Why a Man’s Venus Sign Doesn’t Always Describe the Woman He Wants

If you know a man’s Venus sign, you’ve got the inside scoop on the woman he wants (provided he’s attracted to women). Venus in Virgo means he’ll be attracted to unassuming women. A Venus in Aquarius man wants an quirky outsider. Right? Not so fast. Venus is only one piece of the puzzle. Ideally, you need to look at his entire chart. But if you had to narrow it down, a somewhat complete picture can be gleaned from the combination of his Venus sign and 7th House. Sometimes, these two contradict each other. If this is the case, the qualities of his Venus sign alone are an inaccurate description of what he’s looking for in a woman.

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About Nadia Gilchrist

Nadia Gilchrist offers over 19 years of experience in astrology. Her writings and personal consultations focus on applying practical astrological analysis to the real world. Nadia blogs regularly at Ruby Slipper Astrology.


  1. Ana M Oliveira says:

    Hi, Nadia!
    Can I say that a man with Venus (in Cancer) and Mars as the ruler of the 7nd house is only attracted to active and dynamic women but who enjoy a family life, taking care of home, cocooning…?
    But what’s the role of the Moon in a man’s chart? It helps also to define the type of woman he likes?

  2. I would love to see a similar analysis of a woman’s 7th house cusp and her Mars – this was fascinating!!

  3. Nadia, this is great. 🙂 Thank you for sharing this with us. It give us better understanding of man’s romantic needs and at the same time release us from prejudice about man’s Venus sign. I was wondering, how about progressed man’s Venus? Does progressed Venus in new sign has an effect on man’s romantic choice?

  4. Thanks, Nadia! I had wondered about this before because my partner has Aries Venus. I’m Scorpio sun AND Venus, and the two aren’t exactly compatible. But, my partner has Scorpio 7th house cusp. So… hahaha, the plot thickens!

  5. Love this article Nadia, it clears up alot of thoughts I had on this. This helps clarify things. One question I have is if the same applies to women, except you look at mars instead of venus? So mars and the 7th house!

  6. VenusHesperus says:

    This was the most kickass two and a half minutes of astrology reading EVER. What a terrific little article! You have really helped further my growth in relationship astrology today. Thank you!

  7. Thanks Nadia! Does Juno fit into this anywhere? I have read that it is the asteroid that relates to what people are looking for in a committed partnership.

  8. Ah, this makes sense. The last guy who was crazy about me had an Aries Venus and a Libra DC. I have nothing in Aries (though I do have a 1st house Mars), but I am very Libran. This article helps explain some things. Thanks!

  9. curious757 says:

    @magiczara, i noticed that too in my chart. I have in the past attracted so many Aries Venus men, also with aries stellium ( mercury/jupiter/saturn/mc ect) then having noticed my 1st house is packed, i thought hmmmm 1st house = aries. even though i am constantly trying to figure this out myself, it does make sense now. Well well well…so that’s why and now i’m married to a scorpio, also mars ruled. very very interesting. I realise that’s just the small part of the equation though. Mostly it’s water sun men with alot of fire/mars. My husband has an empty 7th house though,so i may just attribute it to his venus.

  10. curious757 says:

    oh and now i noticed why some people presume i’m an aries (due to the aries energy) but have no aries.
    i noticed too, my sister’s husbands don’t have a 7th house either, but their husbands have plenty of 12th house/10th and 11th house packed.

  11. If the composite Moon conjuncts the partner’s Venus, and the composite Venus/Mercury/Neptune conjuct his/her Moon/7th, does that mean s/he is attracted to the relationship itself?

  12. Hello Nadia

    What type of woman would a man with Venus in Aries and Pisces in the 7th be? I only know astrology slightly but have been obsessed with it all my life and sometimes find it difficult to do. I have Venus in Sagittarius and Aquarius in the 7th. Thanks

  13. @Ana M Oliveira
    From what you’ve described, yes; he would be attracted to dynamic, nurturing women. The Moon defines his feelings and needs…what he needs to feel safe. It also represents his experience with his mother.

  14. @Ag
    Stay tuned for next week’s article. 🙂

  15. @vanessa
    Great question. Progressed Venus in a new sign will describe the type of female energy he is ready to encounter at this point in his life. But his natal Venus still counts…you have to blend the two interpretations (and natal Venus is still the strongest influence).

