Moon Conjunct Venus in the Natal Chart: Not As Sweet As It Seems

Moon Conjunct Venus in Natal Chart


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A conjunction of Moon/Venus in the natal chart unifies needs (Moon) and love (Venus). This is considered a “soft” combination, and doesn’t get as much press as the intense Moon/Pluto conjunction, or the angst-driven Moon/Venus square. But is Moon conjunct Venus always a bowl of sweet cherries? Not quite.

Moon Conjunct Venus

The Moon represents comfort and nurturing instincts. Venus represents relating to others and giving/receiving love. Put them together and you have the need for harmony. It’s a basic need, but it’s not something to be taken lightly. Whether she’s in the chart of a man or woman, Moon/Venus needs to be liked the way other people need oxygen. And she’s good at meeting her needs. She instinctively (Moon) knows how to charm people (Venus). This is not superficial gloss (although it can come cross as sugar-overload at times); it’s a core necessity for the Moon/Venus person to feel balanced and at ease with others.

Moon/Venus in Relationships

In a relationship, the Moon/Venus person may seem like the perfect lover. Romantic, caring, and expressive—a pool of loving tranquility. Then her partner realizes that Moon/Venus is consumed with meeting her own needs … first. The unity of energies can create a focus on personal satisfaction. This is less apparent in a casual social setting, but becomes clear in the concentrated atmosphere of intimacy.

For Moon/Venus, her harmony and comfort are paramount. Arguments are avoided because Moon/Venus loathes conflict. “Shared” activities always seem to emphasize what Moon/Venus likes to do. And it’s all cloaked in the disguise of making her partner feel good, until her partner realizes that the feel-good agenda belongs to Moon/Venus. How this manifests depends on the sign that Moon/Venus is in. Moon/Venus in Virgo will want a perfect relationship, so she’ll ensure her partner is squeaky clean and relentlessly organized. Moon/Venus in Leo will want a partner who makes her look good, so she’ll push him (in the most loving way possible) to excel. Moon/Venus in Aquarius will want the freedom to do as she pleases, so she’ll emphasize her partner’s independence.

Moon/Venus and Family

Moon/Venus is also attached to her family (especially Mother). Very attached. A man with Moon/Venus will be drawn to women who remind him of Mother. A woman with Moon/Venus will base her romantic behavior on the way she interacted with Mother. Exploring Moon/Venus’ family history can be the key to understanding her behavior. Even if her childhood was less than perfect, Moon/Venus will have overwhelming feelings of familial love and dependency. In balanced doses, this can make Moon/Venus a solid partner who gains strength from her family ties. But a failure to separate her identity from family can result in comparing partners to Mother (and having them come up short), or putting family before romantic relationships.

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Moon/Venus Potential

This does not mean that all Moon/Venus people will exhibit the above behaviors. In astrology, energy is base potential, not destiny. While there will always be a basic need for harmony, aspects from other natal planets can modify the self-focus. Jarring transits that disrupt or end relationships can shock the Moon/Venus person into awareness. If it’s do or die time, in a partnership they can learn that some conflict is necessary in order to keep a relationship vital. With enough self-awareness, Moon/Venus can be an empathetic partner whose pool of inner tranquility spreads to include her partner in a loving embrace.

How does Moon conjunct Venus manifest in your relationships? Let us know in comments below.

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About Nadia Gilchrist

Nadia Gilchrist offers 15 years of experience in Evolutionary and Traditional astrology. Her writings and personal consultations focus on applying astrology and tarot readings with a clear, practical approach to the real world. Nadia blogs regularly at Ruby Slipper Astrology.
 

Comments

  1. Thanks Nadia, interesting analysis. How do you see this conjunction working out in synastry (her moon conjunct his venus or vice versa? It seems from your article that the moon will be seeking the comfort and nurturing while the Venus seeks the giving and receiving of love – rather different in some ways and with potential for getting co-dependent. Is this your view?

  2. Great article! I have my natal moon in Virgo trine my venus in Capricorn. I definitely look for a steady, innocent-like partner who keeps their place (and their life) clean and organized. Hopefully they can, in turn, help me with mine lol!

    Mel, I did a composite on my current bf and his ex (she’s deceased). They got along beautifully. Their chart shows all the compatibility they had, one being the moon conjunct venus. Very in-tune with each other’s feelings and the relationship has an almost dreamy-like quality. One of the best aspects to have! Of course, that moon was part of 5 planets in the same house. They had a lot of other complimentary placements. I’m using the composite because they lived together. Synastry should be done when the people aren’t living together.

  3. My 12-yearold daughter has Venus in Libra conjunct Moon in Scorpio in the twelfth house; both planets conjunct her Ascendant at 3 degrees Scorpio. Thus far in her life, this has manifested as intense shyness; however, she is also an astute observer of social dynamics. True to the nature of the signs involved, she is often torn between the desire for harmony and the need for intensity and emotional honesty. I am curious to see how this will play out through the rest of her adolescence!

