Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. This time, we’ll try to catch the elusive Gemini in action.
Above all else, Gemini likes variety. Gemini can’t handle boredom, including boredom in the bedroom. This sign approaches sex like some people approach potluck dinners: a little of this, a little of that, and a little more of that mystery casserole they couldn’t quite identify the first time around. They will usually try anything once, just to see what it’s like.
Sexual curiosity is one of Gemini’s most attractive features, though it can lead to a desire for multiple partners. While one option is infidelity and revolving-door relationships, another is polyamory. Gemini is well-suited to multiple-partner or open arrangements, if they can learn to make (and keep!) the mutual agreements that are involved. The Twins are not possessive or territorial by nature, and they have more than enough chatty charm to satisfy two or three steady partners at once.
But the actual Mercury sex drive isn’t the strongest, especially in the Gemini Mars. The Twins are rarely the smoldering-volcano-of-barely-suppressed-lust types; their energy is light, flirtatious, and inquisitive. Like uncontained low-voltage electricity, it darts and sparkles, barely touching down. Sometimes the Gemini libido behaves like a demon-possessed light switch, switching itself on and off at inopportune moments. It usually resurfaces again just as quickly, though, often at a surprisingly different wavelength.
Other chart factors can add sensuality and passion, but for the most part Gemini is more imaginative than physical. They shine at verbal sex, be it flirtation, phone sex, or dirty talk (they’re often fantastic at oral as well) and some folks with multiple planets in Gemini actually prefer noncontact relationships to physical encounters. Most Gemini people are good with their hands, too, and like cooperative masturbation.
Above all, they’re flexible. Their adaptability often leads to a wide variety of experiences and lifestyles. Bisexuality is common in both Gemini men and women, and the transition between same-sex and opposite-sex situations is seamless. All of the mutable signs tend to bisexuality, but Gemini is more dual than most; a monosexual Gemini is almost a contradiction in terms.
This flexibility is also noticeable when they flit into range of the BDSM spectrum. Most Gemini lovers are either bottoms or, more often, perfectly happy switches. Without a strong Saturn or Pluto influence, the responsibilities of the dominant roles aren’t natural to the light Twin energy, but switching roles is fun for them. In fact, role-playing and sexual games of all kinds can interest Gemini (for a few minutes, at least.) Manufacturers of explicit board games rely on the Mercury market to stay in business; who else but the Mercury-ruled would want to combine that much talking and thinking with sex?
Gemini is the sexual chameleon of the zodiac, and its only real fetish is variety. If you enjoy a lighter approach to sexuality, with plenty of electric sparkle and imagination thrown in, find a Gemini Sun, Mars, or Venus. With a Gemini partner, the only guarantee is that you’ll never get bored — if you can keep up, that is!
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
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