• Skip to main content
  • Skip to secondary menu
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Sasstrology.com

The Astrology of Sex, Love and Relationships

  • Home
  • Blog
  • Synastry
  • Compatibility Reports
  • Live Psychics
You are here: Home / Sex & Relationships / Moon-Mars Aspects in Synastry: Sex and Psyche

Moon-Mars Aspects in Synastry: Sex and Psyche

November 20, 2009 by Dawn Bodrogi 35 Comments

Listen to this article


When folks start learning about astrology and synastry, they run to Venus/Mars aspects to find out whether they’re compatible with their partners. Venus/Mars is about sexual give and take: my style of loving is in tune with your desire. But, as everyone knows, sex is a lot more complicated than that.


We don’t always express our love via Venus. Venus can be a diva with a come-hither look; she draws what she wants (and sometimes doesn’t want) via the principle of attraction. Venus/Mars contacts can be surprisingly shallow. Unless they’re tied up to Pluto or under the spell of Neptune or Uranus, they can also be surprisingly tame. They’re about compatibility, pure and simple. There are more passionate pair-ups.

Moon/Mars, for one. For some reason, this aspect has had a low profile in synastry. But when I hear of a synastry that is all about heat, this is one of the first aspects I look for. It has a bad reputation from the old “cookbook” schools of astrology. They used to say, “Mars equals violence/aggression, and the Moon equals emotions/comfort, therefore Mars will be mean to the Moon.” Well, yes and no, and more likely no. Not where sex is concerned.

[notpremise]

To read the rest of this article you must purchase a Lifetime All-Access Membership, which allows you to view the entirety of Sasstrology’s archives for a one-time fee of $12.

All horoscopes and forecasts will always be free to the public. New articles are only viewable to the public for 30 days after publication.

Buy Now or read more.

All-Access Members, log in here.

[/notpremise]

Related: A man’s Mars conjunct a woman’s Moon

Photo Credit: Jason A. Samfield via Creative Commons license

Share this:

  • Twitter
  • Facebook

Related

About Dawn Bodrogi

Dawn Bodrogi has studied astrology since the age of twelve, and has been a practicing astrologer for over twenty years with a special emphasis on synastry. Her studies in Jungian psychology, alchemy, and Buddhist philosophy inform her work. Her upcoming book, The Inner Wheel, takes a new look at interpreting secondary progressions. You can see more of Dawn?s work at her blog, The Inner Wheel: Living with Astrology.

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. NRay says

    November 20, 2009 at 3:28 pm

    Lovely read: very insightful!
    My recent post Humor: A Mean Look at the Sun Signs

  2. Marisa says

    November 20, 2009 at 4:39 pm

    My husband and I are both scorpio sun and ascendant. My Mars is 25 Tau 15' 29" r and my husband's moon is 27 Tau 55' 7", both in the 7th house. After 30 years and 6 kids, we're still together and going strong. I found this mars/moon connection in our charts long ago and believed it to be a key element in our relationship. Your remarks in this article are spot on.

  3. Dawn says

    November 20, 2009 at 9:16 pm

    Thanks, Marisa. The earth element is great for longevity with this conjunction, as you've said. Particularly with the Moon enhanced in Taurus.

  4. Isadora says

    November 20, 2009 at 9:45 pm

    I had a double whammy with someone: his cancer mars trined my scorpio moon and my scorpio mars trined his cancer moon. OMG the most passionate relationship I ever had.

  5. double pi vir ri says

    November 21, 2009 at 12:17 pm

    Loved this article!! Thanks!!

    I am dating someone new, it is very intense he just reads me instinctively.

    My sun, moon, mer, is conjunct his mars in Pisces
    and his moon in sag is conjunct my mars…

    His sun is aries…also conjunct my venus- conjunct his venus.

    Is this just more of the same?

  6. Dawn says

    November 21, 2009 at 2:39 pm

    Where the trine is an easier element and treads a bit more softly (though passionately), conjunctions can be very erratic and unpredictable. The emotional element can get inflated, with things getting very touchy (not in a good way) at times, particularly during transits that go over the conjunctions. Mutable signs, in particular, tend to get nervous when stressed. You’ll have to find ways of dealing with all that emotional steam. Your Mercury should be helpful here to keep the verbal lines of communication open.

    Venus/Sun doesn’t work the same way as Moon/Mars. A different thing entirely. But that needs an article all of its own.

  7. PiscesMoon says

    November 21, 2009 at 3:46 pm

    I’m so happy to have read this post! I just started seeing a guy who has a Venus-Mars conjunction in Pisces, and my Moon in Pisces is smack-dab in the middle of it. I wonder how having Venus involved effects this Moon/Mars conjunction; would it soften any harshness or upsets?

