To feel remorse, you first have to be aware of — and respect — the experience of another being. Unfortunately, many people are either sociopathic or just not mature enough to recognize that others deserve fair treatment. The foundation of this understanding is based on rules and laws, moral codes that are hammered into our heads by our parents and society. This superegoic consciousness can be represented by Saturn. This strict planet is not all bad — it is appropriate to repress certain instincts, when acting on them hurts others. Think of the Ten Commandments: It’s not OK to steal or screw your neighbor’s spouse, for example. If we all did whatever our instincts told us to do, we’d live in chaos.
And yet, our parents and society also teach us to repress vital parts of ourselves — in the service of conformity, as well as submission to the State. Is it not sad that — in becoming aware of our talents and desires that meet disapproval from the mainstream — we feel like we are trespassing, or doing something wrong?
Libra, the sign in which Saturn finds its exaltation, is focused on doing what appears right or culturally appropriate. There is a core of strength in Libra, in its focus on fairness, justice and balance. And yet there is also a wishy-washy quality that comes from being so focused on pleasing all parties that Libra does not know what to do — he does not trust his insides because he does not want to lose face.[notpremise]
How does a Libra feel when he violates his own sense of what is just?
All things being equal, a Libra may be less likely to be uncouth or to outright hurt another’s feelings than other Sun signs. It is difficult to act on one’s impulses when “the done thing” is foremost in one’s mind. But if he has, say, a personal planet in blunt Sagittarius, critical Virgo, vindictive Scorpio or elitist Leo, he may relate in a manner that violates his own sense of decorum.
If there is an opportunity to make a Libra feel guilty, it is by exploiting the inner conflict between (A) his priority on civility and fair treatment; and (B) his impulses that conflict with the values embraced by his conscious Self. That is, to make his Libra Sun feel offended by the behavior of one of his subpersonalities.
You may need to draw special attention to how one of his other personal planets acts in a depraved manner, for a Libra may very well disown this planet and project it on to others, as he cannot bear acknowledging that there is a part of himself that can be so crude.
Bear in mind that the point of this exercise is not to make him feel guilty out of malevolence, but rather to help him find a higher expression for parts of himself that are underdeveloped.
There is a risk, though, of aiding in the suppression of healthy instincts that just happen to not be “nice.” There is a place for bluntness, for exposing ugly truths, for being critical in order to help someone make improvements upon themselves. Not all human behavior needs to be “sugar and spice and everything nice.” So, if you care about your Libra man, use guilt sparingly, for if he remains stuck in his Sun sign modus operandi, he will rarely express any emotional depth or engage in meaningful exchanges in the pursuit of a higher truth.
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