[ad]Leather and lace, fringe and fetish…in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Now it’s Cancer’s turn, and there’s more to this sign than homemade cookies and apron strings.
Yes, Cancer is a very nurturing, maternal sign, and “maternal” doesn’t always jibe with “hot sex” in our cultural imagination. Many Crabs do tend to wear a prudish-looking shell, especially in public — but for the most part it’s just an act, designed to protect sensitive sexual emotions. And yes, Cancerian sexuality is always tied to emotionality, and it takes a while for this sign to open up — but once they do, they can be very intense, not to mention kinky in a very unique way.
Since Cancer traditionally rules the breast, it’s said that Cancerians are boob men (or boob gals, as the case may be.) This is often true, but here’s another tidbit: Crabs like bums, too. They often love rear-entry positions and anal sex, as well as spanking. If spanking, paddling, or caning is one of your turn-ons, whether male or female, spanker or spankee, you can usually find a Cancer happy to oblige.
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[show_to accesslevel=’All-Access’]If this can be turned into a discipline game, so much the better. Cancer females can really get into a good game of “dirty teacher/naughty student,” and Cancer males can make great naughty students themselves. While Cancer may not seem like the best candidate for the Domination Top Ten, they can surprise the unsuspecting.
Leather and spikes are not to their taste, though. Cancerian domination is more emotional, and often results in situational scenarios that tease the sense of vulnerability and taboo rather than pain or physical submission. A Cancer with a strong dose of Mercury (particularly Virgo on the Ascendant or Mars in Virgo) can also enjoy medical play, ranging from NC-17-rated “dirty nurse” games, to fantasies that involve elaborate setup, special equipment, and at least an XX rating.
They don’t make good swingers. This is a very partnership-oriented sign, and they prefer to stay one-on-one. It’s hard for Cancer to open up sexually, and once they do, they usually feel deeply bonded. While one tends to find fewer Cancerian lesbians and gay men than average, those that are same-sex oriented are often completely same-sex oriented — there’s nothing bisexual about them.
Casual sex isn’t an option, either, for either single or coupled-up Crabs. They may try it every now and then, but they miss the emotional depth and nuance they find with a long-term partner. One Cancerian described one-night-stands thus: “It’s like eating cheese puffs for dinner, when what you really wanted was steak.”
Indeed. Substance is what Cancer craves. If you’re looking for a partner who naturally excels at the emotional aspects of sexuality, look for the Sun, Moon or Venus in Cancer, or Cancer on the Ascendant. Once you’re allowed behind the tough exterior shell, you’ll find a sexy, erotic creature who can fulfill the most intimate and specialized of desires: yours.[/show_to]
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
Laura…as usual terrific stuff!! I have Cancer on the DC and I attract men with Cancer Asc/Venus/Mars.
And yes, Cancerian sexuality is always tied to emotionality, and it takes a while for this sign to open up
Absolutely!! These, simply put, are men who love women…”love” being the key word their lusty side comes off less ‘sexy’ as you know and more intimate, loving. They want to be your sensitive knight-in-shining -honor type. They would rather see you swoon than pant in lust, and will put you up on a pedestal and do whatever you ask in milliseconds when they are in love.
Leather and spikes are not to their taste
My experience is to think lacy, sweet lingerie…very very feminine. The dudes with that strong Cancer influence I’ve been with love white, they would buy me white lingerie all the time (I also get lots of little things with hearts on it…remember: love!)!
You’d think most guys would think it’s too “matrimonial” but Cancer wants nothing more than to fantasize your his one and only chaste bride!
And of course, whether you are packing A’s or DDD’s make sure they get visibility if your trying to catch a crab. Size is not the issue, rather that they are shelved correctly and seem accessible.
@Laura, why the bum? Because it’s Moon-shaped, or is there a more philosphical reason?
shelved correctly and seem accessible … sounds like a commodity
@ Jeff…. I’m a Capricorn..of course I believe my breasts to be a commodity! (I once had a bra that gave me so much cleavage I called it ‘the display case’)
Hey, I read a theory that womens breasts and cleavage simulates the look of the butt, and that is why it’s attractive to men as humans are one of the very few creatures that mate face-to-face.
Maybe thats the reasoning?
@Jeff: Do butt people really need a philosophical reason to be attracted to them??
But if I were pressed, I might venture into vaguely Freudian territory…ties between nourishment/nurturing (boobs) and elimination/control & punishment (booty) though elimination belongs more properly to Virgo. However, though I appreciate most forms of psychosexual theorizing as theory, it’s often reductive and limiting, at least as it’s commonly applied. There’s entirely too much “normalizing” stigma applied to sexuality, and it’s tough to go there without appearing to share in the same normalizing morality!
