There are many reasons why people cheat, and it’s not just about sex. Yes, if you’re bored in the bedroom or haven’t gotten any in years, you may feel tempted to test the waters outside your relationship. But for many, their dissatisfaction is more about not feeling valued by — or attractive to — a partner.
Sex is Mars, but being appreciated by another — now that’s Venus. Traditionally, men cheat to get their rocks off (Mars), whereas women wander when they’re not feeling emotionally intimate (Venus). However, everyone has Mars and Venus in their charts.
Perhaps you have a positive, affectionate relationship in which you cuddle, caress and kiss frequently, but you don’t spend much time between the sheets. That’s a plus for Venus and a minus for Mars.
Or you screw frequently and get your animal needs met, but your sexual relations are lacking in a feeling of intimacy, and in the rest of your relationship there’s little affection. There’s no “love” in the love-making. This is a plus for Mars and a minus for Venus.
The worst is no sex and no love. That’s a minus for both.
If you’re familiar with your chart, take a look at Mars and Venus. Does one have more charge than the other? Look at the sign and house placements for each, as well as the aspects they make to other planets.
Transits to these planets can be tricky. When Mars is stimulated, you may feel driven to pursue sex outside the relationship. If you’re a straight woman or gay man, the transit may also signify a hot guy coming into your life. Likewise, the stimulation of Venus signifies a desire for more affection and closeness. For a straight man or lesbian, it could portend an introduction to a sexy lady. These can be distractions in a relationship, even if there is no intention to do anything to betray a partner.
A Uranus transit can bring someone exciting who disrupts your relationship. A Neptune transit can bring someone who appears to meet your fantasy of the ideal man or woman, and you may feel like you can get away with deceiving your partner. A Pluto transit can bring someone who is overpowering in his or her sexual magnetism, making you obsessive and intent on being secretive to taste their mysteries.
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