  16. @megan
    Mars (ruler of Aries) is the traditional ruler of Scorpio, so you’re more in tune with his Aries Venus than you realize.

  17. @Ellie
    Yes, you look at a woman’s Mars…next week’s article will be all about that.

  18. @VenusHesperus
    You’re welcome!

  19. @Katie
    Yes, Juno is just as you described. Yet another piece of the relationship puzzle.

  20. @magiczara
    Interesting…that 1st House Mars obviously dominates your chart (at least for him).

  21. @Leo
    It means that she/he feels it’s natural to express their love in this relationship. It feels “right” for them to be in this partnership.

  22. @Andrea
    He’d be attracted to a dynamic/assertive woman, but if she was going to be his partner she’d have to help him express his dreams as well.

  23. MajjikMoon says:

    I was told by an astrologer that Venus in Virgo secretly arn’t looking for a mate but a mother..I know 4 guys with Virgo Venus and this would appear to be true (at least for them).But say Venus in the mothership 4th house Virgo is conj Pluto and the 7th house is in Scorpio tenanted by Neptune rules the fatherly MC, would this guy be attracted to lovers who will parent/control/deceive him? Dark Moon is in Leo conj Sun/casimi Mars in 3rd house ruled Cancer, SN conj IC and Merc also 4th
    ..squares 7th…and does 4th house Ve/Pl behave like Ve/Pl In Cancer?

  24. Hey Nadia, Idea! Maybe, you could start a dating compatibility service with the help of astro chart matching.
    Say you invite singles to register with you – men and women, and help them find who they shd date with. Ofcourse a large database may be reqd ? It could really cut down “find the right partner” time?

  25. @MajjikMoon
    I would say Venus in Virgo is looking for someone to care for him/fix things, but not specifically a mother (that’s Cancer). In the example you gave, control (from his partner and from him over his partner) is certainly mixed in with parental themes. H4 Venus/Pluto can be very similar to Venus/Pluto in Cancer, but the Virgo energy is more about nurturing in practical rather than emotional ways.

  26. @Madhumita
    I think there’s a couple of sites like that out there already. It’s a good idea, but not something I’m interested in pursuing. 🙂

  27. cool. Would you know which sites are these? i dont mind if I could take the help to get some compatible leads . Thank you

  28. astrologydating.com is one

  29. Thank you. Jeffrey. I found the site fascinating. Exactly what I had in mind. Unfortuantely, it doesnt allow entry without a US Pin Code. Writing to them to see if anything is possible.

  30. Heather Pierre says:

    If the person has a Venus in Virgo with the 7th House In Aquarius (Uranus in Scorpio in the 4th), I interpret that as a person who is attracted to a growth oriented woman who is independent and lives her life on her own terms.

    How does freedom and detachment play into Uranus in Scorpio in the 4th?

  31. This is interesting and so true. The guy I’m crazy about is a Venus/Mars/NN in Cap in the 11th (Conjunction to each other and also Conjunct Neptune and Uranus in the 11th), with Virgo DC/Psyche/Vertex, Pisces Eros, natal Jupiter in the 7th in Virgo, and Sun/Moon Midpoint in Virgo/Pisces. He is also an Aquarius Sun/Mer (Conjunction) in the 12th, with Taurus Moon in the 2nd square Saturn in the 12th.

    I’m a Cancer Sun/Mars/AC (Inconjunct both Uranus and Jupiter) with Cap Moon in the 7th (Trine Venus). I have Neptune and Uranus in the 6th and my IC in Virgo closely Square Uranus. My Taurus Venus and NN are in the 11th (Opp Saturn). I also have Neptune Conjunct my DC, and my Aquarius Jupiter in the 8th Conjunct his Sun and Mer (ie 7th house ruler) in the 12th. In addition to this our chart rulers (him Neptune, me the Moon) and Sun (him Uranus, and methe Moon) rulers are Conjunct each other. I don’t have a ton of Virgo or Pisces energy but I believe the fact that his AC falls in my MC of Pisces, and his DC falls in my IC (and me being a Cancer so the IC energy in me is strong and having my DC Conjunct Neptune) of Virgo was enough for him.

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