A couple of weeks ago we explored which signs were more likely to ghost you. People had strong opinions, so this week we look at the other side of the issue: how signs respond to being cut off. Since no one is immune to being ghosted, this article will briefly touch on all twelve signs. The issue is really about lack of closure, which falls under the umbrella of losing control. When someone ghosts you, they are taking away your opportunity to respond.
Your first instinct is to fight it. You send an angry text or voicemail, because WTF? You’re always up for a challenge, but ghosting is asshole behavior and you don’t stand for that. You also don’t have time to waste on someone who pulls this shit, so fuck them. You quickly move on. Good riddance.
As mellow as you are, you have difficulty letting go. Being ghosted will trigger your resistance to change. So you’ll call, and keep calling. Not a blizzard of calls, but one or two voicemails/emails for a few weeks. Your tone will be quietly resentful. But if someone is treating you like this, they’re obviously not a match for you. Eventually, you’ll stop calling and never look back.
That’s interesting – you’re being ghosted! This new wrinkle may capture your interest, because you didn’t see it coming. If you’re only mildly into this person, you may send one text. If you really liked the ghoster, you may send a flurry of texts or quick emails. You’re not angry, just curious. But zero response gets boring really quickly, so you’ll move on after a day (or a few hours).
You take it personally. How can you not? Your inquiries will be infused with hurt and anger. You will make it abundantly clear to him/her that what they’re doing is subhuman. You may flip back and forth between anger, sadness and attempts to woo the ghoster back. After a few weeks of intense mourning/eating, you’ll move forward. But you’ll never forget them.
This sort of thing never happens to you. But if it does, nothing triggers you like being ignored. Your over-the-top emails may contain dire predictions of how this treatment will trigger your heart condition/scar you emotionally. But you’ll also want the ghoster to know that you’ll survive. You’ll send pictures of yourself looking fabulous and having an amazing time. Depending on how much you were into him/her, you may never fully forget them. But your pride will kick in and you’ll stop reaching out.
Obviously, you did something wrong. While analyzing what that something could be, you’ll send email after email. Then, you’ll chastise him/her (because what they are doing is wrong, so you need to correct them). Then, you’ll apologize. Then, you’ll apologize again for flooding their inbox with voicemails, and you’ll send a couple more voicemails to reassure them that you’ll stop. And you will stop, once you exhaust yourself. In the end, it’s not so much that they ghosted you, but that you can’t figure out why.