(Sorry for the soapbox rant…you started it, you know, honorary Scorpio that you are.)
@Angeline: Aren’t the Crab guys sweet? I tend to attract them too. I totally agree about the virginal lingerie, and
They would rather see you swoon than pant in lust
is a perfect description.
And yeah, boobs are most certainly accessories, important weapons in the sex wars…otherwise, what’s the point? There’s that whole breastfeeding thing, sure, but most of the time, they’re just in the way. If the creator hadn’t meant for us to use them creatively, she’d have given us a lifetime supply of Similac instead.
We should do a Seduction Central cheesecake calendar!
Julius Caesar, I believe, was a Cancer. He was once described by Roman politician Curio the elder as “every woman’s man, and every man’s woman” for his reputed sexual habits.
See here: People with a History.
I could be wrong about Caesar being a Cancer. If so, I’ll save it for his real sign 🙂
@Mary, Julius Caesar is believed to be a solar Leo. His birthdate is listed as July 12th 100BC. However 100 BC was a year of the pre-Julian calendar. When you actually convert that (there’s actually a formula to do so), to an equivalent in the Julian Calendar (changed after 46BC, after the fall of the Roman empire), the date comes to somewhere in the first 2 weeks of August, hence a solar Leo.
I know this has nothing to do with astrology or the main topic here, but I thought I would clarify.
@Laura, it would be all too easy for an analyst to pathologize any number of “deviant sexual acts.” By the way, would a Cancer man want the kind of girl just like the girl who married dear old dad?
Shygirl, ohh.. so that’s not the date in Gregorian calendar?
@TUU, I'm not an expert on this topic, but it's my understanding that the Gregorian calendar is a modification of the Julian calendar (which in itself is a modified version of the pre-Julian calendar).
The Gregorian calendar, I think has 10 less days/year than the Julian calendar, so it's quite likely that the date could change even from the Julian to the Gregorian calendar.
But it's definitely not the same date between the pre-Julian & the Julian calendars. The pre-Julian, I think had only 10 months, followed the lunar cycle and had 50 some days each winter completely unaccounted for.
I’ve been living with a cancer male for 6.5 years now, and not only is his sun in cancer, so are both venus and mars, all conjunct.
He is as kinky as all hell, dominant, and though not outwardly expressive of it (he doesn’t look kinky) he is extremely adept at wielding leather toys and many other things. He’s also a master at giving pleasure and it all has a physical, or even psychological base, but not much of an emotional one.
It took him all of 3 seconds to open up sexually, and that was by pushing me onto the bed and pinning me down, telling me very explicitly what he was going to do to me. He is at least starting become ‘heteroflexible’ and is quite open to the idea. His last relationship was completely open, ours is somewhat open, and we have been known to swing from time to time. His past relationship he did much more of it though, and has very much enjoyed that type of thing.
So, either my guy is not the norm, or this one is a bit off the mark. I do not have his time of birth unfortunately, but his moon is in Sagittarius. I think the Sag moon gives him a bit of a harsher and more adventurous demeanor than your average cancer.
He is loving, sweet, caring and romantic with me, not with anyone else and no one would guess he has that side. He was that way immediately as well, our love hit us like a ton of bricks, and quickly.
Anyhow, whatever he’s not supposed to be, he is. He is the kinkiest most open and sexually uninhibited partner that I’ve ever had, with me and others.
Wow, Valkyrie…my question is: where can I get one of those? At least for a couple of weeks?
It my experience, it’s not quite the norm for Cancer in general, but whatever the case, you have my sincerest congrats! Good, creative lovers are tough to find…when you happen to be in love with one, so much the better….
Shygirl: Thanks for the clarification. Honestly, I had always wondered about that – I always saw Caesar listed under “Famous Cancers” and went with that. But he does seem more Leo, doesn’t he?
In that case, I’ll save my kinky historical factoids for the Kink of Leo thread 🙂
My guy has sun/moon/merc/asc in Cancer. He’s very sweet and tender, but I am starting to see his more “passionate” side! We’ve been together 2 1/2 months and I can definitely see he is opening up more. I have no boobs, but he luuuuvs the booty! He doesn’t like receiving oral, though – I don’t know why – and he certainly doesn’t give it (yet). He’s 11 years younger than me, so I am trying to not be as sexually aggressive (don’t want to scare him, lol)
Lol! I’m not sure Laura, I found mine (get this) next door. He’s the boy next door too. *laughs*
I do tend to agree, most of the other cancer boys I know (and there are several, I seem to be drawn to them) aren’t quite like him, and are more typical. The part I find strange is that he has much more cancer in him, with those personal planets, than the others have.
