The Astrology of Kink: Taurus the Hedonist

Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Let’s take a closer look at the pleasure-hungry Taurus.

Taurus is the most sensual influence in the zodiac, bar none. Ruled by Venus, Taureans live to be pleasurably stimulated. Great food, good wine, fine music, long afternoons spent lounging in lavish comfort — if it involves pleasing sensations, Taurus is there.

In the bedroom, this is an obvious plus. There’s no sign like Taurus for creating a lavish experience out of even the simplest sexual encounter; decadent foreplay is one of their specialties. The sense of taste, in particular, is highly developed. Whole-body oral exploration turns them on (so long as you taste nice) and many Taureans like to incorporate food into sexual scenarios. Does the idea of sharing a ripe mango in the shower turn you on? The more senses involved, the more Taurus likes it.

This hedonistic tendency is tied inextricably to self-indulgence. They’re always quick to take the less active position, such as lying prone with the partner on top. With Venus, however, this is not due to a desire to be dominated; it’s due to the “Please me!” nature of Venus herself. Like any self-respecting romance novel heroine, Venus wants to lie back and … well, be pleasured. So long as it feels good, Taurus is content to sit back and enjoy the scenery.

In fact, Taurus alone isn’t very kinky at all. The stronger the Taurean influence, the more conservative the sex drive. This holds true even in nonstandard relationships, such as same-sex or poly. It’s not that Taurus is inhibited — it’s definitely not — but Taurus prefers to stick with the tried-and-true pleasures that have worked so well in the past. (This tendency is strongest in the Taurus Mars, where some of the Venusian sensuality is lost, as well.) To find a truly experimental Taurus, you’ll need to look for other influences, such as Aquarius/Uranus, or Scorpio/Pluto.

A Bull who is heavily influenced by Pluto, though, is an altogether different animal. Incredible tops, these people funnel all the subtle power of Pluto through the sensuality of Venus. They have the inner strength and sexual confidence to pull off the most sensually erotic domination scenarios — teasing, sensual “torture,” and other methods of eliciting protracted sensational response are favorites. These people are often an irresistible force of erotic nature.

However, this combination can also tend toward cruelty. Agreed-upon boundaries and safe words must be treated as law, or simple scenarios can become dangerous. Venus is loving, sure, but like her counterpart Mars, she’s also inherently selfish. Even non-Plutonian Taureans require a firm assertion of your own needs and wishes; otherwise, they become so caught up in their own pleasure that your desires — and sometimes your basic comfort and safety — are completely forgotten.

Taurus is the sensualist of the zodiac, and can experience the physical pleasures of sex like no other. Touch, taste, sound, smell … this sign wants it all. If your appetites are compatible with this earthy vibe, look for the Sun or Venus in Taurus, or for this sign on the Ascendant. And don’t forget to bring the mangoes….

About the Author

Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?

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  1. @ wulkure

    let the margin be NO MORE than 10 yr difference PLEASE U have NO CLUE yeah she may have more experience inside & outside of the room VERY TRUE but u’ll NEVER catdch up to her thts j/t MORE wisdom she has & NOT you !!!! & in the long run…..U’ll realize u flubbed up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BAD !!!!!!!!!!! Coming from I’m 35 my very soon 2 b ex husband is 52 …..17 yrs my senior , 2 kids later & I’m in the PRIME of my life & he’s in bed @ 8 pm nightly !!!!!!!! stays home to tired etc. 24/7 !!!!!!! unless to hunt ! I’ll never be as wise or whatever to him b/c he has experience way more than I do !!!!!!!!!

  2. DominateTaureanWoman says:


    For some ppl the generation gap can work. My parents were divorced when I was younger. My father remarried a woman 12 yrs younger than himself and their marriage has worked for yrs and she’s great. On the other hand, my mother tried tried the same thing and she’s now had 2 divorces and 2 more kids. Its a road not easily treaded upon but if everything is right then it can work.

