We’ve talked about ghosting (a romantic interest vanishes instead of communicating their desire to end things). Continuing the horror-themed dating experiences, there is another trend known as “zombieing.” An ex that you broke up with, or who ghosted you, comes back from the dead via random texts or interactions on social media. He or she creeps back with no apologies or acknowledgement that anything like a breakup went down between you. The reanimated quality of the connection is what you’d expect from a zombie: a cold, unpleasant echo of what was. There’s no real heat or meaning — just a random firing of reflexes. Read on to see which signs are more likely to reach out after your connection with them has died.
The 3:00 am text that’s intriguing enough to make you wonder if Gemini is still interested. The picture he emails with the accompanying message “saw this and thought of you.” This happens three months after he ghosted you. What’s he playing at? The truth is, probably nothing. He’s either bored or doesn’t realize what he’s doing is annoying or hurtful. There’s nothing more going on here than a random urge to reach out and communicate. If you reply, you’ll get no response, but he might contact you again in another three months. He could keep this up forever.
Reasons why Libra would zombie you? She’s single, or feeling unloved by her current partner. Her drive to be loved and in a relationship means that if she’s not getting that attention in her life, she may reach out to someone she thinks still has feelings for her. Reassurance that she’s still attractive, or her need for any one-on-one connection, could briefly trump her distaste of unpleasant scenarios. Hence the mildly flirtatious comment on your Instagram photo. But she has no intention of taking this any further, or having a potentially messy discussion.
Zombieing by a Scorp will only happen if you break up with her before she’s ready to let go. Even then, crossing the line between zombieing and full-on stalking will depend on her chart. Let’s say you when you initially end things you have to make yourself very clear that the relationship is over, because she’s having trouble taking no for an answer. A couple of months pass with no contact. But then, she retweets your tweet, or starts liking your Facebook posts. There’s no request to reconnect, but she’s hoping enough time has gone by that you’ve changed your mind. She’s reminding you that she’s still there, because she never stopped wanting to get back together. Don’t feed the zombie by responding; your best bet is to block.