Venus and the other planets in the natal chart talk to each other through connecting aspects. The resulting conversation strongly influences how you love and who you attract. Venus trine Jupiter will create a warm, generous love, while a conjunction to Pluto will smolder away at one love interest. But what happens if there is no communication between Venus and the rest of your chart?
If someone’s natal Venus makes no major aspects to the other planets in their chart, it is considered to be unaspected. Major aspects are defined as conjunctions, oppositions, squares, trines and sextiles. It’s rare that any natal planet is not connected by a major aspect. When it does happen, the energy of this rogue planet is not integrated into the rest of the chart. Like the unstable cousin locked away in the attic, it’s mostly quiet but unpredictable.
Let’s say Melanie has an unaspected Venus. She has always doubted that she is lovable, or even likeable. She questions her ability to relate to other people. Relationships are a challenge: she is constantly searching for the right man. When she is involved with someone, she has a nagging feeling that there is “more” out there. She is convinced that she is missing something that everyone else seems to have. Her unaspected Venus is the blind spot she is always looking for.
In spite of these issues, Melanie has been involved with Joe for two years. A look at their synastry reveals that Joe’s Sun conjuncts Melanie’s Venus, illuminating her blind spot. When they are together, she feels better about herself. The urge to keep searching subsides and she feels safe with Joe. Without being aware of it, she is able to act out the dormant energy of her Venus. And they both lived happily ever after. Right?
Wrong. Melanie’s relationship with Joe is an eventful beginning rather then a happy ending. Her Venus is still unaspected, even though it’s modified by Joe’s Sun. One of Joe’s complaints is that Melanie seems unable to express her love for him when he needs it. She’s great at displaying spontaneous bursts of affection such as buying him flowers for no reason. And at times she’s so giving it seems her entire existence is devoted to making him happy. But if he actively reaches out for her support, she is emotionally absent. Is she being manipulative? Passive aggressive?