Gemini man wants to recapture Scorpio woman’s affections

[ad#link]natal chartGeminisadface included his birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

im a gemini. there is this scorpio girl i knew when i was about 15 and she really liked me. i didnt get it. she had a boyfriend and she would always tell me how she wanted to dump her boyfriend for me. i thought of her as my friend but i never gave any interest in her so i couldnt understand why she wanted me so bad. she made me feel good but i guess it just scared me so i pushed her as far away as i could. so she has been out of my life for 7 years and ive been around the block and found that im pretty good at attracting all types of women. my problem is that i constantly change my mind about what i want. so now she is back.

i had an experience recently that changed my whole life in which i realized the error of my ways. i realized that i had been destructive and selfish. i realized that my whole path of destruction goes all the way back to her. i was afraid to be loved by someone. 7 years later i realize that i have always loved her. i have been talking to her again and she is suspicious of me as ever. she hides everything so well but i am sure i stir emotions inside her. i cant get her to lift her veil of mystery. i havent told her the extent of my feelings though. shes the one girl right now that i couldnt change my mind about the way i feel about her even if i wanted to.

so now the roles are reversed. i want her so badly and she cant understand it at all. i know i deserve this. i have accepted the fact that i may have missed out on one of the most special people to come into my life. i will refuse to give up because it is just too important to me and i will continue on paying for the sins i have committed for the rest of my life if thats my fate.

she symbolizes my transition from a life of evil to a life of good. i have always dreamed of the perfect love story and it makes me so sad that the perfect love story was there when i was a kid but i didnt see it. things are going really slow but i think if i persist then maybe i could possibly have her. i want her more than any girl but there is a lot of temptation around me. i dont want to forget about how wonderful she is like i did before when we were children.

so i have tried small talk and flirting, that didnt work. i have tried opening up and showing my emotions and that worked a little better.

my question is how can i get her to come out of her shell and come back into my life in some capacity? friend or lover. i want her in my life. should i just accept it and settle for another girl? or is it possible for me to recapture the affections of the scorpion?

No wonder you have no problem attracting women: your Venus in assertive Aries and Mars in sociable Gemini are making a beneficial 60-degree aspect (called a “sextile”) to each other. This means your love and sex planets work together harmoniously. Unfortunately, frequently changing your mind about the type of woman you want is common for a Gemini, and especially for yourself, since your Sun (self-expression), Mars (sexual desire) and Mercury (communication) are all in this restless sign.

Your life-changing event might be related to Pluto’s recent exit from the last degrees of Sagittarius (where the Lord of the Underworld — which recently stationed retrograde — will return). The planet of compulsion, destruction and eventual rebirth was making a challenging aspect (opposition) to your Mars and a more supportive aspect (trine) to your Venus. Pluto dragged your style of relating into the depths of Hell (aka, your psyche) to transform your fear of being loved into an ability to face your Terror straight in the eyes. (We hope.)

natal chartThe ruler of your Seventh House of Partnership — with Capricorn on the cusp — is Saturn in Scorpio. And your Saturn is within a degree of conjoining her Scorpio Sun, so I understand why you feel she’s The One — your relationship significator is unified with her basic self. The problem could be that your Saturn is on her Sun. (View her chart to the right.) Saturn is the planet of restriction and judgment. She may feel that her relationship with you brings with it a sense of hardship. CafeAstrology has an excellent description of this interaspect:

One strong factor that attracted you to each other (perhaps unconsciously) is the feeling that you can have a deep, stable, permanent relationship and settle down together, facing life’s responsibilities in a mature way, tackling challenges together such as raising children, becoming financially secure, etc. These concerns can gradually cause your relationship to become too absorbed with “serious” matters, causing both of you to feel limited and stifled by the relationship. Saturn has a strong tendency to criticize and judge Sun’s actions, sometimes accurately and sometimes unjustly. Saturn should guard against this tendency to dampen Sun’s enthusiasm, and Sun needs to avoid being overly sensitive to Saturn’s suggestions and criticisms. Saturn’s tendency to dominate, control, or even repress Sun makes Sun feel resentful at times, and Sun may feel lowered vitality and self-confidence after being with Saturn for a long time. You must make room for lightness and play, or you both will feel burdened by the tone that is set between you. Remember that there is a solid sense of being able to depend on one another, and this is a precious gift. Saturn may not be aware of the limiting effect Saturn has on Sun, and Sun would do well to understand that Saturn has this influence due to insecurities. There can be some haughty and judgmental exchanges between the two of you at times, and it is wise to step back and examine exactly why this happens! Saturn can easily feel threatened by Sun’s expressions of growth and individuality, because Saturn feels much more safe when Sun stays the same! Growth on Sun’s part does not mean growing apart from Saturn, and Saturn would do well to understand this.

As you can see, this connection with your Scorpio love interest has its challenges, but can also reward you with the stability you crave. I’d suggest that you monitor any tendencies towards being critical of her. And if you’re willing, be radically honest about your fear of being loved, your self-destructiveness and how you’ve come to the other side of your life-changing epiphany. Scorpios appreciate people who’ve risen from the ashes.

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at


  1. gemini man wants scorpio woman maybe? ?

