[ad]Allie (not her real name) was in a quandary. She had met a man at work and they started dating. But the relationship stalled, and she wanted to know if it was going to work out … or if she should break it off. It was clear through her conversation that she was extremely drawn to him, and that a breakup would be emotionally traumatic. Furthermore, a relationship comparison showed that they were very compatible. So what was the problem?
Whole books have been written about the complex subject of relationship astrology, but few of us have the time or interest to delve that deeply into the subject. But there is a quick and dirty way to parse out the kind of relationships in which we engage. When you get a handle on which planet rules your relationship, you can use it to help you navigate the course of true or not so true love.
How do you tell which planet best represents your lover? The best place to look is in your own birth chart. Look at the hard angles to your Sun and Moon, the challenge aspect called the square, the tension aspect called the opposition and the stress aspect known as the inconjunct. It is quite possible for you to have more than one of these aspects. At different points in your life, you may experience different types of relationships when that planet by transit makes important energetic connections to your Sun or Moon.
Allie’s Sun and Moon (click on her chart to view) sit together in her chart, and this combination is the focal point of a yod including Jupiter in Scorpio and Neptune in Sagittarius. (A yod includes two inconjuncts, or 150-degree angles). She has a natural proclivity to get drawn into relationships with an element of deception, and she was attracted to someone she perceived to be Jupiterian, or “larger than life.” The yod configuration suggests she’d feel as if she met the person she was destined to be with.
What do you think the main holdup was in the relationship? If you guessed that the man was married, you would be correct. Because of the the strong Neptune, I classifed this relationship as “Neptunian.” Indeed, by transit, Neptune was squaring her Moon. The element of deception was so strong that Allie did not admit to me — until after several consultations — that her boyfriend was not separated, but actually living with his wife and actively raising children with her.
About the Author
Beth is a professional astrologer with over twenty years experience counseling clients in career and relationship issues. She writes an astrology column for a weekly newspaper along the Connecticut shoreline and blogs about astrology daily at the 451 Press blog Astrology Explored.
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