Are We in the Same Relationship? When the Composite Chart Affects Each Partner Differently

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Two people can be in the same relationship, but experience it in totally different ways. When assessing astrological compatibility, synastry (comparing one partner’s chart to the other) is ground zero. But once the partnership is established, it’s revealing to compare the Composite chart to each natal chart. This will tell the story of how each person feels about the relationship — whether it’s comfortable for one and restrictive for the other, or whether the relationship means the world to only one partner.

Composite Aspects to the Lights, Angles and Nodes

The first thing to look for are aspects from Composite planets to natal angles (cusps of the 1st, 4th, 7th and 10th Houses), Sun or Moon (the lights) and the North/South Nodes. These are major players in the natal chart, and if Composite planets aspect them, the relationship will have a significant impact on that person’s life. The type of impact will depend on the aspects and planets involved.

For example, if the Composite Sun conjuncts one partner’s Moon, the relationship’s purpose will have a direct impact on their emotions. It will feel natural for them to be in the partnership. Other aspects to the Composite Sun (like a square from Composite Saturn) will also hit the Moon person, perhaps making them feel locked into the relationship. But the point is, the partnership will hook them on a gut level. A conjunction from Composite Uranus to one partner’s 4th House cusp (home, family and childhood) suggests that the relationship will stir up their domestic life. Uranus can be illuminating and disruptive, so perhaps this relationship will bring up repressed, childhood memories. On a positive note, it can liberate them from limiting attitudes (rooted in the past); maybe the partnership dynamics make them aware that there is a different way to approach marriage. But first, they will be forced to confront the ways in which their parents’ marriage was unhealthy. This will be upsetting, but ultimately freeing (Uranus). Depending on how attached they are to their version of the past, they may leave the relationship instead of leaving their past behind. Or vice versa.

Aspects from Composite planets to the natal Nodes will also have a profound effect. Conjunctions to the natal South Node suggest that the relationship was part of that person’s past life, so it will feel familiar to them. Initially, they may be drawn into the union. But the risk with South Node contacts is the Node person may have a limited future in the partnership. At some point, as they evolve, they might feel that the relationship is holding them back. Conjunctions to the natal North Node indicate that the relationship has more room for the Node person to grow. Being part of this couple will prod them forward. But if they’re not ready, they will balk at any continuing involvement. On the other hand, they may feel that the relationship is an essential part of their future. Either way, Composite aspects to the Nodes will be felt on a “destiny” level.

Composite Aspects to the Other Planets

After the major players, look at aspects to the other personal planets (Mercury, Venus, Mars) and Chiron. These Composite aspects will still have a strong impact (although not as strong as the Sun, Moon, angles or Nodes). Composite Mars (initiative and sexual energy) conjunct natal Venus will be “hot” to the Venus person; they’ll feel sexier and more willing to open up in this particular relationship. But at the same time, they can be overwhelmed by the aggressive chemistry, especially if Composite Mars is pumped up by aspects from Composite Uranus or Pluto. Composite Neptune (dreams and illusion) squaring natal Mars can make the Mars person feel like they are chasing after an impossible dream. They may feel unsure when they try to take action (or have sex) in the relationship, and their energy level may be lower (Neptune can weaken Mars).

Composite planets making aspects to the natal, outer planets (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto) will be felt, but not as intimately. Composite Mercury opposing natal Saturn (limits and authority) might suggest that the Saturn person can’t fully engage in conversations within the relationship. The exchange of ideas may seem silly, annoying or even threatening to them. Composite Moon squaring natal Pluto suggests that the the relationship’s emotional climate will be challenging for the Pluto person, triggering their anxiety about losing control. However, if Saturn or Pluto is not emphasized in the natal chart (if they’re not tuned into the energies of these planets) these Composite aspects may barely cause a ripple.

