He Said She Said: Scorpio woman wonders if Gemini man is for real


He Said/She Said features a love advice question answered by professional astrologers Jessica Shepherd of Moonkissd and Jeffrey Kishner of Seduction Central. After they each provide their perspective, they combine their insight to offer advice they both agree on.

A Scorpio woman (view her chart) writes,

We have known each other for four months as business and friends, and he has been very supportive to me. he wants me to his wife for life we have not consumated our relationship physically but he swears what that i am the one!

my concern is i just found out he was married three times….Is he for real? His last girlfirend was a ten year relationship and he was alone the last two years? I take relationships seriously…..and have never been married….I am an attractive, sexy, successful woman…who has had offers..but have been leary….this seems real??? but my heart says one thing and my head says another.

He Said:

Jeffrey KishnerThis Gemini man (view his chart) has Venus in Aries opposite a Saturn-Neptune conjunction, all square Uranus. This configuration is called a T-Square, and creates much tension because the planets are working at cross-purposes with each other. (And if you want to count Chiron the Wounded Healer, he has a cardinal Grand Cross!) His relationship planet (Venus) is being challenged by significant transpersonal forces. Uranus brings to Venus an urge toward independence, excitement and unconventionality. Neptune brings idealism, a need for fantasy and escape. And Saturn brings a longing for commitment and groundedness. All of these archetypal desires are fine in their own right — the problem is that the angles these planets make to Venus make it difficult to integrate their expression in his relationship life. As a result, he may be constantly battling between commitment (Saturn) versus freedom (Uranus); reality (Saturn) versus fantasy (Neptune); the urge to merge (Neptune) versus the need for distance (Uranus). This complex may correspond with his trouble maintaining a successful long-term marriage.

You’re wondering if this is real. That’s hard to say, because the planet of Unreality — Neptune — is currently transiting the cusp of your Seventh House of Partnership. You cannot see other people clearly right now. Nor will you for a long time, as Neptune moves slowly and will be traveling through this house for many years. You are prone to idealize a partner, to see who you want to see. This can be a glamorous experience, as you feel romantic and want to realize your relationship fantasies. However, your judgment may be cloudy during this time.

My advice is to take it slow. You’ve only known each other for four months! Go on many dates with him. If you’re both comfortable with sex before marriage, see how compatible you are in the bedroom. Your Capricorn Saturn “completes” his cardinal T-square, so you may notice that you “activate” his relationship issues. Don’t make any serious decisions until you see his issues come into play.

She Said:

Jessica ShepherdTo read Jessica’s response to the same question, visit Moonkissd — then read They Said for their bottom line advice!

To submit your burning love question, email Jessica with “he said, she said” in the subject line, or complete Jeffrey’s form.

They Said:

All indicators say take your time with this guy. Get to know him, gather evidence about why marriage hasn’t worked for him in the past. Time will allow his issues to make themselves known. You’ll eventually find out if he’s ready and willing to be a husband.

Jeffrey and Jessica are available for astrology consultations. Check out their respective websites for details.

Related post: Scorpio and Gemini reasons for breakup
(66 comments strong!)

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.


  1. i just met a gemeni man. can someone help me figure him out? lol

  2. JENNIFER says:

    All I can say is, enjoy the moment, it well not last long, even if you do everything right. Don’t make future plans live in the moment, be spontaneous and romantic! Don’t fall for the charm!!! Smoke and mirrors

Feel free to leave a comment below, or scroll down a bit to comment using your Facebook identity. If you want to avoid having to enter your name and email every time you post, create an account. If you already have an account, login and you will be redirected back to this page.