  8. Dawn says

    November 21, 2009 at 6:07 pm

    In theory, yes. His Venus on your Moon would make him more appreciative of who you are. But in the real world, a lot depends on how the conjunction is aspected by other planets. As I said, conjunctions are irrational. If either of you has an outer planet, or Saturn, or even Jupiter making a strong aspect to the conjunction, it will colour the dynamic between you. Pisces has a tendency to not discriminate. You’ll need some Virgo awareness to keep things balanced between you.

  9. Christine says

    November 22, 2009 at 7:13 pm

    Awesome article, Dawn. I recently discovered your blog, and I’m very excited about reading everything! Jeffrey wrote an article about Moon-Mars here. His article is very specific to a man’s Mars and a woman’s Venus. I’ve been thinking about it ever since. Since the Moon is the “Feminine” and Mars is the “Masculine,” I feel like if a couple has this aspect in synastry, it’s one of many indicators of a good — or perhaps, just traditional — male-female principals. Do you have any thoughts on this aspect and its relation to archetypal female-male roles?

    Thanks for your thoughts!

    – Christine

  10. susy zelaya says

    November 22, 2009 at 8:36 pm

    Leonid meteor showers and my mood = deep dreams of winter.

  11. Dawn says

    November 22, 2009 at 9:18 pm

    Christine,

    From what I’ve seen with my work with couples, very few with this aspect split down traditional roles–but that could be because the people who consult astrologers tend not to be traditional. It could indicate a woman who plays the role of nurturer and a man who plays aggressor; but I think these days we’re all, even the most conservative of us, inclined to be more in touch with both our Mars and our Moon energies. I think society has moved on, except in the most conservative of cultures. The Moon is very different from Venus; it relates to our body, our very consciousness, it’s where we process our life experience. Venus is about taste–it has more to say about what a man likes, rather than who he is. We can’t escape the Moon, which is one of the reasons why this combination can be so sexual. Whatever touches the Moon, touches our deeper layers.

  12. suzanna says

    November 22, 2009 at 11:17 pm

    I’ve been searching for a reason for a mysterious mutual attraction and this could be it. His mars is conjunct my moon in Aquarius and my venus is conjunct his moon in Aquarius. I blush to the point of humiliation when he is near…for no apparent reason. I didn’t even think he was good looking at first. The pull is strong/primal and feels serious…not fun at all. It feels like we are fated to be together in some way…but the tension is almost unbearable to work through even to carry on a conversation unless it is at a distance (via-email or phone). Still..we can’t leave each other alone.

  13. Ana says

    November 23, 2009 at 1:50 am

    It´s very interesting and well explained for us who don´t have a high level of knowledge about Astrology.

    Thank you.

  14. Gauri says

    November 24, 2009 at 11:40 pm

    Dawn, an excellent article. I read several of your blog entries (on your own blog) after reading this article and I’m very impressed. Hope your writings become a regular feature on this blog and I look forward to your book 🙂

  15. susy zelaya says

    November 25, 2009 at 1:35 am

    I don’t understand how it works

  16. Jeffrey Kishner says

    November 25, 2009 at 10:18 am

    suzanna, you seem to have hit the nail on the head with those aspects.

  17. cappy chick says

    November 27, 2009 at 3:26 am

    I have Cap moon, he has Virgo Mars, Trine
    I have Scorpio mars, he has Sagittarius moon , Square..
    He has Scorpio Sun.
    The attraction is intense, it’s like being pulled in by a magnet.

  18. Annie says

    December 1, 2009 at 9:43 pm

    Hello there, any astrologers post here? I’ve been driving myself into madness trying to understand something and it just occurred to me, perhaps astrology could help explain the situation.

    Should anyone care to tackle this please let me know and I would give birthdate information.

    I recently moved from an apartment that I lived at for 11 years. I was basically forced out due to how hostile the environment had become.

    I was involved with a fellow who lived across the street. When his best friend found out that we were involved he decided to move into my building and jokingly said that he could now keep up with the drama between me and A.

    We were involved but it I was never his girl friend. Anyhow to make a very long story short. I came to realize that J was in the closet with very obsessive, possessive and creepy, disturbing feelings for my guy, his best friend, A.

    J is one of the creepiest, sneakiest, negative, domineering and rigid person I’ve ever known. I can not understand why A is even his friend. I don’t at all understand why A is so loyal to this guy.