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When One Partner Feels More

The person who receives stronger hits from the Composite chart will have more invested in the relationship.  If Partner A’s Ascendant is conjunct the Composite Sun, the relationship will strengthen their identity. Throw in Composite Venus square their natal Neptune, and they’ll view the love (or what they think is love) in the partnership as ideal. If Partner B only receives a trine from Composite Jupiter (expansion) to their natal Mars, the relationship will give them an energetic boost. But they won’t feel it on the profound level as Partner A. When the relationship ends, Partner A may be devastated, while Partner B only feels regret.

Validating versus challenging Composite aspects is another scenario. Partner A gets a supportive trine from Composite Saturn (relationship rules) to their natal Sun and Moon; the inherent limits of the relationship steady them and give them a purpose. But Partner B has Composite Saturn squaring their natal Venus; they feel inhibited (from expressing their love and values) by the partnership’s limits. Partner A will probably be more willing to stick it out when the relationship hits a rough spot. Of course, you have to take each partner’s natal capacity for commitment into consideration.

If one person feels the relationship on a deeper level, there’s nothing you can do to change this. You can’t manufacture Composite aspects to their chart. Same idea if one person feels less comfortable with the relationship; they will continue to feel that level of discomfort for the duration of the partnership. But having this information (especially in the early stages) can tell you a lot about how each person will function in the relationship, and about their continuing desire to be part of it.

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About Nadia Gilchrist

Nadia Gilchrist offers 15 years of experience in Evolutionary and Traditional astrology. Her writings and personal consultations focus on applying astrology and tarot readings with a clear, practical approach to the real world. Nadia blogs regularly at Ruby Slipper Astrology.


  1. Thanks, Nadia, this is fascinating! Just a quick look at my friend’s and my charts and the first thing I saw was saturn squares for both of us. No wonder! I’ve noticed that locked in feeling and it seems to be mutual. There are certainly a lot of saturn lessons, healing the past and finding future direction in this friendship. I keep seeing a past life connection too, signs of fatedness or destiny keep coming up. From this, I figure saturn etc must be bringing tough lessons, why not stick with it and see what they are. Great insights here, I’ll enjoy pondering this. I might post again if I have any questions, as I am guessing there is nowhere online we can look this up?

    Thanks again! :)

  2. Hi Nadia,

    Quick question. Does this work for natal sun/moon midpoints conjuncting composite luminaries? How about the following,

    1. My natal sun/moon midpoint conj. composite Sun (4 degrees)
    2. His natal sun/moon midpoint conj. composite Moon (4 degrees)

    Additionally, something strange between Saturn and SN. My natal saturn conjunct composite SN and composite Saturn conjunct my natal SN. Both exact. Does that mean anything? Was he my ‘boss’ in a past life…:)

    Thank you for your time?

  3. Yessss! Thanks Nadia. The composite chart isn’t something I’ve paid much attention to but I’m glad that I did. My bf’s and my composite sun/mercury conjunction is conjunct my first house SN/Mars conjunction. I *definitely* had a feeling of having ‘known’ him already, when we met and got (quickly) close. Maybe this explains that!

  4. Quick question on those saturn squares, please could you tell us how it works the other way around?

    In our composite chart, there is a stellium in 2H of 5 planets (neptune 4, venus/mercury/sun 10, saturn 12). My natal saturn is 10 deg pisces 5H, and his is 13 deg virgo 10H.

    Also, he has natal mars opposite composite north node. Are all aspects to the north node positive?

    Composite jupiter in cancer 9H is exactly opposite his natal sun capricorn 2H and close to his mars.

    Composite neptune is conjunct his natal venus. I think that’s a nice one. :)

    Still looking at this. Hope it’s ok to ask. Thanks, Nadia!

  5. @Kisses
    I’m not aware of any specific resources online for Composite contacts to natal charts, but if you Google it you might find something. Mutual Saturn contacts can certainly make both parties feel locked in. Fro past life contacts though, it’s all about the South Node and/or 12th House.

