Inconjuncts in Synastry: Agree to Disagree

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No aspect is more frustrating than the inconjunct (or quincunx). This tense 150-degree angle links two signs that have absolutely nothing in common. Each sign is in a different element (fire, earth, water, air), a different modality (cardinal, fixed, mutable), and a different polarity (positive and negative). And yet, when two planets (five signs apart) fall within orb of the inconjunct, they connect even though they have zero understanding of each other. The result is a struggle between unrelated energies that have no way of finding a middle ground. This is difficult enough to handle by transit or in the natal chart, but imagine if you have to deal with this aspect in synastry.

Here are the signs that inconjunct each other:

  • Aries inconjuncts Virgo and Scorpio
  • Taurus inconjuncts Libra and Sagittarius
  • Gemini inconjuncts Scorpio and Capricorn
  • Cancer inconjuncts Sagittarius and Aquarius
  • Leo inconjuncts Capricorn and Pisces
  • Virgo inconjuncts Aries and Aquarius
  • Libra inconjuncts Taurus and Pisces
  • Scorpio inconjuncts Aries and Gemini
  • Sagittarius inconjuncts Taurus and Cancer
  • Capricorn inconjuncts Gemini and Leo
  • Aquarius inconjuncts Cancer and Virgo
  • Pisces inconjuncts Leo and Libra

I use very tight orbs for inconjuncts: no more than two degrees. This aspect can be formed with planets, angles, Nodes or asteroids.

An inconjunct between two people is an area of misunderstanding. Unlike the opposition, you can’t find the common ground between your objectives, because there is no common ground. Unlike the square, you can’t harness the tension, because the tension of the inconjunct is a slippery, moving target; you have one way of dealing with it and your partner’s way undermines or blocks you. How much the inconjunct impacts a couple depends on how prominent the natal planets or points are in each chart. The effects can range from mild irritation to a major stumbling block.

The key to handling a synastric inconjunct is to accept the following:

  • Adjustment is required from both partners.
  • There will never be a neat solution.
  • The promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more.

A Synastric Inconjunct in Action

Ms. Venus has Libra Rising. Her chart ruler (Venus) is in her 2nd House of security, in Scorpio. Venus is a major player in her chart, because it describes her identity and how she loves. Venus’ 2nd House Scorpio placement means that her way of giving/receiving love is possessive, and focused on intensive investigation of her partner. Her self-esteem is rooted in how deeply her partner accepts their merging. Her partner (Ms. Mars) has natal Mars in 7th House Gemini. She’s drawn to partners who initiate (Mars) different ways of relating (Gemini). Nothing too heavy or focused. At the same time, her sexual energy is quick, curious and constantly shifting.

Mars inconjuncts Venus in their synastry. The tension creates a strong attraction. Mars is curious, because Venus is a new challenge. Venus is drawn by the promise of Mars’ intriguing puzzle (here’s someone to investigate and penetrate). However, it quickly becomes apparent that this is a thorny connection. Venus’ desire to know Mars on a profound level clashes with Mars’ breezy energy. Venus finds Mars insensitive, and Mars finds Venus suffocating. When Mars initiates sex, Venus is not in the mood. When Venus is in the mood, Mars is distracted. Mars undermines Venus’ self-esteem, while Venus is out of step with Mars’ partnership energy.

Venus/Mars inconjuncts in romantic relationships can be tough, but not impossible. The inconjunct’s oddball energy promises a very special result, and it’s that promise that continues to magnetize Ms. Venus and Ms. Mars. Venus can develop her inner resources, so she doesn’t lean so heavily on Mars. Mars can slow down in the moment and focus more on Venus. Each person can moderate the energies of their planet/sign combination, while accepting that Venus in Scorpio will always be intense, and Mars in Gemini will not. No aspect teaches more about the natal planet/sign combinations involved; the struggle to arrive at the “solution” pushes each planet to its limits.

At the same time, it’s important to avoid making the entire relationship about this one aspect. If Ms. Venus has planets in air signs, she can use their energy to connect with her partner on a sexual level (rather than obsessing about how her desires never seem to be satisfied). If Ms. Mars has planets in water signs, that’s a way for Mars to relate to her partner on a more intimate level.

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I’m not going to write too much about synastric Yods here, because this subject really deserves its own article. Some of you may be wondering about this “fated” aspect, when two planets sextile each other and each planet forms an inconjunct to one other planet (the focal planet). If you look at the list of signs that inconjunct each other, you’ll see that each combination of three forms a Yod (Cancer inconjuncts Sag and Aquarius, which sextile each other). Any combination of planets/points in the above three signs in synastry can form a Yod between two people (as long as they’re in orb). If your Venus and Mars sextile each other, and they both inconjunct your partner’s Saturn, that’s a Yod. If your Sun and Moon inconjunct each other, and your partner’s Pluto sextiles your Moon while inconjuncting your Sun, that’s a Yod.

Yods place a tremendous amount of pressure on the focal planet. This becomes a specific task that one or the other partner (depending on whose natal planet it is) must deal with. There is much talk about a Yod’s fated energy: Two people are pulled together for a divine reason. While the focal point will certainly be an essential part of why they came together, we can easily say that any relationship is fated, Yod or no Yod. There’s a reason for all partnerships, and a synastric Yod is simply another way of defining it.

Challenging aspects in synastry can create an obsession with fixes. While a proactive approach is great, the inconjunct is a point of friction that doesn’t have a tidy solution. Hammering away at this aspect until both partners arrive at complete unity is a guaranteed way to make it worse. Adjust your respective behaviors, agree to disagree, and then consider if the imperfect solution is more satisfying because it’s unlike anything else you’ve experienced.