  4. Great article!!! Wow, was that eye opening..I have moon/venus conj. in sadge. How would I try to mold
    my partner?
    I always thought I was picayune…lol

  5. @Mel
    Sorry, I’m not clear on your question. Moon/Venus in synastry is very different than Moon/Venus in the natal chart. You’re looking at one person’s impact on the other (synastry) vs. a unification of energies in one person’s chart (natal). Moon conjunct Venus in synastry can bring warmth, affection and harmony to the relationship, but it does not usually indicate co-dependency (unless one person’s Moon or Venus triggers that in their natal chart).

  6. @Mary H
    Technically, the Moon in one sign and Venus in another are not conjunct. For a true union of energies, they need to be in the same sign.

  7. @jericho
    Since your needs revolve around freedom, exploration and adventure, you might encourage your partner to push their own boundaries.

  8. Wow, I had never looked at it that way before. I have a moon conjunct Venus, and moreover the moon is in divinity, so that probably brings out the traits that you’ve mentioned in an even more overt way. What else might a Cancer moon & Venus placement say about me?

  9. i have this (with mars and chiron also conjunct) in taurus. in the 12th. at 3* so ultra-exalted! very giving and nurturing but really a huge control freak in relationships. the selflessness of the 12th moderates it a bit i think… or perhaps that’s a delusion! i think exes might agree…

  10. @Rosematter
    All needs are emphasized…comfort, food, companionship…whatever soothes you. Mothering/smothering can be especially strong.

  11. @marla
    Many of your needs may be unconsciously driven, as well.

  12. Thank you so much for this article Nadia as it has confirmed what I have observed of my DH’s modis operendi!!! Here I was thinking maybe this is is my Mercury/Pluto opposition working overtime as I would have never thought it was Moon conjunct Venus.. .he is also a Uranus/Sun conjunct in Cancer, I don’t know his birth time but I do know that the Moon was @ 15 Cancer @ 12:00 am on the day of his birth and still in Cancer at 11:59 pm. Venus was at 25 Cancer so there is a possibility of a conjunction.

    Will you be doing an article on the Moon/Venus opposition?

  13. yes i have this freaking conjunction my venus and moon are both in sagittarius, i do know how to talk to ppl far as being able to put my self in their shoes(at least thats what ive been told) but far as the mother thing no not with me at all my mother and i arent close, i believe i was raised up in a good house hold (mostly bc of my father)but the older i got the more jealous my mother(even my dad agrees) was of me and its worse amongst my half sister(both my parents agree), ive went a year with out talkin to my mom after her emailing me saying she didnt wan to be in my life anymore(random she told everyone in the fam this, my gma died) and so yea im just now speaking back with her but i am very very close withmy father always have been he does everything for me, hes done everything even whenmy parents and i lived together my own mother wouldnt even take me to my doctor check ups, school friends houses lol!, she felt that she did all she was required to do as a parent which was carry me for 9 months lmao(yes she has told me this) idk but yea anywho lol, and my conjunction is in my second house lmao

  14. Ariesgirl416 says:

    I have been interested as a friend to a Moon/Venus man in Aries but his sun sign is in Taurus. I am Aries myself, with an Aries ascendant, Venus in Taurus but a Moon in Libra. For a decade or more in our work relationship, we have been able to confide in each other and see clearly to the depth of each other’s soul. During the last month, it has become apparent he no longer cares about me as a friend and I feel used and dismissed.
    Can we still be friends or is this possibly the end?

  15. Good text! I can find myself in description. What do you think, how this conjunction works in Capricorn?

  16. Happy to have come across this article!! I have Moon/Venus in Cancer at 0 degrees; I was all in at “they need to be liked like other people need oxygen”. You know, the only people that know my real love of a good argument and fight are my mom, dad and husband and maybe a few others. It’s as if I KNOW they love me no matter what. Anyone else I avoid conflict at all cost. It is a blessing and a curse.

  17. Dear author,

    Glad I have bumped into this thourough article about the moon venus conjuction, I express my gratitude for ur time and effort on all the input formulated. As I can see, you covered the input on what the moon venus person want from their partner in case their venus moon were in Virgo, Aqua, Leo. I just want to have my question answered if possible: how would the moon venus person want and ask from their partner in a love relationship if their venus & moon were both in Pisces in a woman’s chart. How is this manifisted under the sign Pisces?

    Best regards

  18. I have Moon and Venus in Scorpio both at 19 degrees. I always thought it was a good and harmonious aspect, but I was wrong, my love life is really complicated:( I woukd like to know how to deal with this aspect in Scorpio. Help me!

  19. This is spot on: “This is not superficial gloss (although it can come cross as sugar-overload at times); it’s a core necessity for the Moon/Venus person to feel balanced and at ease with others.” I do things that others like, though – I’m not that selfish. I’ve spent my whole life trying to be fair, and make sure that things are fair, only to be blindsided by others. Uranus conjunct my Mars, and square that conjunction really woke me up, and I started to defend myself at times. With the cardinal grand cross hitting my chart for years now, I’m really over conflict, and feel like a cornered feral animal at times.

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