He Said/She Said features a love advice question answered by professional astrologers Jessica Shepherd of Moonkissd and Jeffrey Kishner of Seduction Central. After they each provide their perspective, they combine their insight to offer advice they both agree on.
A Scorpio woman (view her chart) writes,
We have known each other for four months as business and friends, and he has been very supportive to me. he wants me to his wife for life we have not consumated our relationship physically but he swears what that i am the one!
my concern is i just found out he was married three times….Is he for real? His last girlfirend was a ten year relationship and he was alone the last two years? I take relationships seriously…..and have never been married….I am an attractive, sexy, successful woman…who has had offers..but have been leary….this seems real??? but my heart says one thing and my head says another.
This Gemini man (view his chart) has Venus in Aries opposite a Saturn-Neptune conjunction, all square Uranus. This configuration is called a T-Square, and creates much tension because the planets are working at cross-purposes with each other. (And if you want to count Chiron the Wounded Healer, he has a cardinal Grand Cross!) His relationship planet (Venus) is being challenged by significant transpersonal forces. Uranus brings to Venus an urge toward independence, excitement and unconventionality. Neptune brings idealism, a need for fantasy and escape. And Saturn brings a longing for commitment and groundedness. All of these archetypal desires are fine in their own right — the problem is that the angles these planets make to Venus make it difficult to integrate their expression in his relationship life. As a result, he may be constantly battling between commitment (Saturn) versus freedom (Uranus); reality (Saturn) versus fantasy (Neptune); the urge to merge (Neptune) versus the need for distance (Uranus). This complex may correspond with his trouble maintaining a successful long-term marriage.
You’re wondering if this is real. That’s hard to say, because the planet of Unreality — Neptune — is currently transiting the cusp of your Seventh House of Partnership. You cannot see other people clearly right now. Nor will you for a long time, as Neptune moves slowly and will be traveling through this house for many years. You are prone to idealize a partner, to see who you want to see. This can be a glamorous experience, as you feel romantic and want to realize your relationship fantasies. However, your judgment may be cloudy during this time.
My advice is to take it slow. You’ve only known each other for four months! Go on many dates with him. If you’re both comfortable with sex before marriage, see how compatible you are in the bedroom. Your Capricorn Saturn “completes” his cardinal T-square, so you may notice that you “activate” his relationship issues. Don’t make any serious decisions until you see his issues come into play.
To read Jessica’s response to the same question, visit Moonkissd — then read They Said for their bottom line advice!
All indicators say take your time with this guy. Get to know him, gather evidence about why marriage hasn’t worked for him in the past. Time will allow his issues to make themselves known. You’ll eventually find out if he’s ready and willing to be a husband.
Jeffrey and Jessica are available for astrology consultations. Check out their respective websites for details.
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