An ongoing discussion in the comments section about Scorpios illuminates the wide variety of perceptions about this sign’s capacity for fidelity. Janis has “never met a scorpio that was truly faithful,” while Victoria says, “generally speaking Scorpio is a very faithful and loyal and devoted sign, if they are in love.”
I’m not going to take sides, because both readers speak to part of Scorpio’s truth. What interests me is that we all have strong beliefs about zodiac sign characteristics. And we don’t necessarily arrive at the whole truth of a sign by relying on observations. Certainly, the understanding we have acquired by studying the charts (or just Sun signs) of our friends and lovers is deeper than that which we would acquire from solely relying on the stereotypes offered in Sun sign books. But there is one significant problem with coming to astrological conclusions based on personal experience: They’re personal.[notpremise]
Most of us repeat relational patterns, such as attracting the same type of boyfriend again and again. Whether we ascribe this experience to a Freudian repetition compulsion or the complex associated with a challenging square, it doesn’t matter. What counts is that we develop a limited perspective from having been stuck in a repetitive cycle. If you keep shacking up with men who cheat on you and lie about it, you are obviously going to believe that men cheat. And if you keep shacking up with Scorpios who cheat on you and lie about it, you’re going to think all Scorpios cheat.
But it is just not the case that all Scorpios cheat. Rather, the Scorpios you attract cheat on you. It’s your chart — meaning that your experience with others is a reflection of your own astrological patterns. Maybe your 7th house ruler is in Scorpio, in aspect to Neptune or in your 12th House. Until you become conscious of this pattern and find alternate ways for the planet to express itself, you may continue drawing deceptive lovers into your life.
Psychotherapists call this a “frame.” Imagine you have a picture frame, and you can only see the world from within its four walls. Think of everything that’s blocked out!
Even professional astrologers work from within a frame. Read any two interpretations of the same natal chart, and you’ll see what I mean. Neither is necessarily more true than the other. But by virtue of being limited human beings with our own beautiful, unique experiences, we all see charts (and the humans they “capture”) differently.
The wonderful thing about the dialogues that occur on this blog is that we get to see widely divergent belief systems about different zodiac signs. It levels the playing field. We get to see that our ideas are just that — ours. When we read opposing views, it gives us an opportunity to wonder: Why do I see Scorpios this way? Not to judge ourselves, but just to be curious.
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