Capricorns are known for their discipline and ambition. But the qualities of this Saturn-ruled sign don’t always translate well into the realm of intimate relationships. There are many self-aware Caps out there who are fully present and passionate in their relationships. But the unaware partner with Capricorn relationship planets (Saturn ruling the 7th House, or Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars in Capricorn) can be frustratingly distant and controlling. Read on for tips on how to deal with that famous Capricorn reserve.
The Tyranny of Order
Whether you’re just getting to know him, or have been involved for years, the unaware Capricorn will operate from a place of fear. Saturn is about limits and reality, but when its energy is distorted, it manifests as fear and repression. Fear of what? Anything that challenges his rules. Order is essential to this sign. Putting everything into a context that he can understand gives him a sense of control. If you do anything that threatens to disrupt this order, the fearful Capricorn will react by shutting down and/or telling you that your behavior is unacceptable.
It’s a cliche that Capricorns are repressed. But in some cases, it’s true. Capricorn loathes chaos, and what’s more chaotic than intimacy? There’s the physical act of sex, where both partners are as vulnerable as they’ll ever be. And then there’s the messiness that comes from deep emotional exchanges. The shut-down Capricorn will attempt to impose order over these areas. She may insist that there’s only one “correct” way to have sex or share feelings (her way). In more extreme manifestations, she may deny these activities altogether. For you, the partner who just wants to love her, it can feel like punishment.