  3. @ DomTauWom

    Yes it is a hard road to travel & I do agree if everything is rite my Uncle is 21 yrs younger than my Aunt & their marriage is WONDERFUL…. But it is a VERY ROCKY road to travel when it comes to sex, doing late night things , plus manymore I think it’s good tht yr dad & step m have a great relationship & sry of ur mothers … Sometimes we NEED to be selfish & work on ourselves before we charge onward!!!!!

  4. DominateTaureanWoman says:


    That is a very true statement. But when workin on oneself then we need to rmb to open our minds.

  5. @ DomTauWom

    LOL YES & tht is VERY hard to do @ times ! but will try to remember tht ! lol

  6. DominateTaureanWoman says:


    Ok cool lol

  7. I dealt with a taurus venus that also had a scorp moon and aquarius mars. He was hella kinky. He was one of the few men who I would let choke me during sex…mostly because he knew what he was doing. I appreciated his openess/experimentation. I also appreciated the fact that he enjoyed cuddling and open affection…oh and the cooking! That was good too.

    His temper though…


  8. Great post, thanks!
    My husband has venus in Taurus, I am mars in Taurus. It’s true, we do not feel the need to get kinky to get excited. Kinky is about the mental aspect of sex, which is great & needed for variety but Taurus is so highly sensitized in their body that the slightest touch can send us from 0 to 100 fast. I never needed ‘more’ than the basics to get me going yet I was capable of doing that for my partner as pleasing was just as important as my pleasure.

    My husband & I get aroused quite easily. When we are connected in our bodies & aroused by how good we feel, it doesn’t take much. Why fix what isn’t broken? 😀 Perhaps we will delve deeper and expand our tastes in the future if things should get boring but ultimately, we cannot get over how wonderful our skins meld, his/my taste, smell yes, all of those sensations truly send us out of this world.

    Oh, and yes, I have done role-play, some kinky stuff because I love sex in all it’s aspects and again, truly want to please my partner but in the back of mind I think, “Can’t we just fock?”

  9. Aquariusalldaylong... says:

    I love that last post from bliss! I completely agree on all of it, you must be influenced by aquarius! Its all about the mind… I think people that have to constantly experiement to the extreme must be bored! I am an aquarius & aquarius rising & completly addicted to the taurus male, everything about them even though there famous for being boring I’m addicted to there chase & the incredible mentally stimulating sex!! Exactly yes we can dress up if you like but when can we just do it!

  10. Thanks Aquarius but I fear I posted in the wrong place. Really meant this to be under; venus in Taurus/ mars in Taurus compatibility thread. Maybe this can still apply? Sass, feel free to move this if it would be more appropriate.

  11. Btw, Aqua, he is a Taurus sun, I’m an Aries. I have no Aqua (sadly 😉 in my chart.
    And you are right, Tauruses are mentally stimulating too, think they get a bad rap sometimes as it rarely is mentioned in general descriptions. I couldn’t be with him if he wasn’t.

    You know, I think those who need to keep pushing the envelope have the brain chemistry of those who like extreme rollercoasters, bungee jumping, etc… It’s been proven scientifically that some people need extremes to get the ‘rush’. I have a lot of Aries in my chart but I’m a chicken deep down. 😀 My mars in Taurus needs my feet safely planted on earth. I know what I like and never seem to get tired of it. My husband is like this too.

  12. Ok.. So I’m a Virgo.. through and through… and the guy I am interested in is one of those Pluto-influenced types if Taurus…. The one the author calls an “Incredible top”? Yep.. I know…. lol.

    I need suggestions on how to land this guy. He’s amazing as hell… and something about him just makes me crazy. He’s like walking sex…. with long blonde hair. Think Fabio in his younger days… with a construction belt.