I once discussed it with someone who said that cancer people easily project their moon sign, being moon-children, and he is very sag-like.
In any case, I am quite happy to have him, and I know how lucky I am. He blew my mind with the most wild sex imaginable, then said to me (and here comes the cancer) “let’s cuddle”.
@valkyri and laura — take a sun-mars-venus conjunction in any sign, and you’ll have someone who’s aggressive/dominant and focused on pleasure. the cancer just colors it.
…take a sun-mars-venus conjunction in any sign, and you’ll have someone who’s aggressive/dominant and focused on pleasure. the cancer just colors it….
Not always true. My Ex has the Sun-Mars-Venus conjunction in Cancer (sitting right on top of my Cancer ascendant) and he has none of the qualities that you’ve mentioned. I guess all rules are proved by an exception.
maybe he didn’t pin you down and tell you what he was going to do with you, but barring other factors a sun-mars native is going to have strong martian qualities.
Jeffrey, Good point!
Pah. My Cancer man is the most BORING, unimaginative, lazy SOB I’ve ever had the displeasure of marrying. I WISH he was more like the “typical” Cancer spoken about here.
I’ve had more luck with Capricorns, Tauruses and Scorpios than Cancers. And I’m a Crab meself. (Scorp ascending, Taurus Moon/Mars conjunct, Venus Leo.)
I’m married to a Cancer and let me tell you, 10 years of marriage, and hes always wanting sex!! he has to be the horniest man alive!! and let me tell you he is all about figuring out what does it for me, as if that ones is 1st priority!! My biggest concern is loosing him!! unfortunetly a friend did our charts…. she didn’t want to come out and say it but it seems in my chart it indicates the the death or loss of my partner??? Can astrology really predict something like that???????????????
I’m married to a Cancer and let me tell you, 10 years of marriage, and hes always wanting sex!! he has to be the horniest man alive!! and let me tell you he is all about figuring out what does it for me, as if that ones is 1st priority!! My biggest concern is loosing him!! unfortunetly a friend did our charts…. she didn’t want to come out and say it but it seems in my chart it indicates the the death or loss of my partner??? Can astrology really predict something like that???????????????
Dear Anonymous:
Astrology is wise but GOD is all powerful, almighty and able to do anything you ask him to in Jesus name…! Use your advice as a stepping stone to intervine and turn a potentially bad outcome into a marvelous blessing 🙂 Good luck girl!
Hi Vessel, as a Cancerian myself- I know what you mean hehe.
One of the original uses for astrology was to infact, predict death. If you bore a son for example whose chart signified a short life- well it would be back to the bedroom with your husband to produce another son!
These days, your everyday astrologer will shy away from predicting death as many astrologers see every bad aspect, transit, progression whatever as another bloody growth opportunity (excuse the aussie accent). The reality is that everyone dies- why should it be taboo? However the trauma associated with this non negotiable event is diabolical!
Firstly in regard to your friend, is he/she a professional, die hard obsessed astrologer or is she one of those backyard astrologers that permeate our craft? It would be interesting if you could share the astro information that lead her to come to that conclusion. Predicting death is not an easy feat and even the old texts from centuries ago I’m sure only share the success stories and not the times the astrologer got it wrong- or it would be off with their head!
That said, many death charts have Jupiter being the main factor going on.
If all is not rosy with the charts- just keep enjoying that Cancerian sex!
I’m a Cancer with an Aries rising and a venus in Cancer, moon in Capricorn…… I do dress in a conservative manner, however- I am very dominant, very loving, yet also a sadist, and a damn good one at that… It has been most difficult to find a partner to relate to on an emotional level, but easy to find people that desire me for my talents in the community. I have repeated relations with Geminis and Leos for some reason and am at a loss. I would think of all the kinky signs I would be most aligned with a Scorpio, but I have never been mentally attracted to them. So where oh where is my mate? … may 2009 bring them! Happy New Year Everyone!
Well am a cancer,wid moon in sagitarius….nd dated a gal gemini,moon aqua…for nearly 4 yrs….wateva u wrote abt sex was true…she jst culdnt du widout it,bt then there was some sort of loss of emotional connection…d relation goes perfect for sometime but ends up with miseries and fites…call it abusive…we had a split finally….she was d first gal in my life…nd i just find it hell uncomfortable to let it go…do cancer really get over?i cnt even hook up bk 2 d woman m still in luv with coz we end up miserable..
