How to Make Squares in Synastry Work

When two or more people’s energies combine, it makes for a group tapestry interwoven with the persons’ combined elements, zodiac signs, planets and geometry. This is what synastry—or relationship astrology—is based on. In any given chart, it’s helpful to have a variety of aspects, for each serves one’s evolution in very specific ways. The most commonly analyzed aspects in astrology are the conjunction, sextile, square, trine, and opposition. This article discusses one such interwoven aspect (or planetary angle) between two people: the square. This is the astrological term given when any two planets form a right angle (that’s 90 degrees).

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The F-Word

Astrologers often give a great deal of credence to the notion that squares generate friction. Well, yes, they do. Friction may begin with the letter f, but it is not a four-letter word. It is friction that catalyzes change; it is friction that generates action; it is friction that spawns growth. Without friction, not a heck of a lot happens. So let’s remove the unnecessary fear that has been disseminated ever since squares got associated with tension. Because really, put these planetary squares under the microscope, and what you’ll see is a whole lot of very excited molecules.

Now, to be fair, if the excitement doesn’t abate for a spell, what once felt exciting can start to rub you the wrong way. And that’s one of the cautions when dealing with squares in synastry. While this combined flavor may generate a lot of heat and chemistry—perhaps the initial factor in bringing two people together—it’s an energy that is best tapped into with conscious application. After all, the degree of spice is the difference between a dish being edible or not.

So when two people’s energies create a square, the guiding principle is to treat it as an amber street signal: proceed with caution. If you can imagine two perpendicular vehicles arriving at an intersection at the same time, only one of them will have right-of-way. If you’ve got a square in your synastry, then you may need to give some thought as to which situations confer right-of-way to whom, when that synastry square is activated. This is compromise. And it’s a key requirement with squares, unless you thrive on relentless tension.

When you experience a synastry square, you’re essentially bumping into your partner’s discernible differences: There is a marked difference in your motivations, goals, viewpoints, and attitudes. And that can be exciting, intriguing, and attractive. But without compromise, a synastry square can make one or both parties feel boxed in. It can feel as though the two of you don’t speak the same language. That difficulty in comprehending each other can gradually lead to the agonizing question will I ever truly know you? Or you really don’t get me at all.

Consider that two planets in square aspect highlight the difference between day and night. They differ by element and by active or passive (electric or magnetic, male or female, yin or yang) polarity. So, of course, there is going to be some resistance between these interacting planets. And yet a plane cannot take off without resistance to the air currents. You can’t buffet yourself from dynamic tension, so you might as well work with the energy that synastry squares create, in order to mine some of their riches.

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About Michelle Suzanne

Michelle Suzanne is a certified coach practitioner. She incorporates her gift for interpreting planetary messages to consult with clients, to teach, write, and to create and deliver workshops to individuals and groups. She brings twenty years of unique professional experience to people who need guidance to rise to their fullest potential. Everyone has a unique journey with a compelling story beneath it. Michelle's role is to help you re-discover yours, or to help you create a new one that resonates with who you are today.


  1. Thank you for this. It was linked in the interpersonal astrology forum.

    This is a good article, a rare gem that empowers others with a balanced perspective on synastry.

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