The natal Moon (mother) and Venus (lover) express two different types of female energy. If they form a square with each other, these energies conflict. I’ve explored what this could mean in a man’s chart, but the effects are somewhat different in a woman’s chart.
Moon Square Venus Conflict
The Moon represents a woman’s security needs and relationship with her mother. Venus describes how she expresses herself as a woman. The square sets up a conflict between what she needs to feel comfortable, and how she relates to others. There is a core uncertainty about feeling attractive, and an amplified need to sooth this uncertainty.
The root of this insecurity can be traced back to competition with her mother. This may have flared up once she became a teenager, and her sexuality was perceived as a threat (by the mother). Alternatively, her mother may have resented being a nurturer. If she felt that she had sacrificed her role as a sexual being to be a caregiver, she projected this conflict onto her daughter. Either way, the daughter absorbs these messages, and is not comfortable (Moon) expressing her femininity (Venus).
Moon Square Venus Example
[ad]Here’s an example of how this might play out: Jill’s Moon in Leo squares her Venus in Scorpio. Her mother was an actress (Leo) who put her career on hold to have Jill. Her career never quite took off, and she blamed Jill for this. Jill grew up marinating in the unspoken resentment of her mother’s unrealized dreams. As Jill matured, her magnetic Venus in Scorpio kicked in. Boys were drawn to her like flies. She sucked up all the attention that her mother wanted for herself. Meanwhile, her mother may have made little remarks about Jill “asking for the wrong kind of attention,” while pointedly refusing to compliment Jill on her appearance.
Result? Jill grows up with a ferocious need to be recognized and appreciated (Moon in Leo). That instinctive Venus in Scorpio gets her tons of romantic attention, but it always seems to be the wrong kind. Men want to have sex with her, while ignoring her feelings. Or she attracts (and is attracted to) men who already have another woman in their life. Jill understands that men are drawn to her, but this doesn’t resonate with her at a core level. She desperately wants to be a priority in someone’s life. But the more she tries to feed that Leo Moon, the more she seems to amp up her Venus in Scorpio. The tension of the square often drives her to obsessively pursue men, especially unavailable ones (Venus in Scorpio loves the forbidden).
How to Work with the Moon Square Venus Conflict
Not all Moon/Venus square scenarios are this dramatic. I’ve created this example to show how the emotional and relationship needs in a woman’s chart are at cross purposes. There’s no easy “fix” for this aspect, but it can be worked with. First, understand that any aspect between the Moon and Venus will amplify the energies of nurturing and attraction. The tension of the square creates sex appeal, no matter what signs they’re in. People (especially men) sense the conflict and want to know more. So no matter how unattractive or uneasy a woman with a Moon/Venus square feels, others are drawn to her.
The key is figuring out what the Moon wants and how to satisfy it. The healthiest way to do this is to find an outlet that is not dependent on another person. In Jill’s case, her attention-seeking Leo Moon could be satisfied with artistic pursuits or any kind of work that allows her to shine. Once the Moon is satisfied, activating the highest potentials of Venus in its sign can attract (Venus) healthier partners, and re-write her personal definition of being a woman. Jill could use Scorpio’s resourcefulness to be more discriminating (Scorpio is The Reaper and only a select few should make the cut). She could also recognize that chasing men is waste of Scorpio’s energy (they’ll come to her). She is a powerful, magnetic (Scorpio) woman (Venus) who has all the resources she needs at her fingertips.
It’s not easy to satisfy both of these energies, and the tension of the square will always be apparent. But with self-awareness, the profound needs to be loved and desired can be met in healthy ways.
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