    I am in way over my head with this one.. and right now we are just friends that flirt. I want him. Yesterday. So.. how do I let him in on that little fact? the direct approach? hint? HELP! I’m a virgo and officially no good at any sort of relationship stuff. It’s a self confidence thing.

  13. What are his venus and mars signs?

  14. He is a taurus with mars in leo.. venus in taurus.

  15. I’m a virgo with venus in libra and mars in cancer

  16. Ok I have an issue, my sister is an aquarius, venus in capricorn and mars in aquarius, dating a taurus venus in taurus and mars in leo. I am a taurus too, venus in taurus and mars in taurus…. My sister dates taurus’s often, don’t ask me why they never last.

    Anyway, her new dude is a succesful, good looking guy but for what ever reason he and I are not getting along very well. I DON’T KNOW WHY!!!???

    Everytime we’ve met we haven’t talked very much. I didn’t really go out of my way to initiate conversation but that doesn’t mean I hate him. Here’s how it started….when he and my sister first met she told me about him and I told her jokingly, no funny business yet or I’ll kill him. Note: we are adults all in our 30s…She relayed the message. I was just teasin her. Then next thing you know, when I meet him every opportunity he has to speak to me, he jokes about having sex with my sister. Just teasin me in his terms but I think its tacky and trashy and I don’t need to hear about it. I told him, what they do behind close doors is not my business and I’d like to keep it that way.

    Well that would be the second time he and I talked about that so I lost respect for him in that sense. I think it’s rude and gross! Of course thereafter, at a get together I’m reluctant to talk to him. I am always corrdial with him but I avoid conversation. So at this point he seems more irritated that I won’t engage in conversation with him or kiss his ass…. So he makes comments that I hate him and this and that. I told him, I don’t hate you, I don’t even know you. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. I don’t get why he wasn’t buying it but I was honest. I just wanted him to be more respectful when talking to me not say things to get my attention or whatever he was doing. By the end of the night he was completely frustrated it seemed and I went inside to say bye…NEXT THING YOU KNOW, this Douch bag says yea we’re about to go to sleep to but before we do we’re going to F*&% first!

    We are standing side by side and I look over and say ” do you understand how disrespectful and inappropriate that is to say to me?” he looks at me with almost hate in his eyes and says “I don’t care?” ok my cue to leave. WHAT IS THIS DUDE’S PROBLEM WITH ME?????

    WHY CAN’T HE JUST DEAL and leave me alone? Mind you he really does seem like a good guy and from what his friends say they believe he’s a real class act and don’t understand why he acts like that around me. So because I want to believe that, I don’t hate him just really confused as to why he treats me that way and shut his mouth! 🙂 Sometimes, honestly, I wonder if he likes me or is attracted to me so he acts that way cause he feels insecure that I’m not talking to him and he says stuff like that to try to get under my skin. I’m not sure…but what ever it is HELP ME UNDERSTAND. I just never met any one who acted like that toward me.


  17. Decadent foreplay. I love that! I didn’t know that Taurus is a very sensualist. Amazing article. I’m going to ask my gal pal if this is true is her husband is a Taurus. Don’t get me wrong or anything, I’m just curious. I might find a Taurus myself and get the deed done. haha!

  18. Im cancer and he is Taurus.. all I know is the sex is tantric…and it’s been that way since the first time 7 years ago and it just keeps getting better…Sade said “It’s never as good as the first time” she was right… with me and my taurus.. it gets better… Love you babe!!

  19. Hi all…

  20. Xandria says:

    I’m a Taurus sun with Aquarius Uranus AND Scorpio Pluto. I am definitely always look for fun new things…

  21. Xandria says:

    And my boyfriend is a Cancer sun and Venus. It gets tough sometimes.

  22. I find Taurus to be mean, stubborn or arrogant…I seen these qualities in my mother and brother who are April Taurus people. Psychiatry or psychology believe who we chose to date or marry is based on our parents. I won’t go out with a woman who reminds me of my mom, LOL. +

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