This post is Part Two of the “Are you better off being single?” series. Please read Part One: Neptune for an introduction.
Two universal human needs must constantly be negotiated: to be an individual, yet to feel like part of something bigger. If you become too independent, you risk losing your sense of affiliation. Yet if you conform too much to the group, your identity becomes squashed. There is a middle ground, but to achieve equilibrium you must frequently readjust your priorities.
The Uranian individual has a strong need to forge their own path, and sometimes there is just no room to accommodate another person during the journey. There is a stubborn quality to Uranus — as well as Aquarius, the fixed sign which this planet rules — such that a person following the Promethean call does not want to “bend” for the sake of a partner. When you are obsessed with a singular vision and are committed to pursuing it at all costs, intimacy often falls by the wayside. Or if you are in a relationship, you may be so detached — with your mind focused on your passion project — that your partner would have to be so self-sufficient that your absence is tolerated or even appreciated.
How to tell if you are from Uranus
You may feel so easily stifled or smothered that only an equally independent person would be an appropriate partner. You don’t want to be controlled, or to have emotional demands made upon you. In fact, you may feel more satisfied having a large network of friends than being consumed by a romantic relationship. You want to have stimulating dialogues and enjoy alternative community events (Burning Man, anyone?) without having to say, “I love you” or get into icky conversations like, “where is this thing going?”
You may chafe at traditional models of relationship like, say, monogamy. As a freedom-loving soul, you prefer to sleep with whomever strikes your fancy, without having to be beholden to another individual. Scorpionic states like jealousy and possessiveness are rarely in your lexicon.
Of course, none of these personality characteristics preclude you from having a successful, satisfying relationship. But they can make it more difficult. You might thrive in an alternative arrangement:
- Maintaining a separate home from your partner
- Having an open relationship
- Having many friends to whom you can retreat when you feel constrained doing the “one-on-one” thing
- Challenging antiquated notions such as “ownership” of another person, which is implied in the marriage contract
Some possible chart patterns to look out for:
- Uranus in hard aspect to, or conjunct, the Sun, Moon, Venus or ruler of the Seventh House
- Uranus in the Seventh House or Aquarius on this house’s cusp
- Some of these key planets in Aquarius
- Although I don’t see the Eleventh House as closely associated with Uranus and Aquarius in the way that I combine Neptune/Pisces/Twelfth, a stellium of planets in the Eleventh can indicate an individual who values friendships and participation in groups more than romantic partnership.
- The Seventh House curse of Uranus on the Descendant?
- Does Uranus in the Seventh House automatically mean infidelity?
- Why do some Aquarius women cheat?
Comment below: Does this pattern apply to you? If so, describe your relevant chart patterns and how they manifest in your love life (or lack thereof).