  2. Jeffrey Kishner says:

    Thanks for catching that, bis. I’ve now changed the post title.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Dear Gemini Man:

    You will not get your Scorpio to lift her veil of mystery. That is a scorpio trait. They are instinctually mysterious. As far as winning her back. Have you told her in a very direct manner how you feel. That is key. How you feel, not what you think. Scorps’ are very direct, feeling people, no games they eather want you or not. They are passionate in everything that they do. Tell her how you feel. She’ll appreciate it

  4. geminihappyface says:

    i figured out what to do. i am going to when i am ready. cause i gotta check out this gorgeous leo before i do because i think commitment will follow with what i have to tell her.

  5. this is for Bis……
    why have u written ‘MAYBE’ at da end ?
    wat do u know about a scorpio-gemini relationship ?
    if u answer this question of mine……i have got few more questions for u to answer.
    awaiting for ur reply……

  6. how about pick an emotion and stick with it ..

  7. Jasmine says:

    Well Iam a Scorpio woman, and let me tell you something, we never forget anything. So the only way for you to really have her heart, it give her time to feel like she can sahre her feelings with you. We are very secretive and protective of our feelings, and if we tried to get at you before, and you didn’t want us then we will make you suffer. We are very revengful, and it’s harsh, but true. She may really like you, but may want you to feel how she felt so long ago. But once you earn her heart, she will be extremely loayl to you and onyl you. She will take her place as your woman, and love you with everything in her. You just have to earn her trust. And earning a Scorpio womans trust is HARD! So being a Gemeni, you guys are patient sometimes. But you guys are also fun loving, and easy gonig, and always looking for a challenge. SO this should be a good one. I wish you good luck, and remember there is n better woman than a Scorpio woman. You don’t believe me, look it up. I just did 🙂

  8. Gemini and Scorpio is the best combo in bed. I adore Gemini women – so fun and vibrant.

  9. Well it was just suddenly I meet a Gemini male that completely threw me away head over heels for lol never expected that me a Scorpian female could fall so fast. Very charming and generous, put a big smile on my face. I actually meet him on my way to driving to NY from Orlando Fla and he lives in GA. But the whole two weeks that I was in NY I did not stop thinking about him and he told me the same. We both meet up after I left NY where he lives in GA and I stayed there a few nights and he took me out once to the beach and downtown Savannah the next night. Just his charm within that period blew me away like nothing else, I don’t know what to do I haven’t felt like this in a long time. I’m scared cause I don’t know how he truly feels he tells me one time he hasent felt that way in a while and really likes me then in another min don’t hear nothing from him for days at a time. Very confusing I don’t know what to do, I was warned that Gemini’s are flighty and confusing but this is rediculas. Will he ever turn around soon or is it a hopeless wonder =[

  10. Gemini Man

    If you want her back you have to do something “mean” to yourself. With a Scorpio woman, love needs to be shown. You will need to humble yourself or she will never take you back even if it hurts her. Gestures mean a lot, I may be Libra but I am a Scorpio Rising, I also know a lot of Scorpio women and was raised by one. Its not words thst matter to her, its action… Better be sincere too because she can see right through a person 🙂 That Scorpio eye see’s all….. Show her that she is worth it.

  11. OpalButterfly says:

    @ Heather….

    Your post really rings a bell as far as how he “rang your chimes”, not to mention the close relationship of proxemity that our stories share!

    I live in Columbia, SC and he showed up here and we ended up spending time in Charleston at the beach during the day and downtown Charleston, at night.

    The clencher here, is that he happens to be my EX-HUSBAND’S BROTHER!

    My Ex and I have a good relationship—- far better than the stereotyped divorced couple, which is how the whole thing was able to come about. I went to my Ex’s home and La-di-da…! Things happened. PS and BTW, my Ex is either totally oblivious to what’s been going on or mercifully tactful, as he hasn’t mentioned anything and we HAVE been pretty discreet.

    Anyway, I have actual STOMACH ACHES over this guy and I don’t think that, that’s, happened in like, EVER. I told him that he made my stomach hurt and I didn’t know WHY and/or if I LIKED it….

    He wrote this in an email from Canada when he went with my Ex to visit family…..

    “Love is like a butterfly. It goes where it pleases and it pleases where it goes.

    “Love is like an hour glass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties”

    “Nothing is more beautiful than you wearing only the moonlight and my kisses.”

    “Love, an emotion so strong that you would give up everything, to just feel it once, to know that you are part of something special. To know that you can feel what love really is, to know, to feel, to love.”

    Miss you babe

    I replied back, that, I thought my face was on fire (LOL), but whatever…

    I am totally aware of his Gemini nature and the whole “history” deal with us, thus the consequences of any future together, but, God knows…. I really want him!

    But, you know, if I DIDN’T “really want him” then he wouldn’t be much of a Gemini, would he???

    Both of our questions lie in whether or not “HE” wants “US”, don’t they?????

  12. Hi Geminisadface,
    Sounds familiar… any luck?

  13. Hi Geminisadface,
    Sounds familiar… any luck?

Feel free to leave a comment below, or scroll down a bit to comment using your Facebook identity. If you want to avoid having to enter your name and email every time you post, create an account. If you already have an account, login and you will be redirected back to this page.