Of Magic and Muddling: The Moon and Neptune in Synastry

Synastry—an essential component of relationship astrology—reveals where the potentials and pitfalls exist between two people. It’s often through our most intimate bonds that we truly come to know who we are, and gradually grow into our best selves. As we really let it sink in that all external form is a reflection of one’s internal world, we can harness the mirror magic that intimate partners provide.

Perhaps no planetary combo yields more potent magic than that of the Moon and Neptune in synastry aspect with each other. This pairing adds pixie dust to a couple’s relationship. Then again, is it pixie dust or smoke? The nature of the synastry aspect is greatly helpful in answering that question. Bear in mind, with all things Neptune, there is a greater-than-average propensity towards delusion and wishful thinking. Seeing your partner clearly through Neptune’s shimmery veil? Not likely. But the effort may be so lyrical that it inspires poetry. Or tears. Oh dear. Here are some classic Moon-Neptune synastry combos, along with their potentials for magic and muddling.

Conjunction

If you want to bring on the magic, look no further than a Moon-Neptune conjunction. Couples who share this synastry are so in tune with each other that they share a psychic shorthand. They experience a deep emotional and spiritual bond, enhancing each other’s intuition. This is the couple who literally think and/or say the exact same words at the same time. Geographic distance cannot undo the mind-meld these two share. In fact, for the Moon-conjunct-Neptune pair, distance adds to the sweetness of yearning for each other. They are so enchanted with each other that they use creative collaborations as an ideal outlet for their feelings and talents. And those creative undertakings are magic, in and of themselves. Here’s where the propensity for muddling comes in: melting so deeply into each other, these two can lose their individual connections to self unless each attends to their own identity and boundary issues.

Square

Did someone say boundary issues? That’s a particularly muddling component of those who share a Moon-square-Neptune synastry aspect. Walking through water whilst wearing layers of gauze—that’s one way this energy is experienced. It’s all rather confusing, much like a bewildering dream one remembers in a groggy fashion. The term check your blind spot is a fundamental requirement for the couple who navigates this planetary combo. Use that mantra when determining how truly viable the relationship is. Likely one partner is in deeper than the other, or the lunar partner craves a closer connection, while the Neptunian one feels victimized in some way. Assuming this couple can find an effective way to share their true needs, they will need to worry less about being poetic versus being frank.
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Opposition

And then there are the unfortunate cases where Frank gets confused for George or Mabel…or just about anybody but the actual person you’re involved with. This is the utmost muddling nature of the Moon opposite Neptune in synastry. Inevitably, this energy leads to a lament along the lines of I wish you were who I thought you were. And likely one person thought the other one was Superman or Mother Theresa or some other character (real or fictional) that was going to come along and save them. There is so much fantasy and projection going on with this couple that it’s as if each has created the other out of bits of jetsam and flotsam from their psychic drawer of unresolved hopes, dreams and fears. If they can use this dynamic to consciously role-play at specific times (like in the bedroom or in the studio, or some other creative space), then it can bring each other’s unresolved issues into greater light, and effect some integration and healing for both.

Role Play. It is different from deception. The former is a shared consensual activity; the latter a betrayal of one’s partner. And therein lies one of the cautions of Moon-opposite-Neptune couples. There is soul-mate energy here; the question is how long until it dissipates? Eventually the lunar child is going to grow up or melt down. The Neptunian will eventually move on to another dream. If both partners can mindfully deal with the separating nature of an opposition, they may consciously commune for a ‘season,’ then relinquish each other when the connection has served its soul purpose.

Sextile/Trine

A sense of soul purpose is something that couples with the Moon sextile or trine Neptune share. Add to that a sense of re-union. This is the haven’t I met you somewhere else? feeling that contributes to a real or imagined sense of uniting in other incarnations or timelines. These two provide a mutual healing space through acute sensitivity to and sympathy for each other. They also combine their individual talents for creative and/or spiritual endeavors that inspire not only each other, but those who bear witness.

If you and a partner share a Moon-Neptune synastry aspect, it can be as magical as it is muddling. Go in with your eyes wide open, provided you can distinguish between eyes being wide open or wide shut. [/show_to]

Related:

• Being Seen vs. Being Invisible: Moon-Neptune Aspects in the Natal Chart
• Synastry Studies: Navigating Neptune
• Neptune in Synastry: Deception or Higher Connection?