The Astrology of Kink: The Gemini Electric

Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. This time, we’ll try to catch the elusive Gemini in action.

Above all else, Gemini likes variety. Gemini can’t handle boredom, including boredom in the bedroom. This sign approaches sex like some people approach potluck dinners: a little of this, a little of that, and a little more of that mystery casserole they couldn’t quite identify the first time around. They will usually try anything once, just to see what it’s like.

Sexual curiosity is one of Gemini’s most attractive features, though it can lead to a desire for multiple partners. While one option is infidelity and revolving-door relationships, another is polyamory. Gemini is well-suited to multiple-partner or open arrangements, if they can learn to make (and keep!) the mutual agreements that are involved. The Twins are not possessive or territorial by nature, and they have more than enough chatty charm to satisfy two or three steady partners at once.

But the actual Mercury sex drive isn’t the strongest, especially in the Gemini Mars. The Twins are rarely the smoldering-volcano-of-barely-suppressed-lust types; their energy is light, flirtatious, and inquisitive. Like uncontained low-voltage electricity, it darts and sparkles, barely touching down. Sometimes the Gemini libido behaves like a demon-possessed light switch, switching itself on and off at inopportune moments. It usually resurfaces again just as quickly, though, often at a surprisingly different wavelength.

Other chart factors can add sensuality and passion, but for the most part Gemini is more imaginative than physical. They shine at verbal sex, be it flirtation, phone sex, or dirty talk (they’re often fantastic at oral as well) and some folks with multiple planets in Gemini actually prefer noncontact relationships to physical encounters. Most Gemini people are good with their hands, too, and like cooperative masturbation.

Above all, they’re flexible. Their adaptability often leads to a wide variety of experiences and lifestyles. Bisexuality is common in both Gemini men and women, and the transition between same-sex and opposite-sex situations is seamless. All of the mutable signs tend to bisexuality, but Gemini is more dual than most; a monosexual Gemini is almost a contradiction in terms.

This flexibility is also noticeable when they flit into range of the BDSM spectrum. Most Gemini lovers are either bottoms or, more often, perfectly happy switches. Without a strong Saturn or Pluto influence, the responsibilities of the dominant roles aren’t natural to the light Twin energy, but switching roles is fun for them. In fact, role-playing and sexual games of all kinds can interest Gemini (for a few minutes, at least.) Manufacturers of explicit board games rely on the Mercury market to stay in business; who else but the Mercury-ruled would want to combine that much talking and thinking with sex?

Gemini is the sexual chameleon of the zodiac, and its only real fetish is variety. If you enjoy a lighter approach to sexuality, with plenty of electric sparkle and imagination thrown in, find a Gemini Sun, Mars, or Venus. With a Gemini partner, the only guarantee is that you’ll never get bored — if you can keep up, that is!

About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?

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  1. Mercurian says:

    I’m a Gemini / Libra male, with Moon in Leo and Mars in Gemini…and yes, the sex drive is sky-high, i’m very electric, the bullet of energy πŸ˜€ and i definitely don’t like to be submissive, so that’s BS. Gems are not like that, so the person who stated she was submissive, def. has some other aspects contributing to that. Gemini’s are very dominant in nature. Personally i adore Libra women, and think we are the best match in astrology, the chemistry between us is just amazing <3 Would like to try sex with all signs so that's not a problem πŸ˜€ I like open and daring girls though, not the shy ones like Cancer. I think fellow Air and Fire signs are best for us. Kisses to all who truly feel us Gemini men πŸ˜‰

  2. Aqua808Ecs says:

    This is interesting. I’m currently engaged to a Gemini man. I don’t know much about the charts so I can’t give you an accurate discription about my man. I’m an Aquarius woman.
    Our chemistry is unbelievable. Never felt a spark in a kiss before until we had our first kiss. Although he is a bit lacking in the sexual side.
    Oh he has the energy… Just not the experience. Not only cause he’s YOUNGER than me. *wink wink*
    Anyways, I’m slowly opening him up to the FemDom side of me he never seen… I don’t wanna scare the boy away. But with the cuffs to me and blind folds, I know it turns him on besides myself. He’s told me before that he’s wanted to try a 3 some but I’m not into that kind of thing because how I am, if I’m to please sexually, it’s only to that one who I want to please for a LONG TIME. He later on forgot the whole thought.
    We’re in love and this boy will get to that Kinky state.. but not yet…
    I’m gonna wait till our Honeymoon. LOL

