The following guest post is by Lisa Saliture.
Calling all Cowgirls! Get your cowboy boots and your lasso ready, you are about to enter the “corral of love” to catch yourself a Sagittarius man, so brush up on your riding skills, and find a comfortable saddle for the ride of your life.
If you have ever dated the archer, you know he is good at dating, but he’s a little tricky to catch. Sagittarius is symbolized by the Centaur — half horse and half man — which clearly gives him the ability to remain independent and roam the planet like a wild stallion, only slowing down long enough for sexual conquests and many short-term relationships.
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Sag Man Traits
The zodiac sign Sagittarius is ruled by the largest planet in our solar system, Jupiter, giving this man a flavor of confidence, optimism, freedom and the need to expand his adventures into greener pastures. He loves to indulge in an abundance of adventure, travel, and as many women as possible. His positive attitude and sexy smile are infectious, and can become an instant addiction for the unsuspecting female. The Sagittarius man is a physical creature, and will put 100% of his energy into pleasing a woman in a relationship, using his imagination to make it a wild and tantalizing destination for her.
The Sagittarius man is turned on by an athletic, sexually open-minded woman who has her own friends and isn’t available at his beck and call. He loves a woman who is adventurous, impulsive, and as direct as possible — especially when it comes to sex, since this man thinks of sex as a sporting event. Repetition bores him, so keep him on his toes by keeping him guessing.
Seducing a Sagittarius Man
If a Sag man is attracted to you, he will let you know right away — by being blunt with whatever words he can spit out of his mouth. Unfortunately, his mouth is not connected to the part of the brain which controls tact. Instead, his thoughts go straight to his mouth without anything stopping him — except his foot, after it’s too late. A fun-filled date with a Sag man is the way to capture his heart, and a few activities he is sure to enjoy are: paintball, gambling, sky diving or horseback riding, since his fantasy is to be a rough and tough cowboy. Once you agree on having an adventurous date with a fun-loving Sag man, you are on your way to seducing him into your side of the horse stable for a roll in the hay. Just don’t mention commitment anytime to soon, or he will run for the hills.
Getting Your Sag Man to Commit
Here’s the deal with Sagittarius men — after he has you thinking you’ve finally met the man of your dreams, you literally could end up waiting a lifetime for this guy to actually commit to a long-term relationship. The dilemma for the single female who spots him and wants to lure him into her pasture for the long haul is: How do I get him to commit? This is where your lasso techniques are really helpful. An idealist who sees the silver lining in any situation, the Sagittarius man will take a chance on love, and dive right into romance with reckless abandon. However, he has a keen sense of when to sprint like a bolt of lightning when the words commitment or marriage is mentioned. If you want your Sag man to commit, you will have to deal with his freedom-loving behavior, his wild streak for adventure, and his philosophical, deep discussions about the meaning of life. Your ability to develop patience is necessary. Give him adequate time to understand your goal for a future together. One way to achieve this level of self-discipline is to consider practicing meditation and advanced yoga. These mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help you keep your sanity while hanging with the jovial Jupiter boy.
Here are a few pointers for getting your Sag man to commit:
Love Yourself First
Figure out who you are and what you need in order to have a rewarding long-term relationship. Once you’ve developed your own activities and interests in life, you’ll ooze an air of sexy confidence, which is irresistible to the Sagittarius man. When you find a Sag who rocks your world, you won’t scare him off by being clinging or blaming him for not making you happy. You are the only person who is responsible for making yourself happy. Your confident and independent attitude will help him realize that you are strong enough to leave if you aren’t satisfied with his level of commitment.
Set the Dating Rules Groundwork
When you are casually dating a Sag man, you have to set the dating standards from the beginning. Luckily, Sag loves honesty and cutting to the chase, so laying the groundwork upfront through communicating to him should be a cinch. By explaining what you want out of the relationship, you are letting him know you are not going to casually date forever. The Centaur will realize that you aren’t going to waste your time dating someone who isn’t serious or who wants to keep dating other women. He will listen to your needs if you don’t whine or ignore what he has to say about his needs in the relationship.
Understanding His Needs
It is important to the Sagittarius man that you understand his needs in a long-term relationship vs. a casual dating situation. Being a good listener shows you can understand his point of view. If your goal is to make him happy in a long-term committed relationship, you have to be open to what life has to offer. In other words, come out of your comfort zone and make life an adventure. Spontaneity is the key word for getting this fire sign to commit to you, which means you want to always make time for getaways, show interest and challenge his mind with deep conversations, and be experimental when it comes to pleasing him in the bedroom.