I’m a cancer gal and i’ve been into this Aries guy for sometimes now and i think i’ve bee rejected many times but i just can’t let go… Everytime i talk to him, he always manage to say something hurtful to me, he’s always critisizing me but when i think of the good times we have at the onset of the so call “realtionship,” i just can’t let go (we were never trully committed to each other)… I stop calling him but he’s always on my mind and i’m afraid that i’ll break down one day and call… He was truly a Knight in shining armor for me and all sense of the word… What a girl to do?????? I guess i’m not one of those mature cancers i read about
Philippe-LET HIM GO. He’s not worth it! I know what your going through I’ve been there. You pretty much said he talks down to you and makes you feel bad about yourself. and worse he’s an aries and your showing yourself as available therefore he’s not interested Aries are known for loving THE CHASE. But trust me I don’t see you guys working out anyway he doesn’t even have enough sensitivity to be nice to you. Take the hint he’s giving you and go find someone better and move on with your life. Then out of the blue he’s probably going to come looking for you. SAY NO. RUN. ’cause he’ll put you through it again. Thats all I have to say. Best of luck! *virtual hug*
CANCER MALE LOVES BUMS IN PARTICULAR.
Hater, yes I noticed that..
Fondling your hand and saying they don’t want “to hurt you” wow astrology IS a true thing then!!
But from my special detective ways I prob. never caught him lyin’..
k, sorry this is looong:
So do cancerians suddenly manipulate you, or tease you, like, maybe to cut hope with being more than friends by talking about another girl(dunno when he was seeing her I almost knew what he did most of the days and saw him as well) you stay away and when you casually talk again and mention some guy who showed up in your life that you knew years ago(for his luck it’s a guy he knew from college too and good looking) then everything gets back to normal a few days later with him even initiating contact online, and you find them available and even willing to join your weekend trips with other friends, ask how your day was and even carry your beach/short trip unheavy bag, for you..passes by late at night “to say hi” and/or drive you home..??
Can someone’s mood or thought change in a day or less? I am always scared of this rollercoaster but he has never hurt me or said something mean to me..always nice and responsive also honest as I mentioned above..so what is the deal and how can I make him want more than friendship?
btw he has moon in capricorn, venus in gemini and mercury in cancer, as for me am a sag. with moon in aquarius, venus in capricorn and mercury in sag. too..
and mars in virgo lol
I dont get it, it says in here and many other places that cancer men are so emotional and would never want to hook up but the last cancer guy i talked to sounded like he wanted friends with benefits just cuz all he would talk to me about was sex and how far ive gone and i know he’s a venus in gemeni but still…his moon sign is picses and sun sign is cancer, do you think he had any real feelings for me at all?!?!?!!
dollcake…
i am a cancer n let me tell u that our moods r the most unpredictable thing ever… we act the way we feel…. in a typical day i go thro 5 diff moods … im diff wid my friends we laf n joke..n as soon as i am alone n i think of my personal life my mood changes…n it changes drastically especially if the relationship isnt gng so well…. small things really matter to us … my bf is an aquarius n sometimes he would just be really cold… that would change my mood completely from being hyper to extremely mooody…!!
Also i talk to my bf all the time bout other guys just to see if he cares…i knw its kinda fucked up but its the way i like him to show love…a bit of possessiveness is always good… however wen he talks about any girl i get crazy paranoid n give him all the attention in the world… we r really jealous ppl wen we’re in love…. we consider someone else as a threat immediately… even if my bf said he had a nice time with some girl… i would take it personally n consider it as a threat… i may not show it to him but i will make an extra effort with him…
i hope this helps!!!! ow n ul never be able to figure out how he feeels cos we r too secretive that wayy… learn from his actions and y he says wat he says…n once he opens up with u he will be really expressive ul be surprised..!!
cancers dont plunge into anything that fast….they have a lot to give emotionally n therefore they wait to see if the person is worth it or not !! if they r really attracted to the person they will go for it immediately and give a lot of love…. if they r not sure about the person they will take their sweet time… !! Another thing is they dont make approaches without knowing how u feel about them first…
try getting the point across about how u feel….n see how he reacts…if the response is warm then that means he is into you n he was jus waiting to know from your side…!! if the response is awkward it means he is not into u and debating about you as a person .. whether he feels that connection or not…
cancerians like to converse n be emotionally stimulated…the feelin of safety is the best feeling for us even tho we may look really adventurous n all….most of all if ur friendship leans towards romance thn that is the best thing since cancerians have a thing for romance…
but once u find out his feelings for u…u can be sure that they r going to be deep and mostly long lasting…!! we dont like to hurt anybody thats y we r extra careful n dont like to give the wrong message… however if the romance is really good we may lead the person on widout knowing…!!
good luck !
