure to keep it to one, “How are you feeling?” a day. Not trying to bother him.
After 3 or 4 days off the grid, he actually signed in, but didn’t bother to read my note, or return any correspondence.
Wtf?? There is nothing obvious that I did wrong, or said wrong, IMHO. Help?
Hey ladies, talk about drama going on here lately. a broken hearted pisces2, I don’t even know where to begin and not repeat what hasn’t been said already.
All I can tell you to just pray about it though and don’t stress yourself too much.
I wouldn’t worry about it Sarah. He might be just playing it cool. A few days isn’t something to worry about. Maybe one of the resident bulls can give you more insight. Did you give up the cookies under the stars too???
Everything with my T is good, I can finally say I have no complaints.
Hope everyone has a good week ;p
Sarah
I smell something fishy especially abt him not reading ur note…..pay attention to that.
BrokenheartedP
My ex T was engaged to a girl he had obviously made up his mind to marry n his family didnt like her…..he didnt care…he wanted to be with her anyway n would hv married her had she not cheated on him….of course no two ppl r the same but about that family picking a girl for him sounds like bull to me just so he can buy some time until he chooses one n forgets the other…be careful…..these guys kno how to play very well n r smooth with words.
Hey Lovetrue
Im Happy things r great with u n ur T….:)
Mine texted 2day. I sent him a cute club pic yesturday. He is so predictable…
Ladies we need to let them come to us. Entice them occassionally what I have been doing is texting him one a week. Initiating contact once per week send him a photo they are visual. Men and women bulls I know are into photography. I send mine sexy pics not too sexy and he always wants to see breast and face. Play around with your guy entice tthem. I notice they dont like drama but somehow drama is going on in their lives and they like to talk about themselves. I agree with STUBBURN. About how you must make them desire you…. Its important. Today I kind of say a jealous side… He stopped immediately,. but I think his feelings are starting to develop. Date other people ladies …Keep your heart open,,,, And to the ladies that spend on their guys……Wallets closed/LOL…. no SERIOUS WE GET CRAZY I CAN SAY WE BECAUSE I KNOW I LOST IT….AFTER V DAY IM DONE WAITING…..ITS TIME TO MOVE ON…..SINCE I HAVE BEEN KEEPING AN OPEN HEART I HAVE HAD MY PICKING AND I DONT GO OUT ALOT…..IM ALWAYS HOME…….LET HIM CALL THEY ALWAYS DO …….RELAX GET YOURSSELF TOGETHER,,,,AND MAKE SURE NEXT TIME YOU SEE IN BROKEN OR SARAH YOUR ON TOP OF IT…JUST ENJOY YOUR LIVES I WASTED A YEAR WAITING DONT WAIT DO LIVE………
Thanks, gals. I probably jumped the gun, but seriously…I have had to wait out other guys for too long, and didn’t want to just be passive this time. Hope I didn’t kill my chances. I’d like to think that if it’s meant to be, he’ll come back around. Maybe I could’ve handled it more cool…but at least I was honest.
“I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”~Marilyn Monroe
oh! and we kept our clothes on. He was kinda shy and we both seemed happy just chillin. I was wondering when he was going to kiss me….so I finally said, “Can I kiss you…” but before I got out the “you”..he pulled me on top of him and kissed me long and passionately…He was indeed the most sensual kisser I’d kissed in forever.
Amber, I delete posts that are in ALLCAPS.
Ok KISHNER Thats cool. Well let me start over. Okay so yest I texted him in the morning asking if he thinks Im attractive. He goes : Very much U R beautiful: So I say thanks Im trying to host an event and everyone wants me on the give promos. Thanx and Besos. (kisses) He goes Well just remember ur my women if men try to talk to you. I text ok. Then he goes Im serious. I text back I know. Then he goes Do you still love me I was driving so I couldnt respond so he text again ohhhh.no Then I go 20 min later I will aways love you. Then he goes ok, Then I say do u. He says I will always no matter what you are stuck with me. A couple of hours later he asked me to go somewhere with him today. I told him I couldnt. What do you guys think…. I feel like he is unsure still. My friend told me I should get the upper hand and dismiss him. I feel like wow he finally came correct… But then again I think he collects people and Im just one that he doesnt want to go anywhere. I feel like he knows I was on the verge of moving on so he did this! WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?
There IS a lot of drama going on here! I get busy for a few days and the wall is full of more Taurus drama lol!
BrokenHeartedP, I’m so sorry that this man of yours can’t live freely. I’m sorry his family is so old-fashioned. He will be miserable if they choose for him. If it’s you that he wants, he will ignore everything his family says and wants to be with you. If he isn’t willing to make that big leap for you… then why should you give him your heart?
