The following excerpt is from Simply Sacred, by Fern Feto Spring and Jennifer Zurick. You can purchase this ebook at the Sasstrology Store.
Use date night to celebrate the divine in your partner through rituals that celebrate your partner’s inner love god and goddess. Venus and Mars are an important part of each person’s astrological lineup, giving you valuable information about how your partner likes to love and be loved. Blend together your planets with your partner’s to create rituals, plan activities or grow more creative in how you please each other.
Venus is how you experience love and pleasure. Mars is how you express your passion and sexuality. Venus is the planet for date night by creating dates to honor the way your partner experiences love and pleasure. Venus is courtship and romance. You can also learn how to ignite your partner’s passion by honoring Mars.
Creative Inspiration for Date Night
Take 15 minutes for this date night inspiration activity. In a separate space from your partner, write down 15 ideas for your favorite date possibilities. Don’t think about it too much … just let your imagination flow freely. Then talk about which ones appeal to you both, why and why not, and circle the top five matches. Get out a calendar and schedule your dates.
Alternatively, make an agreement that you will each write a letter, or develop an invitation for a date night, which you will mail to the other when such a night is needed. Perhaps when you are undergoing a
stressful time at work, you will receive a letter in the mail for a wonderful evening out the next day.
Venus in Air – Please the Mind
Gemini – Venus is pleased by language. Write a letter, poem or piece of prose and read it to your partner. Allow plenty of time to talk about what you wrote and what it meant. Incorporate other people into any rituals or activities you undertake and make sure there is verbal or written activity and mental stimulation. Play a game of sexy 20 questions.
Aquarius – Venus loves a surprise; plan something different and unusual that is not sentimental. This Venus appreciates excitement that is not overly emotional. Doing something slightly rebellious and a little dangerous will interest this Venus. Appeal to their inventor’s spirit by developing a new and unusual way to deepen your intimacy with each other.
Libra – Venus adores beauty and romance. Flowers, candlelight, massage, and music are the way to this Venus’ heart. The more harmonious the environment the better, and the more you beautify yourself, wearing pleasing colors, smells etc. the more interested this Venus will be. Libra appreciates a peaceful and soothing approach to love, too much noise and activity will leave them cold.
Venus in Fire – Please the Will
Sagittarius – Venus likes adventure, expansion and growth. Venus in Sagittarius wants to learn and gather experiences, both physical and mental. Plan a trip to an unusual place they’ve never been (it may take a little doing to discover such a place, but it could even be a new city neighborhood you haven’t been to in awhile), or start the evening off with a lecture or talk by an inspiring speaker.
Leo – Venus adores being showered with praise and affection and if possible generous gifts. Imagine that you are creating a ritual to honor a queen or a king. What would please this royal being you are in relationship with? Add some drama and a playful touch, a little luxury and a chance for this Venus to shine and they will be as happy as a purring cat in no time.
Aries – Venus thrills to a challenge. What is something your partner has never done before? Experiences that involve courage and action on both your parts will motivate affection and caring from Venus in Aries. The form this activity takes isn’t as important as the newness and potential risk involved, and your willingness to engage in both with gusto and verve.
Venus in Earth – Please the Body or Physical Plane
Virgo – Venus loves to be helped and to help others. Offer to walk their dog, clean their car, or fix their bike. Or, find out how they like to serve, whether it be working at a soup kitchen or meditating for world peace, and invite yourself along. Engaging in simple, routine activities like gardening, house cleaning and cooking together will bond you for life.
Taurus – Venus is so easy to please, just feed them, touch them, make a good smell, sound or sight and they will be yours. Taurus Venus adores the wonders of the five senses, especially in a predictable form. Save the surprises for other areas of life, and indulge the senses in ways that you already know this Venus appreciates.
Capricorn – Venus appreciates gifts and services that will last awhile and be an earthly form that they can show off to their friends. Longevity, status and quality are keywords to gather inspiration from. They love anything from diamond rings to the best washing machine money can buy. They also love to work, so arranging to do something practical together like food shopping will be appreciated.
Venus in Water – Please the Emotions
Cancer – Venus enjoys nesting activities. Cook this Venus something comforting and delicious, preferably a dish that connects to their family heritage. Venus in Cancer will also savor opportunities to indulge in flights of imagination. How can you create a palace of dreams for this Venus?
Scorpio – Venus is passionate with a capital P. Venus in Scorpio will enjoy a little dark drama, and a lot of intensity. Bare your heart, but in a subtle way. They will appreciate an opportunity to process that doesn’t involve too much talking. Arrange an emotionally intense experience that involves transformation and power. Sex is always good.
Pisces – Venus wants to transcend in love. They want to be in a slightly altered state of consciousness, connected to the other world and a little outside of this one. Take this Venus to the ocean. Play music and involve prayers or blessings. Venus in Pisces wants to feel connected to all of life when they love. How might you nurture and support this desire for universal connection?
About the Authors
Fern Feto Spring is a counseling astrologer, tarot reader and writer whose sessions blend intuitive and practical insight with compassion and humor. With over 20 years of experience, she incorporates a variety of tools into her consultations. Besides her private practice, Fern teaches classes and workshops nationwide. She also works as an intuitive consultant for businesses and organizations, providing counsel and facilitating organizational development workshops. More info at: www.wisestars.net
Jennifer Zurick is author and illustrator of The Alphabet of Inner Demons, a lighthearted guide to the wild beasts within. She has a bachelor’s degree in art and a master’s degree in architecture, both from UCLA. Jennifer is a director of the Burma Humanitarian Mission, which delivers medical aid to eastern Burma. She is a co-active life coach, certified medical Qi Gong practitioner, Reiki master, massage therapist, certified herbalist, and Vinyasa Yoga instructor. She fuses these modalities into a whole-system approach to personal and health and transformation through her private practice as a life coach, website: movebeyondit.com
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