Leather and lace, fringe and fetish…. In this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Let’s take it from the top with Aries, who is anything but vanilla.
In some ways, this cardinal fire sign is straightforward. Headstrong and willful, direct and impatient, Rams charge through their sex lives without so many of the exotic twists that slow down some other signs. Aries isn’t interested in needless variation; as far as sex is concerned, they want it vigorous, and they want it now. They rarely offer anything less than straight-up, full-tilt lust.
As direct as it is, though, even Aries has its kinks. Spontaneous sex in unplanned places is often a turn-on. Aries is not necessarily an exhibitionist, but there’s something delicious about wanting each other so badly that you’re willing to risk a charge of indecent exposure. The hallway at home will do — or the garage, or the hood of the car — anywhere, really, so long as it involves the prospect of wild, do-it-right-here-and-now action.
[show_to accesslevel=’All-Access’]Aries also likes angry sex. The Aries libido runs parallel to the Aries will; switching an angry Ram into a horny one is an incredibly easy trick. Just let them know you’re turned on, and they’ll instantly forget an argument, at least for as long as it takes to work out your frustrations right there on the dining room floor.
It’s not uncommon for this sign to get off on causing pain. The Arian Mars, especially in combination with a power-sensitive sign such as Capricorn or Scorpio, can indicate a taste for full-fledged sadism. Most are content with the whimpers they get from minor discourtesies (such as penetrating a little too abruptly, or biting a little too hard) but many also enjoy the outright screams of pleasure mixed with pain. If you’re into a bit of pain as an erotic experience, Aries is often willing to accommodate; just make sure to set firm boundaries, and insist that your Aries respects them. They can be headstrong at times.
In situations that call for a clear distinction between assertive and receptive roles (such as BDSM, mentor/protege relationships, gender play, rape fantasies, etc.) many will top with great enthusiasm, though they sometimes lack self-control and subtlety. Aries is not really into the mental aspect of sexual fantasy; this sign responds more to physical than to psychological stimulation.
Arians will also bottom, but are only satisfied with a top who matches their lusty physical drives. Don’t try to top a strong Arian unless you have the Mars to see it through! They don’t like teasing, and are rarely into delayed gratification games or elaborate scenarios. Even in the most standard of sexual setups, Aries wants action, not words.
Aries is the hunter/warrior of the zodiac, and has the sex drive to match. If wild, uncomplicated, aggressive sex sounds like your idea of heaven, find a partner with strong Aries placements. Then get ready for the ride of your life — there’s nothing iffy about a naked Aries![/show_to]
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?