In relationship astrology, people often zero in on the hard synastry connections. There’s something to be said for giving yourselves a heads up about problem areas, and it’s tempting to become embroiled in the challenging energies (especially when you’re going through a rough patch). But let’s not forget about the positive inter-aspects. Smooth connections are part of what drew the two of you together in the first place, and they don’t disappear during the tense times. This article will purposely avoid the high-octane synastry aspects (Venus conjunct Uranus, Pluto conjunct anything) in favour of the positive but quieter connections. These are just as essential, but can be taken for granted. In order to give your relationship the best chance of meeting its potential, it’s important to work with all the energies.
Person A’s Sun conjunct Person’s B Venus
The Sun’s ego and purpose is the manifestation of what Venus loves. This is a classic “I love you for who you are” aspect. From the Sun’s perspective, life is sweeter and more validating when they are around Venus. This is especially true when the Venus person is male and the Sun person is female (she embodies his feminine ideal). It’s difficult for the Sun to go wrong, because even the most irritating facets of their sign are tolerated by Venus. For example, Sun in Aquarius conjunct person B’s Venus will ensure that Venus finds the Sun’s quirkiness and independence very attractive. When the Sun becomes antisocial or distant, Venus may be frustrated, but will accept it as part of the Aquarius package. If this aspect goes both ways (each person’s Sun conjuncts the other person’s Venus) you’ve got a relationship where mutual adoration is a major component. A Sun/Venus trine creates a nice, affectionate flow, but the conjunction seems to embody the strongest love and acceptance.
Make the most of this aspect: It’s not unconditional love, but it’s as close as many people will come to experiencing acceptance of their personal essence from a partner. The Sun should be aware of their Shadow, and not take advantage of Venus’ ability to love them for who they are. They can use this as a prompt to become the best version of themselves. Venus can use the Sun’s strength and encouragement to power up their Venus-themed goals (finances, creative work, self-esteem). The Sun can be their cheerleader.
Person A’s Jupiter conjunct or trine Person B’s Moon
Jupiter is the Moon’s anti-depressant. It’s very difficult for the Moon to be morose when Jupiter is around (especially with the conjunction). Jupiter opens the Moon up, which can be especially appealing to Moon signs (like Scorpio or Capricorn) who may have trust issues. The Moon instinctively harmonizes with Jupiter’s ideals, and activates their faith in the relationship (and in life). But unless Jupiter is emphasized in person A’s chart, the Moon is likely to feel this connection more strongly.
Make the most of this aspect: Allow yourselves to hope for the best. When things become tense or overwhelming, know that the two of you have a deep well of optimism. While it’s true that looking on the bright side won’t solve all your problems, focusing solely on what’s wrong will drag you down. A Moon/Jupiter connection in synastry is an inoculation against pessimism. Depending on the Moon’s sign and natal aspects, they may be resistant to Jupiter’s efforts to cheer them up. This is when it’s important to remember that not all couples have this valuable aspect. Faith in the future can be the difference between moving forward together, and giving up.
Person A’s Mercury conjunct or trine Person B’s Mercury
Harmonious aspects between Mercuries enables communication that’s so smooth, you may not even notice it (unless one or both people have difficult natal aspects to their Mercury). There is a commonality of thought that makes it natural to agree. Conversations may be a bit boring, especially if there are no hard aspects from other planets to add friction.
Make the most of this aspect: There’s something to be said for being on the same page. One thing you can count on is that ideas and plans will be the areas where you can support each other. Know that if there are difficulties in other areas of your lives, you can always talk to each other; communication is ground zero for dealing with difficulties. There’s something reassuring about being with someone who understands where you’re coming from, because they’re right there with you. Don’t you think?
Person A’s Saturn trine Person B’s Personal Planets
I chose the trine because the conjunction can feel restrictive. A trine from person A’s Saturn to person B’s Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars ensures that Saturn will support Person B (in the area symbolized by their personal planet). For example, Person A’s Saturn trines Person B’s 1st House Mars. Saturn supports Mars’ initiatives to propel their identity out into the world, while focusing Mars’ energy with gentle guidance. Saturn will take on the role of the mentor in that area.
Make the most of this aspect: Don’t take Saturn’s support for granted. It can be easy for Person B to just assume that Saturn will always be there, in an old faithful sort of way. And Saturn is inclined to always be there, because he feels responsible for person B. However, this kind of support is rare, and without it, the ability for the relationship to manifest into anything solid would not exist. Saturn aspects are a relationship’s foundation. For the Saturn person, know that you are the relationship architect. However, it can’t hurt to allow Person B to inject a bit of energy/levity/beauty into your routine. If trines from each person’s Saturn go both ways, you probably don’t think about your mutual commitment, because it’s just a fact of life. But even facts of life can wither if they are taken for granted. Mutual Saturn contacts can become stale and rigid over time; it’s worthwhile exploring if your partnership rules can evolve, because what’s rigid eventually breaks.
Obviously, this is not an exhaustive list. I picked the aspects that I feel make a major impact, but also tend to be overlooked. None of these connections can guarantee that a relationship will last. But if you nurture them, they will certainly enhance a relationship, and provide areas of comfort and harmony. And sometimes, that’s what you need to keep each other going through the tough times.
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