Venus in Libra, Mars in Cancer Compatibility

LibraWhat happens when air and water meet? When the sky above and the watery depths below come together, they create a unique chemistry somewhat akin to the experience of watching a lightning storm unfold in the middle of the ocean. Airy Venus in Libra charms and entertains shy Mars in Cancer, gently bringing the crab out of his homey shell. Mars in Cancer relentlessly protects, nurtures and cares for Venus in Libra, providing a safe and comfortable place to retreat to. But the time always comes when Venus in Libra would rather make things look pretty than process feelings, and Mars in Cancer would rather drink cyanide than go to one more cocktail party. This is when the trouble (and the fun) begins.

CancerThe fights that result when airy coolness meets watery depth can be both passionate and intense, as Venus in Libra tries to keep things “nice” and conflict-free, while Mars in Cancer throws up his crabby walls, determined to protect the sanctuary of his own emotions and inner world. Venus in Libra wants a relationship that is peaceful, romantic and civilized. Moody displays of feeling and too much time at home are not what she has in mind. Mars in Cancer’s pincer claws need to hold on to what he loves (and tightly), and may not be agreeable to giving Venus in Libra the space she needs to breathe.

Retreating in self-protection, Mars in Cancer moves crabbily sideways, away from any potential hurts or harm. Usually, Venus in Libra is then drawn to go after Mars in Cancer, traveling deeper into the realm of emotion than she might be used to. Mars in Cancer responds with curiosity and interest, wondering what pleasurable offers Venus in Libra might have up her sleeve to soothe and attract him back out of his shell. The differences between these two can serve to be a spark that keeps things interesting, or an irritant that just won’t go away. Most often a relationship that involves this combo is an ongoing mix of both.

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  1. sunchild says:

    Fern, this is right on! Except I’m not as social of a Libra, so I don’t mind hanging out at home at all. And he’s got the ‘crabby wall’ and moodiness… it is a real challenge.

  2. I am a cancewr woman dating a libra man and all I can say is WOW! sometimes his logic is way off the charts and does nto make a bit of sense to me. I usually just ignore him until he talks himself out of his “mood”, which is usually brought on by him getting jealous of something I am doing, another man I am talking to, etc. we have a great time together and some very intense arguements. He has asked me to marry him but I am not so sure. I want to go out into the world and them come home he wants to saty home….

  3. i am a lira girl and i really like this cancer boy.hes sensitive and a bit shy when i come around.sometimes it makes it seem thats hes not even interested

  4. charming- libra
    he is more then a it shy. I have a Cancer son, and my father was Cancer too, they are very shy….I know that they LOVE affection. If you tell him something sweet, or offer him a home made cookie, yes that’s corny, these guys ARE corny…Oh and if you meet his mom, remember that he ADORES her, so say something nice about her and he will want you even more……don’t worry, he will adore the woman in his life just as much as mom one day…..Oh here is the ultimate Cancer guy snare, LOL “you have your moms eyes” they love that

  5. Oh I almost forgot, once you start going out with him constantly tell him how much you NEED him….he will never leave you

  6. gregarious-Libra says:

    I am a libra girl and the boy whom Im with is very charming and very sensative. He is not shy as Ive heard at all he is very outgoing. He says Im the girl on his mind but i cant help at being jealous when other girls try their hardest to get his attention. Should I be making other actions in order for him to take it to commitment.

  7. LIbraLady says:

    Most Cancer guys I’ve known don’t like the girls that are throwing themselves at him like the one that he chose. If he tells you that you’re the one on his mind, thats great! They don’t let go once they love someone. If you want committment, just show an interest in his familly, especially his mother LOL, they love that! If you act like familly with him and around his familly, he will never want a thing to change, he’ll want to merge your lives together. They seem to love having everything in their lives mesh together. If you’re the one on his mind while the other girls are after him then he must love you. They probably bore him. I would make him a terrific meal and stop worrying, they LOVE food just like us Libras. oh, please don’t go candy shopping together, one Libra and one Cancer in a candy shop equals 2 big waistlines. Both sign indulge , too much. I can’t shop with my son, neither one of us have will power when we shop together. My Dad was the same, (both Cancer)The problem is we love watching the other enjoy the foods we love, and we start in on the pile of cookies too….very very bad. LOL

  8. libragal22 says:

    I’m a libra woman, and i’m kind of seeing a cancer man. there are a few challenges a.) he doesn’t live here, and b.) he’s in a band. everything was going great until a few weeks ago, he just stopped responding to me. should i take this as a hint that he’s not interested? we were just planning on doing a little vacation…or maybe he got scared? is there anything i could do? i don’t want to annoy him with more texts if he isn’t replying…i just don’t know what to do 🙁

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