Amber, just move on. You don’t need to have a guy tell you you’re beautiful… and if you do, you shouldn’t have to ask for it. Sadly the longest relationship I ever had was with a guy who wasn’t as attractive as the guys I usually used to date. He bought me flowers after ever disagreement, he told me how beautiful I was everyday, and how lucky he was to be with me. I married him, and he was a Taurus too!
Sarah. Leave him alone for a bit. Don’t write don’t txt don’t call. Nothing! When he txts or writes you, play the busy card. Don’t respond to him right away. Even wait a few hours. Those hours will feel like days to him if you wait too long. He won’t be upset with you if you got him sick. Maybe he is sick but he promised you he wouldn’t be upset with you if you got him sick. If he doesn’t write or contact you within 2 weeks of your “date” leave him alone and move on… even two weeks is a bit much.
Of course we are visual! I’m dating a guy purely on his looks, and I tell him all the time. LOL. He is beautiful, but so weird. I’ve even told him that I zone out and ignore him and just study him. He was a model so he knows he’s pretty… and he knows that I’m only with him as arm candy. Now… just to find some glue to shut his mouth up!! hahahaha
Stubburn he always tells me that. I was just wanting to know if it was good enough for film. But I get you hun thanks.
Thanks, VLT. It’s been a long ride with my T.He still works my nerves lol and I just pick my battles. It’s funny I’ve been getting hit on more lately. Almost everyday and all I’m going to say is if I didn’t have conscious (however it’s spelled)…. one of the guys looks like Idris Elba… if you know who he is- nice cup of chocolate for me when my T leaves me alone and thirsty lol.
Update: Sh!t does happen. I’m glad I didn’t get on his case, I left it in his court, and told him that I’d like to know what’s going on when he gets a chance to get a hold of me. Tonight I got a solemn email. Yeah, he got sick, but immediately after he got better, he got a call that his best friend (many states away) died in a car accident. He immediately flew out of town, and he’s been in a introspective state since he returned. I could feel his care with his, “Life is so fragile Babe.”
Good luck everyone.
Lovetrue
haha u go girrl lol….
He came over when he said and spent the night I put him to sleep……..tee hee….He slept like a big baby snoring I didnt even know he snored looks like I really did it this time..HEHEHE …………..Best of luck ladies…….Oh and he is responding to me everytime now………Calling back…..whatever he all of sudden is making time……..Its cute I think he knew I was moving on]
Hey All!
Its been awhile and I am so sorry that things are not working out for some of you. Please remember to always love yourselves, first and foremost.
My taurus guy and I are still together! We are sill learning and loving each other. Is it easy? Lets just say we are both willing participants to be together. I still look forward to seeing my love every day. Please understand how these men love you. I know its hard to see they love you when they are quiet or stone faced or going through it. its especially hard, when they are going through some hardship and they seem to lose focus of you and focus on their issues. once you understand they do this you should understand that they are not losing interest in you and that they want to make things right with their situation, so they can then be happy with you. you can teach your taurus guy to overcome this by talking to him in a subtle way. eventually, if they are not so stubborn, they will take your advice.
i am only speaking to the ladies who have an actual relationship with a taurus. once they are in the relationship with you, then you can work it, so you two can reap the benefits of a loving relationship.
ladies who are still questioning the bull…stop killing yoursevles and recognize the situation for what it truly is. if he is not putting in the time and its some 6 months down the line and you are still only seeing him once a month and he calls you once a week, something is not right. don’t try and make him jealous(or any man for that matter).
be real with yourself and with him. keep it moving if necessary. either he will come around or he will not be phased by anything you do.
these men take plenty of time to understand and its not easy. if things gradually are moving along, then you are making strides. these men are very direct with wanting to be with you.
one more thing, playing games is the quickest way to get a man to leave you alone. be direct and for real
You are so right ALOVESME That’s exactly how I got mine. Started causual and recently started to progress they just have to decide they want you. Mine has been trying to keep promises and stopped the no call no show I accidently called mine last nite and then I texted him it was an accident he goes ok baby immediately…
I always accidentally call and text mine. I am so in love with this man, I tell you! I really wish everyone here could feel what I am feeling, now.
Be patient, amber. He will come. I remember I used to get crazy when I didn’t hear from him or didn’t see him. I would get crazy! All I wanted was my bull. Now, its been going on two years and I see my lover/best friend every day. I can’t stress it enough: Be patient. Don’t rush a good thing!