If you remain his best friend, show him that you trust him by willingly giving him a little freedom to do his own thing, and of course maintain the patience of a saint, your Sag man will always return home. When he does finally fall in love and commit, the Sagittarius guy believes in the idea of life-long soul mates exploring the universe together, which makes this fire sign worth waiting for — even if it does take a lifetime of adventure to keep him permanently grounded in your world.
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About the Author
Lisa Saliture is a Marketing Communications Specialist and freelance writer. She recently started Astrology Dating Match, a web site that will match singles by using the most compatible aspects of their love planets in their natal charts.
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Yeah, tried the friend thing and tried the totally ignoring him thing, but he’d just come over to my house insisting I tell him what’s wrong and why have I been ignoring him. I’ll try AGAIN to see if telling him to have no more contact with me and see how that goes.
If you’ve told him before that you don’t want any more contact with him, and he showed up at your door, then he isn’t respecting you.
My ex-Sag ended up driving past my house all the time and leaving multiple texts and voice mails. Very stalker-type behavior. That was after I realized that he couldn’t JUST be a friend. My friends do not drive by my house to see if my car is there (or even stop over without calling first) and my friends don’t bomb my phone with 15 messages in a row. Very bizzarro! That went on for about two weeks.
We dated about 4 months, spent about 2 weeks TRYING to be friends, and about 2 weeks with him essentially stalking me.
When you tell him (again) that you do not want any contact, you’ll have to put your foot down and mean it.
you are so right about him. you have reconfirmed my love for him and allowing him to be.
thxs
I have Sagittarius rising, and I notice this tendency in myself to be more interested in people who can successfully ignore me. I don’t take it to that crazy stalker level that you’re describing. I get far more interested in the chase though, than the capture. Usually when I have someone, my Aquarius nature takes over and I lose that passion and verve that the chase brings out in me. Girls that give in too easily or even chase after me turn me off completely.
Hi all! I’m a sag girl with aries rising, pisces moon, venus in capricorn and mars in aqua. I’ve been pursued for the last 2 weeks by a Sag guy 🙂 he’s moon in pisces too, venus in scorpio 🙂 and mars in capricorn. the thing is he’s so persistent. I had no idea I like to be chased ’till I met him. And I respond to his advances totally uninterested, when texting he always reports about his whereabouts, and I never ask him what’s he doing, where’s he been. He also suggests meetings, I only accepted one, brief for a cup of coffee. But he’s still trying hard 🙂 I won’t even give him my phone number and he’s mentioning that fact every day….. but he’s in his own words, well, used to be a no good, not to women but in school, and I’m a goody goody, he calls me prncess, an exellent student, nice manners, SHY and reserved, cautious.
He’s patient, pesistent, not too mushy and was a gentelman that day we went out. I know he’s princ charming with WOMEN 🙂 guess he’s got a lot 🙂 but i’m not jelaouse type so…
Have no idea what to do…… he’s romantic, sweettalker, and it somewhat scares me. The good girl-bad boy thing too 🙁 Any suggestions?
I don’t believe in this! I’m a scorpio and will conquer my sagittarius classmate! >s<
scorpio and sag are formidable opponets
I’m a Taurus girl who recently caught the attention of a gorgeous Sag guy…I can honestly say, he’s definitely unlike any man I’ve ever met before!
He came on pretty strong but I told him I just wanted to be friends at first. He seemed really hurt but like he was trying to hide it in that optimistic bouncy, Sagittarius way. After that he kept calling and messaging asking if we could go out ‘JUST AS FRIENDS’…well, that lasted about 2 days or so! I inevitably fell for his charms, and now we’re properly dating.
He’s already said ‘I love you’ and is talking about marriage and meeting all his family. He doesn’t seem shy of commitment, nor have a hidden agenda. He’s extremely romantic, affectionate, caring and honest.
He’s acting clingy but I know deep down I’m a lot MORE clingy and extremely jealous…I just don’t want to show him that side of me, so he won’t run for the hills. He thinks I’m always cool and collected.
I guess his Mars in Aries makes him pretty dashing and forthright…I’m just worried it’s not going to last…If you can fall in love that quickly, I guess you can fall back out pretty easily, huh?
Me – Venus in Aries, I’m all too familiar with that feeling. I love the thrill of the chase and now that he’s a permanent fixture, in all honesty…I’m a little bored. I think he is too.
if your bored, break up with him. because he wont break up with you.
your venus in aries gets bored easily when you already have what you want.