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About Nadia Gilchrist

Nadia Gilchrist offers over 19 years of experience in astrology. Her writings and personal consultations focus on applying practical astrological analysis to the real world. Nadia blogs regularly at Ruby Slipper Astrology.


  1. What is the energy like when a synastric yod is OPPOSED by a transiting yod, saturn being apex of both?


  2. MajjikMoon says:

    “Unlike anything else you’ve experienced”…this is what I been telling myself for the last year regarding my entyr lyf of so many words my lyf has been in constant tension to remind me that “I am alyv” & this is what it feels lyk to have REALLY LIVED.TY UNIVERSE!!

  3. thank you Nadia.

    If Partner A’s skipped step to NN, which also rules her 7H, is inconjunct Partner B’s NN, does that mean that if Partner A is able to deal with her skipped step and move towards her NN, automatically the inconjuct energy with her Partner’s NN will also be defused ?

    Her Progressed DC moving to a different sign is helping her defuse her own skipped step energy. Would it then also defuse the inconjunct energy with her Partner’s NN?

    Many thanks


  4. magiczara says:

    Thank you for addressing this. I don’t know that I’ve ever seen this aspect discussed in synastry before!

  5. When the inconjunct is between Taurus- Libra or Aries-Scorpio, isn’t it somehow a bit more compatible because of same ruler ship of Venus and Mars respectively for the two pairs (Mars being traditional ruler of scorpio)?

  6. Hey Marion (feeling accomplished), I asked the same qn to Nadia in the FAQ section of her blog, and she replied by saying that the inconjunct still applies as much despite the common rulership.

  7. @Marion
    Tense! And, in the way of Yods, paradoxical. The block (represented by Saturn) is also the release. That’s the issue that need to be worked though, but it’s extra difficult because it appears to be a wall that’s “impossible” to climb.

  8. @S
    I wouldn’t say “automatically” but Partner A dealing with her skipped step might help. However, know that an inconjunct is never diffused. It never goes away; the tension is always there and it’s up to both people to find a way to live with it. Progressed DC would have more of an impact if it was aspecting the skipped step, or the inconjunct.

  9. @magiczara
    You’re welcome. 🙂

  10. @Marion
    Regarding Taurus-Libra and Aries-Scorpio…you’d think so, but no. Taurus is Venus in her subjective, me first manifestation. Libra is Venus in her objective, you first manifestation. The two sides of Venus, which illustrates that she’s far more complex than most people give her credit for. Aries is Mars at his most impulsive, Scorpio is Mars slowing down and strategizing. As the opposites of Taurus/Libra, it brings up the whole theme of move forward/pull back.

  11. Hi Nadia, thank you.

    Sorry I did not clarify. The skipped step planet is the ruler of the sign Partner A’s 7H cusp is in. With DC progressing, wouldnt the stranglehold of the Skipped Step planet over her Partnership issues (7H) dilute ?
    If so, wouldnt that constitute “dealing with skipped step”

    Thank you

  12. Thank you. Yes, that makes a lot of sense.

  13. Hi Nadia,

    sorry an additional qn

    Would positive influences such as the following nullify the inconjunct bw A’s skipped step planet and B’s NN:

    – A’s Natal DC trining B’s NN. A’s Natal DC ruler is inconjunct B’s NN.
    – A’s Ceres conjuncting B’s NN
    – A’s Progressed DC sextile B’s NN.

    Thanks a lot!

  14. @S
    Progressed DC in sign ruled by skipped step planet: only if she makes an effort to work with her skipped step. The Progressed DC might make it easier to access that energy, but she still needs to do something with it.

    Nothing nullifies an inconjunct. It doesn’t matter how many positive aspect there are.

  15. got it! Thanks

  16. Neptune74 says:

    Very insightful article. Thanks you!

    Agree to disagree oh man how is that possible?

    I have two Yod’s in my natal chart but I will mention only one.
    this Yod is already very difficult to handel for me personally but it is been aspected closely by two planets of a person that i love very much. That person escaped two years ago for work. I think he went away because he felt that we cant possible make this relationship work. 🙁

    My natal Mars is in 12th house inconjunct Pluto in 5th house and Neptune on the 7th house cusp.
    Planets of that man strongly aspected that Yod.
    First his sun in very close conjunction (orb 0.47) with my Pluto wich means his sun also incounjunt my Mars and sextile my Neptune. (luckily his sun is also trine my ascendant and venus)

    Second (strong) aspect is of his Mars exact on my Neptune (cusp 7th house) again activating my Yod.

    Can you please explain and give some advise?
    I am stuck as always with my Yod and do not see any easy solution but I belive in power of love and hope that we could make it only if there is enough love feelings. Am i right?

    thank you very much!!!

  17. Hi Nadia. Great article on the Yod energies. I have four overlapping ones in my natal chart and now understand them better.
    There is a guy I have known a long time – we’ve recently come back into communication and we’re discussing giving ‘us’ a chance. We both have felt that there is a sort of fated feeling with us. I just started looking at our composite chart and our synastry. I discovered that he also has a Yod pattern in his chart. Ready for the kicker? It is Conjunct to my Yod – all three triangular points! Now I’m guessing that the chances of having conjunct Yod patterns is like winning the big lottery. I have been searching the Internet looking for any articles that address this and found none. I have read where a planet in one person’s chart will form a Yod with two planets in the other person’s chart, but nothing about all points conjuncting. We also have a Yod in our composite chart.
    Should I tell me Capricorn friend he is destined to be with me? Lol. Been reading up on these Capricorn guys, too. That might not go over so well if he is typical and wants to be in charge of his life!

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