If Pluto or Scorpio is emphasized in your chart, you’re driven to experience the extremes of love. You don’t know how to be casual, and this creates one of two reactions in others: they’re drawn to you or want nothing to do with you. While you long for a partner who can handle your uncut intensity, you often hold back because you’ve learned (from bitter experience) that very few are able to go all the way with you. But when you dilute your power, you undermine yourself. Read on to find out if you’re a Pluto person, and how you can handle the nuclear-strength urges within you.
It’s All About Power
Whether you’re just getting to know your lover, or have been with her for years, you must understand everything about her. The obsession you feel about someone new; the “encouragement” you give partner to share everything; and the desire to push past sexual limits all boil down to one thing: power. Pluto is the archetype of power and evolution. You evolve slowly and constantly, by learning about yourself through relationships. Which means learning about the other person. This is also how you maintain your power. Your lover’s secrets will not remain secrets for long, but you hold one or two things back (especially in the beginning). You’re eager to dive in, but suspicious at the same time. Pluto whispers that what you don’t know really can hurt you, and revealing all your cards will make you vulnerable. So you push forward, emotionally, sexually and intellectually, seeking to get to the core of the matter. But you’re slow to let down your defenses.
This mix of intensity and mystery is like catnip for certain people. Pluto/Scorpio draws others in, so the primary goal of complete understanding can be achieved. In some ways, you’re a knowledge vampire, except when you choose to give back. You have the ability to support and heal your partner. Who better to address his deepest wounds than the person who walks through the shadows with him? But you’ve probably experienced the other side of Pluto’s power: repulsion. Not everyone wants to go deep or have their secrets plundered. So while you may rein in your intensity when you first meet your lover, eventually you reach a point where you have to let him see the real you. Superficial interactions drain you. You feel more energized by the emotionally pulverizing moments that exhaust others. But you can always tell when you’ve crossed the line — you say or do something that reveals your full Plutonic force, and your partner flinches. You hear the pause in his voice. Then he flees.
If one or more of the following apply to you, you are a Pluto person:
- personal planets, 1st/7th house cusp or ruler in Scorpio
- Pluto conjunct (within 4 degrees) any of the angles
- Pluto in hard aspect to the personal planets, any planet in the 7th house or 1st/7th house ruler
- multiple (more than three) easy aspects from Pluto to the personal planets
- personal planets or 1st/7th House ruler in the 8th House