I’m dating a sag guy and he’s sooo indecisive…we are polar opposites and wind each other up constantly.
Just recently he told me he couldn’t decide how he felt about me, so we stopped seeing each other and I started dating other people. Now he’s incredibly soppy and spends so much time with me, but i don’t think it will last. I can’t stand feeling forced to play games, like he’ll run away if I call him first so I just have to wait. BORING.
what are his placements? how old is he?
He’s 34, I’m 24. Big age gap, but I’m definitely the grownup!
Pisces/Rising
Sagittarius/Sun
Leo/Moon
Aquarius/Venus
Sagittarius/Mars
the venus in aqua is going to make it hard to pin him down. \what is your venus sign?
scorpio 🙂 hahaha.
The only real way to get a Sagittarius to commit is to keep being evasive. They love the chase more than the capture. If you’re constantly on the go, you’ll constantly have Sagittarius on your heels.
You’ll also have an advantage if you’re older, from another country or have a different culture than your Sag, or have a career that lets you travel a lot and bring Sag along.
However, when Sag decides the game is over, there is literally nothing you can do to truly win them back. They may keep you around in their “stable” for a while, and they’ll generally always think of you as a friend, but they move on more easily and more quickly than even Aries.
oh yeah girlie, your venus placements do not match up. shame i love scorps and saggis.
but this sag loves all and it will always infuriate you and make you even more jealous. his love is universal and your love is exclusive to him. he could love you but his love wont be exclusive to you. he probably flirts ALOT. and he wont understand why you get so jealous and frustated.
http://www.selfhelpastrology.com/#/venus-in-aquarius/4514625345
he is extremely aloof and wont know whay your always so passionate and emotional.
It’s true that he switches so quickly from being really intimate and loving to cold and distant… it’s quite bizarre to watch. On the other hand, he’s been a lot better recently; he actually managed to spend 24 hours with me and be lovely the whole way though… I was so impressed 😛
See how it goes eh?
let me know how it goes
I am a Gemini woman just started dating a Sag man.I have never dated a Sag, my longterm relationships have both been Leos. The thing is we have connected really fast, it’s kind of scary, I am freaked out, he’s calm about it. We have conversations that last 8 hours and longer. I can feel his energy even when we are apart, I can feel his mood. I think I am falling in Love and I don’t want to. Knowing the sag profile he’ll be trotting after the next filly. It started out fun but now I think it might get messy later. He is already saying he wants commitment but he’ll accept whatever I say, he watched me for a year before approaching me that freaked me out a little, LOL. I am am relationship wary but I don’t want him to go either. I want him with me but I want to be single. I am so confused!! typical gemini!! LOL
@sherifull
“I want him with me but I want to be single,”
this says it all. you want him to be with you but do you want to be with him? dont want another girl to have him?
@Sag24/7 I am fearful of relationships at this point especially really intense ones. He scares me, I am just trying to slow it down. It feels like “soul mates” ever broke up with anyone like that? It is devastating. I feel like I am on the bus in “Speed” no breaks, so either I turn up the radio and enjoy the ride or jump out the window before we crash. I was just lurking around here to learn a little more about Sag’s, never ever dated one. the weird thing is he anticipates all my crazy antics and sabotage routines. We are supposed to take a trip soon and the time alone is just gonna make us even closer. I am trying to decide if I should just cancel and run off with my girlfriends, I’m such a coward LOL
enjoy the moment
Virgo woman here with Leo rising 🙂 WOOOOWWWW. What they say about Sagittarius men is so true!
I met a Sag man recently and we have our first ;proper ‘ date tomorrow night…
He is:
open and honest
energetic
so sweet
caring
thoughtful
vibrant
philosophical
a softie
I am totally SMITTEN with him.
I am normally level headed and dont give men too much thought like this. I cannot GET HIM OUT of my head. LOL
I will post up how the date goes….
Buft first, any words of advice?
I sure hope the Virgo part of me doesnt push him away (critical, not a huge talker) and the LEO part shines (warm, caring, fiery)….
