Equality is all well and good in relationships, but it is not often a reality. There is usually a dominant partner, and the nondominant one often willingly cedes control. People with strong personalities frequently don’t want to constantly spar with someone else — they just want to rule the roost.
However, when two Mars-ruled people get together, power struggles inevitably ensue. Mars is the warrior planet. It governs our impulse to act on our needs and desires, to go out into the world and get what we want. Mars is competitive — it likes to conquer.
Although Aries and Scorpio are very different signs, they are both traditionally ruled by the red planet. (Scorpio’s modern ruler is Pluto.) Aries is a cardinal, fire sign (with a positive or masculine polarity); Scorpio is a fixed, water sign (with a negative or feminine polarity). Along the zodiac wheel, they are inconjunct, or at a 150-degree angle from each other. As far as compatibility goes, they have absolutely nothing in common. I don’t mean to dissuade any readers from this Sun-sign match, for there are many other factors beyond Sun signs that contribute to compatibility. But the Sun is the “force” of one’s personality, and surely Aries and Scorpio are a challenging match.[notpremise]
Aries is direct and impulsive, blazing a path for others to follow. This Sun sign native tends to be egocentric, thinking only of her own needs and how to get them met. She does not typically consider the impact of her actions on others. However, she has boundless energy to initiate projects and inspire others to help bring them to completion, as Aries often loses interest after her first burst of energy.
Scorpio is introverted and secretive, probing the depths of emotional experience. This Sun sign native experiences feelings intensely, and can be somewhat suspicious of other people’s intentions — based on Scorpio’s ability to “suss out” their hidden motivations. Scorpio has a strong drive, and he can use his “fixed” determination to carry projects through to the very end. His desire for intimate connection is so strong that he has developed a reputation for possessiveness and sexual voraciousness.
These signs express their anger in vastly different aways. Aries will forcefully and immediately unleash her rage upon whomever is in her vicinity, but once it is out, it is out. She no longer dwells on the feeling after it has been discharged. If she has hurt someone’s feelings, she may apologize — “You know I didn’t mean to take it out on you!” Scorpio, on the other hand, lets his anger fester. An unevolved Scorpio will strategize how to exact revenge upon whomever made him angry. But even an evolved native may brood, mixing his simmering pot of rage and smelling his concoction until he thoroughly understands the root of his anger. It may not be evident to an outsider that Scorpio is pissed, whereas it would be hard for Aries to hide this emotion from others.
The Scorpio man has been known to indulge in taboo expressions of sexuality such as bondage, domination and sadomasochism. Obviously, his idea of a good time can take hours, whereas the Aries woman may prefer sex both simpler and quicker. Remember, Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, not as psychologically complex as Scorpio, more into a to-the-point, animalistic, getting-off type of sexual expression. And she’s unlikely to submit easily to a man’s will to dominate, as hers is a Mars-ruled sign. Other Scorpio men will aim to merge souls through prolonged eye contact during intercourse, whereas Aries just isn’t that into the emotional intimacy. These differences may lead to an incompatibility in the bedroom (or anywhere else, for that matter).
Can They Work It Out?
There are always success stories for each Sun-sign combination, and I’m sure readers will share in the comments section how they’ve shared wonderful times in an Aries-Scorpio relationship. I believe other horoscope factors can help to make this relationship work, such as the usual harmonious Sun-Moon and Venus-Mars interaspects. But most importantly, the key to success in any relationship is understanding and flexibility — the latter of which neither of these signs has, being that they’re not mutable!
Both Aries and Scorpio should not become overly reactive to each other’s vastly different styles of self-expression. Scorpio can learn from Aries by being more up-front about his anger and not holding grudges. Aries can learn from Scorpio by learning the art of follow-through and having the patience to plan an attack rather than react immediately. Hopefully, their respective Venus and Mars placements will increase their compatibility behind closed doors — otherwise, Scorpio may feel sexually frustrated — and that only spells danger.
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