Committed partnerships are the domain of the 7th House. Look at the sign on the cusp and there’s your future husband/wife. Right? Not quite.
Think back to all the committed partners you’ve had. Notice what they had in common. Now jot down those qualities and put them aside. We’ll get to them in a minute…
Not Just the House of Relationships
The 7th House is more complicated than it seems. Although it’s represented by peace-loving Libra, traditional astrologers referred to the 7th as the house of open enemies as well as marriage. Think of how intimately an opponent engages your emotions and how bitter things can become when a partnership goes awry.
So it’s not all about loving the other person. Actually, it’s not all about the other person. The 7th is naturally ruled by Venus. The glyph for Venus is shaped like a hand-mirror. Where is the 7th located? Opposite the 1st House, which represents your identity. And this is what the 7th truly represents: a reflection of your own qualities that you project onto others. Anyone who is symbolized by your 7th is going to be the recipient of your projections.
How the Seventh House Operates
Let’s say you have Cancer rising. This would put Capricorn on the cusp of your 7th. You love those dependable, disciplined, ambitious partners. Let’s put Saturn (the ruler of Capricorn) into Taurus in your 11th House. Now you love those dependable partners who know how to make money and are prominent in the community. But here’s the thing … these desired qualities actually belong to you.
It’s your 7th house and your Saturn in Taurus. You bring that stability into your life by building stable partnerships.
This works with less desirable qualities. Maybe you have Pisces on your 7th House cusp and Neptune (ruler of Pisces) in 3rd House Scorpio. You may get involved with dreamers and artists who blow you away with their intense romanticism. The problem is that they’re missing in action half the time. Absent mentally or physically due to drugs, booze, or wanderlust. They’d rather be floating off in search of cloud nine.
Guess what? That utopian dream belongs to you and you’re living it through your partners. Your thoughts (3rd House) are never settled because you fantasize (Neptune) about the perfect relationship. You know (3rd House) that reality can never measure up, so you get involved with those who can’t commit. Please note that I am not saying it’s your fault if your partner is an addict. You are only responsible for one person’s behavior.
The qualities represented by the 7th House are often unacknowledged. Positive qualities, if discovered, can be tapped like an underground well. Negative qualities will act like hidden stumbling blocks.
This is why it’s so important to own these qualities, positive or negative. Take another look at what you jotted down after reading the first paragraph of this article. Those are your projected qualities, for better or worse.
Acknowledging the Projected Qualities of Your Seventh House
[ad]Ok, so you know what your projections are. Now what? Let’s break it down. Let’s say you have Aries on your 7th House cusp with Mars (ruler of Aries) conjunct your Moon in 11th House Leo. You end up in dramatic relationships. There are gorgeous emotional fireworks.
If the heat between you and your partner isn’t cranked up to full boil, forget it. You fall for the performance artists because they make you feel alive. But is the roller coaster worth it? Somehow it becomes all about them—their needs, their demands—and you start to feel like the under-appreciated mother.
It’s time to acknowledge that you are a drama queen (even with that balanced Libra Ascendant). You need (Moon) to be recognized as special (Leo) and will take the initiative (Mars ) to get that recognition. You want to be king or queen of your social circle (11th House). So do it. Be it. Join an acting troupe, become the leader of a community group. Whatever.
Take that passion and creativity and put it to use in your own life instead of living it through your partners. Once you stop projecting your need for drama you can experience the positive aspects of this energy in your relationships. A partner who you can be proud of (Leo). Someone who takes the initiative (Mars) to nurture (Moon) you.
The great thing about the 7th House is that its projected qualities are right in front of you. All you need to do is open your eyes and acknowledge them.