  3. about sexual astrology like male masturbation for capricorn

  4. I’m a Gemini female . This post is accurate but I guess there’s a difference of gender in here because I do not like to be a dominant. I am submissive and I can even be a slave πŸ˜€
    Oh and about multiple partners don’t think I will mind a threesome or more πŸ˜‰

  5. I m a Gemini Venus … Exactly what you described…

  6. I let my Libra ex fight me beat me and pee on me I was obsessed over him I’m a Gemini woman every sign is not the same there are 3 different types of Geminis cancers Leo’s Virgos Libras etc 3 different types of you and a natal chart to prove further more even Egyptians knew some characteristics you couldn’t calculate I’m just now finding out my ex put me in a state of subspace when he beat me look up subspace! That shit made me sleep in the corpse position and made me have lucid nightmares what kind of sorcery is that I think I’d rather let my future husband have alot of wives I don’t give a fuck

  7. Its like your telling my story.goose bumps yike,every word

  8. SoldierBoy says:

    Wow, this fits me to a T. I’m straight and only engage in straight mf relationships, but have been fantasizing and experimenting with bisexuality for many years.

  9. ShiningGem ( says: a gemini girl i got to say this does not go to me. At all.
    i hate, hATE cheating and cheaters, so heck to the no to all the multiple partners BS. That’s the kind of stuff that makes us look bad to the other signs. Like we some players or something. Most of us are just looking for the “one”, our missing half mostly. I mean, i can be as kinky as my love wants me to be but i doubt i would be interested in threesoomes or any somes tbh.

    But i wouldn’t mind rough sex or bdsm.

  10. ShiningGem says: a gemini girl i got to say this does not go to me. At all.
    i hate, hATE cheating and cheaters, so heck to the no to all the multiple partners BS. That’s the kind of stuff that makes us look bad to the other signs. Like we some players or something. Most of us are just looking for the “one”, our missing half mostly. I mean, i can be as kinky as my love wants me to be but i doubt i would be interested in threesoomes or any somes tbh.

    But i wouldn’t mind rough sex or bdsm. And it is true we like variety. :3
    and maybe the bi is true . but only because we are so openminded and can be really jugde free.

    But that cheating stuff don’t fly with me. Maybe it just depends on the gem? And also, “light sex”, no. I wouldn’t mind some hard, intense, passion love making if you know what i mean. Who wouldn’t? Light sex don’t sound appeal. I like sexy and sexual things just as much as the other signs. But just surprise us, that all that means~ ?

  11. Started dating a Gemini who was HIV positive. I later got to know she’s been sleeping with a married man (I caught her in the act). she promised to change but kept contact with the man. I had to fight her out of it, but deep in me, I still don’t trust her whenever she’s going out alone. I’m an Aquarius.

  12. I find Geminis good people, but can be two-faced and not the most loyal (same with Libras). I’m an Aquarius man and I bet a Libra partner (man or woman) is permitted. I’m straight though, but a polyamorous relationship is based on trust, mutual agreement and responsibility. +

  13. i am a gemini male with scorpio rising
    and i uber dominant , high sex drive ,
    and do not cheat , lots of fantasies about women yes but i love my woman and i do not cheat on her .

    love sex , especially in sultry bedroom with small ventilator to give us litlle extra air

    i want to fuck , not all the kisses and i love you , but when both totally done then i love it to kiss and say sweet things ..

    during sex i am very controling and take lead , i once tried to be submissive to my woman but was 2 minutes ..

    it is just not me .

    really like kinky sex but not like a pervert or something , just kinky and rough and sweaty .. thats about it

    sorry , i cannot talk for all gemini males but i like to spank a woman while taking her from behind , and call her some ” names ”

    sorry ladies .. maybee it is just me .
    and not typicall gemini men.

    after it all i am sweetest you can ever have .

    for sure , i can deeply love a woman.

    take care you all

    enjoy sex , but keep it real and keep aaay from perversions .

    he is made for pumping ?

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