The Astrology of Honesty: Indicators of a Trustworthy Partner
You’ve read about the astrological significators of a deceptive partner. But what about romantic partners who are honest and trustworthy? They do exist, and there’s even some astrology to demonstrate it. But just as the indicators of deception are not guarantees of shifty behavior, the sign/planet mixes described below do not guarantee a flawless partner. Also, this is not a definitive list; please comment on any combinations you feel have been excluded.
The Straight Shooter: Natal Mercury in Aries or Conjunct Mars
Aries/Mars is about direct action. Mercury (intellect and communication) in Aries, or conjunct the Aries ruler (Mars) has no patience for deception (or niceties). These people are interested in the quickest route from A to B, and this is reflected in their blunt speech and straightforward thinking. If you want a lover who lets you know exactly what they think, this is the one for you. But if you want a partner who phrases things politely, or carefully mulls over what you’ve said, this person might be too direct for your tastes. Note that the Mercury/Mars conjunction will take on the energy of whatever sign it’s in. Someone with Mercury/Mars in sensitive Pisces will communicate more gently than Mercury/Mars in detached Aquarius. But the push to get their ideas across will always be there.
Perfectly Honest: Natal Mercury in Libra Aspecting Saturn
When natal Mercury is in Libra, the emphasis is on balanced, objective communication. But this planet/sign combination can result in someone who is so eager to please that they avoid unpleasant facts. However, aspects from Saturn (even the hard aspects) seem to inject a shot of reality. Communication may be stiff at times, but Saturn’s energy helps these people deliver the truth. They are honest, because it’s important for them to say the right thing. There is a seriousness (Saturn) about everyone being heard and treated fairly. This partner will tell you the truth (if you ask), although they may not immediately volunteer it if they think you’ll be hurt.
The Solid Citizen: Natal Moon or Venus Aspecting Saturn
Natal Venus (how love is given/received) or the Moon (needs) aspecting authoritative Saturn has a poor reputation in love. But once a Venus or Moon/Saturn person trusts you (and gets past their Saturn-induced fears of being vulnerable) you’ll have a potential lifetime partner. Saturn’s energy of restraint, seriousness and maturity can result in tremendous loyalty. These people take relationships seriously (which is why they don’t make commitments easily). The Moon/Saturn partner needs dependability to feel safe. To the Venus/Saturn partner, love and loyalty go hand in hand. If their expressions of affection (Venus) or emotion (Moon) are a bit restrained, it doesn’t mean they’re not feeling it. These natal aspects work in any signs, but earth and/or water will be particularly binding.
The Good Witch: Natal Moon in Scorpio Conjunct, Trine or Sextile Jupiter
People associate Scorpio with manipulation, but the flip side can be fierce loyalty and a compulsive hunt for the truth. When the natal Moon swims in Scorpio, there is a non-negotiable need for profound intimacy in relationships. Harmonious aspects to optimistic Jupiter add perspective, elevating the emotions and decreasing the temptation to slide into the Scorpio pool of manipulation (if things get rough). Scorpio’s tremendous power is used for good; there is a need to manifest (Scorpio) positive (Jupiter) scenarios. Scorpio’s intolerance of anything superficial anchors the Jupiter influence, and keeps it from galloping away into avoidance. These partners are on intimate terms with the Shadow, but are able to approach it with faith.
What They Feel Is What You Get: Natal Mercury Conjunct or Trine the Moon in Earth Signs
When communication (Mercury) harmonizes with emotions (Moon), these people tell you exactly what they’re feeling. There’s a flowing conduit between lunar instinct and intellect, so they know what they feel, and feel what they know. However, Mercury and the Moon are both changeable energies, so there is a risk of fickleness. But grounding these planets in the earth signs anchors rapidly shifting moods and ideas. Factual Virgo, structured Capricorn or reliable Taurus means that these partners will express themselves with a minimum of fuss, and they’ll mean what they say. Not only can they not be bothered to lie, it’s just too distracting (for Capricorn); messy (for Virgo); or complicated (for Taurus). This is not a combination that produces flowery speeches or dramatic declarations of love, but you can take their words to the bank.
The Clear Flame: Personal Planets in Leo
The caveat here is that it’s best if the personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) don’t make hard aspects to natal Neptune, Uranus, Jupiter or Pluto. Leo is a fixed sign (loyal), despite its flirtatious rep. It’s also a childlike sign, meaning partners with emphasized natal Leo can be surprisingly innocent. It doesn’t occur to them to lie, manipulate or hurt you. Underhanded tactics are ugly, and these partners want pleasure, not ugliness. Plus, they consider themselves to be better than that. I’m sure some of you have been burned by Leos, but in general these people are high-minded and generous. They are also upfront about their desire for your admiration. If you give them unadulterated love, they’ll return it, times ten.
In reality, every sign has the potential to be a trustworthy partner (or a flake). But some natal energies are more likely to result in honest behavior. Whether it’s because the person can’t be bothered to lie, needs reliability to feel safe, or considers themselves above all that, the end result is someone you can trust.
Related: Saturn’s Version of True Love