Thanks to anyone who wants to comment 🙂
Cat
Virgo Chick
I have a Sag brother. they are very honest with you, too honest sometimes LOL
I would just go for it, if he told you he’s crazy about you then he is, it lasts too. When a Sag guy wants you its for a long time. You have to be ready though, they don’t grow up very fast and their temper is bad, its mostly verbal, then its tears……..Sag guys are very loving and thoughtful. Go with your feelings, but remember, when things get serious later, keep a handle on the financial stuff, money slips through a Sag guys fingers faster then through a Libra womans fingers…..LOL and thats pretty bad. They will buy you the moon if they think you love it, but then you’re broke and oops, (they don’t change either, he’s going to do it again) thats the only major flaw in the personality that I’ve noticed. They trust too easilly too, go with him when he shops for a car or anything important, don’t let him be fooled. They seem to think that everyone is a friend….Good god, my Aqua Man is the same too LOL
thanks LibraLady!! Excellent advice and feedback is spot on (so far)
The date went soooo fantastic I cannot keep this dorky grin off of my face. And the best part….? He feels the same!
This Sag guy sure doesn’t hold back; he is open, frank, giving, childlike. He is also completely open-minded and reckons ‘everyone is his friend’ as you said in your post!!
He wants to make me his girlfriend lol.
We went somewhere on our date and had to stand in line and boy it was true when he said he doesnt like waiting for things! He is impatient lol and also true LibraLady that he reckons he does have a temper but as quick as it comes, it goes and all is forgotton again.
He is as affectionate as me, which I adore. We spent 10 hours together on our first date and I am so excited for the next one to hurry up and come…
Hi, I am a Libra dating a Sag guy since late Sept. last year and I am literally in love. He has all the right charms, experience, intelligence, kindness, all the great things you could look for in a guy. He is a little complex and so philosophical that it is hard to catch up with him. I love him, he says that he isn’t ready to hear those words out of pain he received after confessing so many times when he admitted. I want to wait, but my impatience is keeping me on edge, just wanting to say those words to snap him out of whatever he is in. I would just like to be honest with him and hopefully he would say those words back with no regret. On Monday, since I will not see him this weekend, I am going to tell him, whether he likes it or not. I would just like to now if that is such a good idea… should I wait for him?
I would wait for him, LibraInLove.
If he is a typical Sag guy, he will say it when he is ready. They like their freedom and dont want to be pushed ever. Let him say it, though i get the wait must be hard! Just be sweet and thoughtful as you can or are already, and let the actions say more than words do (until he is ready to say them). Trust me, Sag guys cant keep things to themselves, particularly on love matters! Hope this helps
Why is it so important to say words when you can look in their eyes or tell by their actions? It took two years into a relationship before we ever officially said the words. Before, he wrote love in postcards and such & that was it. Now, I’m not a fan of the woman taking charge in this but it can be done if it isn’t heavy-handed and you know he feels the same. Here’s how it went down.
After a great day together, we were feeling the vibes as he was dropping me off at my house. We sat in the car not really wanting to say goodbye and the need to express how I felt overwhelmed me as I could see he was feeling it too. So, I asked him how he would describe the feeling we had then; if he had to put a word to it. He grinned widely but was still a chicken so he asked the same of me.
I said it felt like love. He laughed and agreed. It was perfect. Once we got that officially out of the way, we really didn’t say it much after that. Don’t expect Sag’s to be demonstrative verbally or much more than just being there in your relationship. You want flowers & love poems, go out with a Pisces or Cancer.
Hi, I’m a Scorpio girl with Moon – Taurus, Rising – Libra, Mars- Scorpio, Venus- Virgo in a relationship with a Sag guy for 5 yrs with Moon – Leo, Rising – Libra, Mars – Scorpio, Venus – Capricorn. I have given him till December to decide whether he wants to be committed or not. Any advice?
@MS
Giving a Sag an ultimatum? Good luck with that.
@Damien – lol. Hahahaha. I didn’t give him an ultimatum! In 2010 december I told him that I wanted to be just friends since his mom was against us being together (nd i got scared he would listen to her nd leave me). So he asked until 2011 December to sort his life (job) and to see if our fights will decrease (which have dramatically), and 1 year is a very lengthy amount of time to think about things seriously.
He was the one who asked me out, said he loves me nd proposed for marriage three different times but backed off because of our fights.
We speak to each other every day, even when we fight, I guess that is what has gotten both of us very attached.
I just wanna know if our signs are compatible and what to do to make us more compatible, and if it will last. I am very confused.
Scorpio womand and Sagittarius man are ill at ease with each other. Scorpio is possessive and prone to secret fits of jealousy, and Sagittarius is carefree, flirtatious, and capricious – he goes where his whims take him, and has a great time no matter where that may be.