    I was helpless to do anything to prevent J from influencing A to share his anger and negativity toward me. In time I ended up being an enemy to a man who was the love of my life. To explain all the things this sick person did would take a very long time. I have reason to believe that A is naive about the feelings of his so-called friend. He is in total denial that J is in the closet. Anyhow, if anyone might be interested to see the charts involved perhaps having an understanding though astrology could help in my healing. I am so mangled inside that it seems impossible to ever heal. Basically a drama triangle was forced on to me that I could not escape from, that A was oblivious of and I ended up having to leave because the hate being directed at me was unbearable. A believed every story J made up, not knowing the motives. He never checked with me, he was loyal to this creep. Both are from Europe. Anyhow, let me k now if anyone is interested.

    Thank you!

  19. xKatex says

    December 5, 2009 at 8:49 am

    what about two aspects together ?

    my moon (cancer) square his mars (libra)

    his moon (capricorn) trine my mars (virgo)

    I don’t see what the big deal is between cancer and libra, why are they square ?

  20. xKatex says

    December 5, 2009 at 9:46 am

    also, what does a ceapricorn moon need in order to feel secure emotionally ?

    (other than money, which I cannot provide for him: he’ll have to earn his own)

  21. cappy chick says

    December 6, 2009 at 12:46 am

    for a capricorn moon to feel secure, you have to show him that you love him, and that it is safe to open up. I have Cap moon, I don’t feel secure unless I feel safe with the person and I know exactly how they feel.

  22. Gangsta says

    December 7, 2009 at 1:46 am

    ay ayay!
    this sounds like the reason ive been chasing this guy around for the past few yrs. Hes a aries moon. I’m a mars libra. not sure about the degrees
    its not easy to explain.
    I’m also a sag moon and hes a taurus mars (quincunx?- bad news?)
    I’m glad i met him i just don’t know what to do about it. it sucks.

  23. rhiannon says

    January 15, 2010 at 10:14 am

    Now after reading this article I’m understanding why the guy I’ve been seeing, the connection is sometimes intense and other times so laid back.

    I’ve got a Scorpio Moon and he has a Mars in Taurus.
    Then he has a Gemini Moon and I’ve got a Mars in Gemini.

    Then you throw in my Aries sun and his Pisces sun and I’m wondering a lot more now, especially with all the other aspects, but this moon-mars bit really opens my eyes to how strong the attractive probably is between us… I’m glad I found this blog posting!

  24. Violet says

    March 11, 2010 at 6:29 am

    Great article! When you talk about moon mars contacts does that apply to hard aspects as well? My Libra Moon is square my friends cancer mars.

  25. Jane says

    July 5, 2010 at 8:03 pm

    He has the moon in Taurus conjuncting my Mars in Taurus in the 8th house.I have the moon in Leo conjuncting his dramatic and fiery Mars in Leo–the Leo especially generates a lot of fire and heat!!

  26. palaavi says

    October 25, 2010 at 6:34 am

    I have sun is sag moon in taurus and mars in sag and venus in capricorn he has sun in aquarius moon in capricorn venus in sagittarius and mars in sagittarius so what does dat do for us .help!

  27. Ross says

    June 19, 2012 at 6:58 am

    Cool article!

    I met this girl who’s energy is so strong on me and it seems as if it’s a mutual feeling. I find her irresistible and just being together even while doing nothing feels great. I am trying to find an astrological explanation for this as I have never felt such sublime connection with anyone else.

    She’s got Leo Sun, Aries Asc, Pisces Moon, Leo Mercury, Leo Venus, Leo Mars, Gemini Jupiter.
    I’ve got Gemini Sun, Libra Asc, Leo Moon, Taurus Merc, Gemini Venus, Scorpio Mars, Capri Jupiter.

    Some aspects:

    Sun sextile Mercury
    Sun semi-square Sun
    Sun semi-square Asc
    Sun conjunct Midheaven
    Mars conjunct Moon
    Mars sextile Asc
    Mars square Mercury
    Venus conjunct Moon
    Venus square Mercury
    Venus quintile Mars
    Moon sextile Mercury
    Moon trine Midheaven
    Moon quintile Jupiter
    etc etc etc!!

    Any thoughts???

    Thanks

  28. Sandra says

    July 24, 2012 at 4:34 pm

    I always fall for men whose Moons are aspecting my Mars, but, so far, none have liked me back. One actually had the balls to tell me that he just felt defensive around me, because I seem like such a strong personality(I’m really not aggressive..at least, don’t think so)
    Truth is I already have a Moon-Mars conjunction, natally, so I’m used to the “hot water” energy it created, and I love it.
    I guess some people freak out cause of the passion and intensity it stirs up in them.
    Truth is I am looking for someone to lose myself into, emotionally, psychologially, sexually, in every possible way..want to “merge”, which is a Pisces thing, I guess. Maybe I come on too strongly?

