Hard aspects to the Nodes in synastry get a lot of attention. Conjunctions and squares from one person’s planets to the other’s Nodes indicate a past life connection that is compelling enough to create tension in this life. The tension creates magnetism that draws people together, for better or worse. But what about the easy aspects? Trines and sextiles to the Nodes also mean something, even though they don’t grab people like the hard aspects.
Any synastric aspect between planets and Nodes indicates a past life relationship. Details about that relationship are described by the nature of the planet, aspect, signs and houses. There is a difference between a trine and a sextile, even though they are both harmonious. From an evolutionary perspective, the sextile is an opportunity for the Node person to progress from their South Node comfort zone (ingrained from their past life) to their future (the North Node). They can learn about the contrast between what was and what could be. The trine represents a complete understanding of their North Node path, and easy integration of their South Node lessons. The sextile is growing awareness, and the trine is lesson learned. The planet person is the trigger. Any planet that trines the North Node will sextile the South Node, and vice versa.
Kelly’s Mars sextiles Chris’ South Node, and trines his North Node. Her actions (Mars) feel familiar and comfortable to Chris. In their past life, they worked or fought together. Since she’s the Mars person, she may have been the one who urged him along when he got tired, discouraged or wounded. In this life, the way she asserts herself/gets things done is a prompt for Chris to move towards his North Node (which her Mars trines). There is a feeling of camaraderie, and she supports his explorations. Maybe she’s already mastered the situation his North Node describes, and all he has to do is follow her lead.
If her Mars trines his South Node and sextiles his North Node, the comfortable vibe between them would be even more pronounced. In their past life, there may have been a specific task they worked on together. Perhaps they achieved something (built a cathedral, won a particular battle) and Kelly was in charge. In this life, there’s a sense of accomplishment that’s already happened, and the area described by Chris’ South Node is where they continue to do good work. But her Mars also sextiles his North Node, so Kelly can still nudge him forward, encouraging him to try new (North Node) things.
But here’s the tricky part: these aspects don’t create much impetus for change. If there are no other aspects between their Nodes, and the rest of their synastry is fairly placid, it’s possible that there’s no unfinished business between Kelly and Chris. In their past life, they got along with each other and accomplished their tasks together. End of story. In this life, the aspects from Kelly’s Mars are a hint that Chris could take, but the lack of tension could also enable Chris to stay exactly where he is (in his South Node rut). Or, maybe Kelly’s the one who encourages him to stay where he is (more likely if her Mars trines his South Node). Why should he change when things are going so well between them? Much depends on the rest of their charts.
By themselves, sextiles and trines to the Nodes do not indicate powerful attraction. Kelly and Chris could be platonic co-workers or lovers. If other aspects between their charts indicate chemistry, or there are hard aspects to the Nodes (in addition to the trine/sextile), the easy aspects will certainly add information. Again, they can enable evolution or stagnation for the Node person. Without awareness on the parts of both people, it can be easy to overlook these little aspects, and waste the opportunity they present.