Scorpio is a planner and Sagittarius is a dreamer – Sag often likes to “think out loud” about things that will never actually happen. Scorpio also has a tendancy to domineer Sagittarius and try to stamp out that capricious nature, and try to bring Sag down to earth, which is nigh-unto impossible.
Sag has a tendency to say exactly what’s on his mind without worrying about hurting people’s feelings or not. Tact is not his strong point. Scorpio woman will tolerate this – to a point. Scorpio has to learn how to let go and trust that when Sag man flirts, that’s all it is. Sag man needs to learn that Scorpio woman isn’t trying to suffocate him.
@bliss,
i write love poems and give flowers…lol
a sag will spoil you rotten when we are in love.
@libra in love,
what is his venus sign?
tell him, what do you have to lose?
@MS,
sag man and a scorpio women is a tough sell. i think its a little easier if its the other way around.
What could be holding him up is the Venus in Capricorn. something is causing him to REALLY delay and take his time.
i am a venus cap and i am SLOW to love or even make a move if i smell something fishy.
@damien,
Scorpio has to learn how to let go and trust that when Sag man flirts, that’s all it is. Sag man needs to learn that Scorpio woman isn’t trying to suffocate him.
*yep
@Sag24/7 – any advice at all??? 🙂
@MS
I would say if you really care about him, say fuck-all to astrology and tell him in no uncertain terms how you feel. Don’t hedge, don’t hold things back, and don’t try to outsmart your own feelings. Be perfectly 100% honest with yourself first – you said he asked you three times to marry him and you guys still aren’t married yet because “he backed off”…analyze your own feelings, do you really want to be married or are you just in love with the idea of being married to him?
Once you have a clear grasp on exactly what YOU want, I can guess that your Sag man will respond a little better to you, because if Sags value anything it’s blunt, out-front honesty. If you guys have been together and comitted for 5 years, there should be enough trust that you can be 100% open about how you feel *without fighting*. If you start to express your feelings and a fight breaks out, that’s probably an indicator that there’s a problem, cos Sag is one of the most placid and easy-going signs in the zodiac when it comes to relationships – they can take almost anything in stride (that’s the horsey half in action).
Like we’ve recommended to other people on this site though, check into his rising and Moon signs, cos they factor into his personality as well. Rising Libra should make you well adapted to being diplomatic in your personal relationships. One thing that jumps out about your rising sign in my reading – “The instinct for balance can ironically make you provocative, since you’re always prodding to set things right. At times, this comes across as bossy or relentless dissatisfaction. You may have to learn to accept those closest to you.” It could be that it’s you, not him, that’s causing the rifts without even realizing it? If he’s patient enough to ask you to marry him not once but three times, there’s obviously something else driving a wedge in.
@MS,
Damiens words are right on the money.
I had been dating a Sag man for 3 weeks and was totally smitten with him. HE was already talking long-term and trips we would take together, spending holidays with our famililes, etc. I would constantly receive daily texts or calls .. he would always try to find a way to contact me since we lived almost 2 hours away from each other. Recently on our 2nd official date, we went to dinner and got a hotel room. I knew it was a mistake but I thought we would have just have a little fun and fool around. Needless to say that didn’t happen… we ended up having sex even though I told him I wanted to wait. I heard from him a day later and I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been officially one week. I guess I have been duped and I am not easily bamoozled. I thought his words were real and true and thought we would continue on even after being intimate. Wow, now I truly believe more than ever Sags like the thrill of the chase and when they have conquered it; it’s a wrap.
@candi,
have you tried contacting him lately?
I love all the comments and insight about a sag man. I have been divorced for 5 years only went on 2 dates prior meeting my sag man in august. I am 50+ and have been dating my sag guy for three months. Since we live a distance we see each other about 2 to 3 times a month. I must say just as some of the previous posts he keeps me on my toes. Sometimes he is the most loving man in the world other times he is distant. I must say I have never dated a sag man and am totally smitten with him. I know enough that my sag likes his space and I have learned not to cramp anyones style. I try not
to over analyze love. I am falling for him and I think he is for me but again I choose not to push the issue. Time will tell if it is meant to be, and right now I am just enjoying the “moment”.