  29. littlemermaid says

    November 18, 2012 at 7:55 pm

    any thoughts on how the quincunx might manifest itself? the boy I like now has his Mars in 28 Libra, quincunx my Moon in 29 Taurus.

  30. ocianavoss says

    December 29, 2012 at 7:27 am

    Was seeing/ had a few nights of passion with someone who’s mars trined my moon
    in Scorpio
    This article described word for word the psycho-sexual dynamics of what was
    LOVE those mars in Scorpios
    meow

  31. Gem moon says

    October 3, 2013 at 11:20 am

    Susana, what happened with your moon-mars connection guy? I am so curious. You describe exactly how I feel with mine…my moon conjunct his mars at exact degree in Gemini, and my venus trine his moon in aquarius/pisces cusp. Also our moons conjunct each others’ saturns. It’s extremely uncomfortable, but so compelling. I have a boyfriend, a good relationship, but can’t stop thinking about this man..I feel that I want to merge with him, but I am not even physically attracted to him!! I sense he is attracted to me, yet equally uncomfortable, even angry at me. I am even a little frightened of what can happen here, but don’t know if I can resist the magnetic pull he has on me..I can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t stop thinking about him.

  32. mieke says

    January 30, 2017 at 3:51 am

    what about his moon in aquarius and my moon in cancer; plus his mars in aquarius, and my mars in cancer? he’s sun in scorpio and i am sun in aquarius. his venus in scorpio, my venus in pisces. supposed to be synastry, but not sure what this combo means for us.

  33. Fatatabata says

    February 26, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    Hi, I can’t access to this article, I’ve just purchased a membership. Can you please check and solve this ossue? Alessandra

  34. Jeffrey Kishner says

    March 1, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    I have fixed your account, please email jeffrey at sasstrology.com if you continue to have problems viewing the archives.

  35. Fatatabata says

    March 1, 2017 at 6:26 pm

    Yes, everything is fine now, thank you!

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Primary Sidebar

Attention Registered Members

Due to technical problems, any accounts created between Tuesday 12/15 and Sunday 12/20 may have been lost. Please recreate your account below. If you have an All-Access membership, please email jeffrey at sasstrology.com your registered username along with the email address you used at PayPal to pay for your membership, and your account will be upgraded.

Apologies for the inconvenience.

Create an account to leave a comment and connect with other readers. If you are already registered, login. Create an account to leave a comment and connect with other readers. If you are already registered, login. Log Out

Venus-Mars Compatibility

Venus-Mars Compatibility

In the natal astrological chart, Venus and Mars are the “go to” planets of love and relationship.

Sun-Moon Compatibility

Sun-Moon Compatibility

Free Astrology Report

Get a free copy of your natal chart —
plus a short “planets in signs” report.
Start Your Free Report Now >>

RSS Jeffrey Kishner’s Therapy Blog

  • Fear of Letting Go of a Relationship Because You Don’t Think You Can Do Better
  • Being Too Chill Can Cost You Your Relationship
  • What to Do When You Don’t Know Why They Broke Up With You

Subscribe to Our Mailing List

Astrology Reports

  • Synastry Reports
  • Composite Chart Reports
  • Transit Reports

This Week's Forecast

  • Love Horoscope for the Week of January 18

Latest Sex & Relationship Posts

  • The Astrology of Loneliness and Aloneness: The Effect of Transits, Part One
  • Some Like It Hot: Mars Conjunct Pluto in Synastry

Recent Comments

  • Tom Yates on Venus Opposite Saturn in Synastry: Finding a Solution in the Axis
  • nixroamingpoet on Venus Opposite Saturn in Synastry: Finding a Solution in the Axis
  • Poxy on Mars Retrograde in the Natal Chart: When Yang Energy Goes Yin
  • es3040 on A man’s Mars conjunct a woman’s Moon
  • Nicole Sequeira on Natal Indicators for Absent Parents

Footer

  • Aries
  • Taurus
  • Gemini
  • Cancer
  • Leo
  • Virgo
  • Libra
  • Scorpio
  • Sagittarius
  • Capricorn
  • Aquarius
  • Pisces

Reach Our Readers

Advertise on Sasstrology.com to attract better customers.

Learn more about Sasstrology and our readers.

Directories

  • Astrology Alltop
  • Astrology Blogger
  • Best Astrology Blogs
  • Top 100 Astrology Blogs

Copyright © 2021 Sasstrology LLC