SIGH..well it’s along story though..I don’t remember where I have reached here, but the guy is so weird he suddenly kept switching and changing his facebook pics then removed me from his list, I thought itmight be a mistake then a few weeks later he blocked me and wouldn’t answer my or (even mom)’s IMs on msn, this has NEVER happened before and am going crazy cuz our last phonecall was very normal and even pleasant, we were friends not more also..but I have feeelings for him, but, what the heck happened to make him do this to me??
Also I don’t know whatis with me this year with crabs lol and they are all in late june! there is this guy I know from work and he and I sstarted getting closer lately..we were not speaking almost at all when he first came last december..(june 27th, the last guy june 28th) another one who knew me thru the same girl who introuced me to the first one, lol, june 27th also!!!!
And another guy who used to date a friend years ago(she is happily married now)lives abroad and keeps flirting with me online and we play games on FB together etc.., june 29th!!!
loool Tell me it’s still a coincidence eh!!
My boyfriend xperienced on of those swinger relationships that he stil reminisce on. Crazy swinger relationships that he misses (not the women so much). But being that I’m have so many earth in my main planets I’m not that type of person willing to live that lifestyle in order to please him. What do I do with a Mars in Leo, Moon in Leo and Venus in Taurus male & Solar Cancer? When I am a Solar Scorp, Moon in Taurus, Mars&Venus in Virgo women? I need help. We’ve been dealing with each other for almost a year with no real grounding of this relationship. Are we the least bit compatible and worth the fight?
Wow. Seriously this is a cancer guy all the way! I think it’s funny how everyone sAys a cancer and a libra won’t work but omg I couldn’t see myself with any other sign! I think the compatabilyity is amazing! I don’t know what moon I’m in but I’m born on september30 and he’s July 13. I have been with hi
for almost a year and he is the sweetest most amazing person I have ever met. The opening up is completly true as well. At first I almost thought somtething was wrong , he took awhile to open up. But now I love it! There’s always somehing new! If he hasn’t done or truer something yet it’s just a matter of time. Intamicy is nonexistent unless they trust you 100% and open up to you. You have to open up to them to. They don’t like to be doubted in their love but that’s a mistake I make as a libra sometimes. Me being a libra I love flattery generosity and luxary. Not even quoting it’s completly true! My cancer
man always buys me gifts, flowers and is thinking about me and makeing me feel special and one hundred percent his. And they like the bum more than might be thought. t least mine loves my booty lol. They definatly go after breasts but not in an ocerwhelmig way. This is a little difficult for me becuase I am self concilhs about mine, always wanting to be perfect of course. But he never seems to have any issue with them And I really should just het over it becuase he obviously loves them.
My cancer man is amazing I love him to death!
my friend does tarto cards and she told me that the death does not necessarily mean that someone physcially dying. it could mean the death of a relationship.
anyhow, i am a cancer woman and i know when i am being boring, but as a cancer, we tend to bounce off of the situation-not to say that you are boring or anytthing, but we can be quiet and not exciting if we feel there is a threat to our feelings or well being. sometimes we wait too long to do something. i always look for nonverbal cues.
Thats why I’m so attracted Cancers, and they cry during sex, I love it but why do they do that????
yeah my best friend is a cancer and she once mentioned to me the crying after sex thing, I guess it is like tears of joy
lol
Dollcake
yeah, they let it all out mmmmmm those sweet high-pitch moans mmmm damn lol but yeah I do agree with that tears of joy statement I love it when they beg u to stop while their crying that just makes me wanna go even longer but they don’t mean it though, so whats ur sign?
Because I’m lusting after a Cancer, can someone give me an example or two of just hat this sentence is referring to? I have an idea but I’d like an example.. 🙂
“Cancerian domination is more emotional, and often results in situational scenarios that tease the sense of vulnerability and taboo rather than pain or physical submission.”
yesss
well am a sagi
I love the way he subtly touch my assets
it drives me crazy!
currently there are 3 crabs in love with me lol
oh and about the breasts, he would wet his finger and put it on my nipple, then play with it
aaaah
Dollcake
Girl u nasty 🙂
lmfao couldnt resist not telling xD
Dollcake
LOL
so why the screen name, u a goat? aka capricorn? lol
Dollcake
Yes I am