It really was an accident. A couple of months ago I was trying not to HELPME…But I give in to him everytime I cant help myself……….Tell us more HELPMENOW…How did you to meet, get together, how long did it take for the real commitment, etc…………….Im so curious/nosey
Although we are still not Having sex, like I want to, I am glad I see him at least 6-7 days a week. Honestly,I am frustrated with not Having sex because he is letting his issues get to him. Stubborn, what can I do? Amber, i mean no harm, but, please scroll back for details how we met.
These Taurus guys know how to keep a girl open! Please stubborn, tell me how to open my bull back up!
Hi again, girls and guys. I read somewhere that a good way to open a Taurus, or really anyone up, is to find things to talk about with him that have to do with his interests. A couple nights ago, he and I met up again for the 2nd time. This time at his house. We sat on the couch together, in front of the tv (not too direct) and I saw his guitar sitting on its stand. He had once said that “soon (he’d) play his guitar for me”…so I asked him to play. We sat there for almost 2 hours…him serenading me with all these gorgeous acoustic guitar sounds, and occasionally making eye contact. He’s shy, and I like him that way, it’s so sweet….even if it sometimes leaves me wondering what’s on his mind.
After that, we talk some more and flip thru some of his channels…he rested his foot on my foot and then encourages me to sit near him. He puts his arm around me, soon oblivious to the tv, we kiss a lot *and stuff* and eventually sit holding each other again, chillin. All I can think about is that I want him. And now…but he’s so chill about it…we don’t even bring up “going to the bedroom” or anything. Though he had to get up at 7:30, he let me stay from 9pm to 2:30am..and before he got up from the couch, he sat at the edge and put his forehead on my knee for a minute. I don’t know why, if because of tiredness or something else. He gave me lots of hugs and kisses on my way out (with his signature slap on my ass) and walked me to my car.
I really don’t think he’s the type of person to lead me on, but he really seems sincere. I’m enjoying him so very much!
Wow. Amber. I was thinking the same thing. Whenever I’m with him…he disarms me, and I get WAY too hot around him. I had to stop us kissing for a moment and just sat and said, “I need to chill the f**k out” with a smile, catching my breath…he just smirked, probably puffed up a little by his obvious power over me. If I had my way. We’d have been throwing each other against the wall over and over… he just seems to like to keep it at a slow sensuous simmer and I can’t keep from boiling over! *sighh*
Hehe…thats what we do Sarah…reel you in with our sexual charm….sounds like your bulll likes you for good….
Hey Help_me….you need to not come at him like a hungry cat….lead him on…turn him on slowly…remmber nothing puts us in the mood than a cute shy kinda woman who likes to be dominated….denies that she dosent want it….but we can see rigth through, otherwise…
Comprende?
i had the same situation, high school friend, emails for 3 weeks and he begging to see me, making me promises, etc. and then we met up late friday night, i drove to his house 4 hrs. away, he’ was alittle shy, went to bed, had sex, next morning he didn’t hardly say anything, sat on watching tv with blanket and i tried to make conversation, he was vauge and i mentioned i could visit alittle that day. he never responded, so i got up and said i think i’m headed back now. he got alittle short, and said well i don’t know what you were expecting, you just drove up here last night (he’s been begging to come and even earlier that day)at the last minute. needless to aay, it upset me and i said just forget and when to my car. then we talked breifly about, me coming up there, small talk, anyway after about 20 minutes, we decided this was the first time and we were both nervous couldn’t belive we didn’t laugh and have fun, like we have with calls and emails, so we would try it again and then i left.it has been a weeweek and i haven’t heard from him. i’ve sent emails/calls no response, i’m sure i won’t either …bull. my question is do you think he even listened to messages or read emails, there were alot. thanks.
Conitinued fron above , i mailed a card, thinking of you, thanks for everything, etc. do you think he’ll read it. after reading all the comments, i realized to sweet tender child like action is just a taurus trait,i’ll have to think on this in case he calls back. gee i thought it was special.
conitiuedfrom above (this has been the worst week) i forgot, he did call that monday night and left a message, that after i left he he thought to himself “i don’t know about the whole thing” and he did it wasn’t me but him, and that “he would get over what ever it was”. i’m ok with that. like i said he never returned calls and i left real nice things, couple nice posts on fb wall about him, to let him know “no” hard feelings. and i finnally just mailed a card today and to let him know everything was great, i’m not mad, sorry for calls and mails this week (not sure if you read them or listened to messages) he is always welcome to get in touch sometime, etc. i am worried if he’ll read the card, i’ll never know, just like all the calls emails. i ahve been crazy!!