@ Sag 24/7…Yes, I contacted him three days after our “date” that I discussed in the earlier post and he said he had a family emergency, which resulted in him flying out to Colorado. I actually believed that part, however during the entire week I am sure he has had ample opportunity to contact me via text, telephone or email and he didn’t. I have to admit I am extremely upset because something told me to wait to become intimate, but I promise you I never saw it coming at all! He really seem real and his words seem honest and sincere. At my age I never thought I could be duped like this! 🙁
@candi,
either one of the two things happened:
1.) saggis come on strong when we want something. once we get it were satsified, unless you stimulate our mind immediately after sex. that is where the connection is made. if not, then we drift away to the next shiny red ball
or
2.) hes really busy with has family and hasnt gotten around to getting back to you.
@Candi in NC
I second what Sag 24/7 said in his 1st nd 2nd point. But if it is the 1st point then I have just a little trick, can’t say for sure if it will work, try calling him and if you reach his voice mail say ( it would b best if you were at a crowded place with your friends nd sounded upbeat, nd if ur friends would b talking really loud behind nd some loud music )-
hey! hope everything is going fine with your family. I had a really crazy week, nd yeh i wanted to tell you tha….. – NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO (a funny kind)!
(take the phone away from your face nd start tlking to someone else nd hang up as if u forgot that you were still on his voicemail but make sure that he is able to hear everything)
he might call back just out of curiosity, but then you actually have to have something to say to him 🙂
oooo i like that idea about how to call him!!!
@ Sag 24/7 .. thanks for the advice, seriously.. I really do appreciate it. It’s probably a mixture of both 1 and 2 … however, if the conversations were going good and he was mentally stimulated before, during and AFTER the act, why all of the sudden would he lose interest that fast? I mean we did the usual and typical cuddle talk after the act, him telling me about his childhood and even how he wants me to meet the family. It’s all very odd. However, it obviously wasn”t meant to be. I hate to think negative, but I think he wanted a white girl.. he touched my hair and asked me if I wore extensions. Of course I told him the truth and admitted that I did. He was already asking me not to wear them anymore and to wear my real hair. His last woman was white…so… I can’t help but to assume I wasn’t what he wanted. Or he could have been turned off by the fact he had to “talk” me into having sex with him since I told him I wanted to wait so we would have something to look forward to. But with a little touching and coaxing, I gave in..
@MS says.. thanks for the tip and I like it, but I already wrote him an email telling him what I thought. I was being bitchy, I just told him I thought he was different from all of the rest. I sent this on Sunday, needless to say he never responded back. Oh well… you win some, and my friends I have definitely lost one 🙁
@Candi in NC – Don’t think that he doesn’t like you because of your skin color, if that were the case he wouldn’t spend an entire month he would have just gone to a girl that would have slept with him more easily on the first date. If he was playing around he must have been seriously attracted to you to try so hard.
IF you want then you can try the trick that I wrote above. But only contact him one last time. Don’t keep ringing or making it seem as if you are still hung up on him. If you don’t like that idea and just want some closure then just send him a message saying – I am a very sincere and honest person and gave my 100%, not only that I believe that communication is key to a relationship, since I see that it is lacking I have decided to move on. I wish you the best in your life. I hope that in some later point of time we can be friends.
Be sure to say it in a calm and collected tone. This sudden turn in behaviour will make it seem as if you have already started dating or will soon, this also might make him curious. Your saying that you will not stay with him makes you officially break up with him before he does, and your saying that you both can be friends will allow him space to call you and you might be able to nibble out an explanation.
@Candi,
naw it isnt your skin color. if he told you to start wearing your real hair, i would take it as a compliment. my ex was white 2, but that doesnt mean that is my type.
if you letter was bitchy, i wouldnt respond either. saggis dont like negativity. it drains us. we keep it light and fun. if we get deeper with you, it s asign that we want you to know our real selves.
i wouldnt contact him anymore. your just feeding his ego from this point on.
it sucks, but ive used people for sex too. im not saying this is the case BUT its a possiblity.
@Sag 24/7 Thanks again for your honesty… I definitely won’t contact him again .. I don’t want to feed the male ego. And I meant to say in my note that the e-mail WASN’T bitchy. It was calm and collected. And also if he was using me for sex why invest all the time, initial dating and calls to just for that. Heck, how does he know I wasn’t looking for the same thing? He looked me in the eye and said it had been one year since he had sex, since he works all the time …something made me believe him. Damn, I thought we would be screwing each other’s brains out since he had been without that long! 😛 Anyway, okay..so I guess it wasn’t the hair thing or because I’m black and his previous woman was white. Oftentimes, I just can tell that bruthas want a white woman because they are submissive and “easier” to deal with…. You both need to go in the counseling business! I appreciate yal and you have made me feel so much better! Muah!