  6. @marion
    Yes, I’d say it would work for midpoints to Composite luminaries. The examples you listed suggest each of you finds areas of the relationship (it’s purpose and the emotional climate) “complete” you, or make you feel whole. The two way Saturn/SN contact for you suggests you feel responsibility for the relationship, and also that the relationship was part of the past life rules you had to live under. But that doesn’t imply what you were to your partner…for that you need to look at the contacts between your chart and his chart.

  7. @megan
    The contact to your SN definitely explains the familiarity .

  8. @Kisses
    If you mean natal squares to Composite planets, it suggests that the person whose Saturn is squaring the Composite planets might find the energy of that particular part of the relationship is intrusive, or pushes against their boundaries. Yes, the NN is usually positive. If his Mars is conjuncts the Composite NN, his initiative is what would drive the relationship forward, but only if he wanted it to (free will).

  9. Nadia this may be a silly question … when only one partner in a relationship has those south node markers, does it indicate that only that person is dealing energetically with the past life connection, even though the presence of undeniable SN contacts point to both of the partners having been involved before?

  10. Thanks, Nadia. :) Intrusive and pushing against our boundaries makes a lot of sense. We both realised we couldn’t continue the way we were and it was time to grow up a bit. There’s a lot about transformation and healing in our charts.

    His mars is opposite the composite NN. Him being in the driving seat is spot on though. I noticed that early on.

    I found one or two links in Google, thanks, although they were quite general and I didn’t find the other aspects I mentioned. I keep seeing past life connections in both our charts and now I found some more, SN and 12H. He did seem familiar the day I met him. I’m curious to see where all this is going!

  11. How do I know that my natal planets have aspects with the composite planets ??
    For example : My Venus is in Aries .. Composite Sun is Aries . Conjuction there ?
    Oh I’m so confused .. But this is soooo interesting . Would you mind clarify my doubts ?
    Thank you very much

  12. I’m trying to understand the composite reading because somehow the synastry aspects can’t quite explain my relationship with this man . In our composite reading we have

    - Sun Leo 5th house
    - Moon Aries 1st house
    - Venus Aquarius 11th house
    - Mars Leo 5th house
    - Jupiter Libra 7th
    - Pluto in Scorpio 8th House
    - Chiron Leo 5th House
    - Psyche Scorpio 8th House
    - Adonis Libra 7th House
    - Casanova Aries 1st House
    (just to name a few)

    Now I’d like to fully understand the impact it has on each of us …
    I am Sun Taurus, AS Gemini, Moon Aquarius, Venus Aries, Mars Leo . He is Sun Scorpio, Moon Gemini, Venus Sagg and Mars Cancer .. Nor this or the synastry explains this deep (too deep) , intense, life changing bond we have with each other …
    Love this site :)
    Thank you !

  13. @megan
    Not a silly question at all. It means the SN person will feel the the past life issues more directly than the other person. There are specific lessons the SN person has to learn through this relationship.

  14. It’s only a conjunction if the planets are within orb of each other (close to the same degrees). For example, if your Venus is at 2 degrees Aries and the Composite Sun is at 20 degrees Aries, they are too far apart to be conjunct. But if the Composite Sun was between 0-5 degrees Aries, it would be close enough to conjunct your Venus.

  15. The above comment is addressed to Mariana.

  16. @Mariana
    Please order a consultation if you’d like to fully understand the impact it has on each of you.

  17. How can I order a consultation ?
    Thank you very much!

  18. Thank you, Nadia…

  19. @Mariana
    Depending on what you’re looking for, Sasstrology offers Compatibility Reports (see the tab at the top of this page) or you can visit my website (

  20. @Mariana
    …also, there’s a ink right in the article for Sasstrology’s Composite Reports (which will analyze the Composite Chart) although I’m not sure if it compares it to the chart of each person (Jeffrey could give you more details on that).

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