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celine provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,
My venus is … opposing saturn…. I couldn’t have a long time relationship because of the saturn effect. I have also no planet in my 7th house…. Am I always going to fail in love & money? [edited for clarity]
Saturn opposite Venus is a challenging aspect, but it doesn’t mean you’re destined to be lonely and bereft. The challenging side of Saturn is its tendency to restrict, block and test. In a stressful aspect like the opposition (a 180-degree angle), Venus’ needs to express affection and feel attractive and loved are hindered. The opposition aspect especially manifests in relationships, so you may continually confront harsh authority figures who withdraw their approval. Saturn is the archetype of the father, and since Saturn is the traditional ruler of Aquarius on the cusp of your Fourth House — which some astrologers correlate with the father — it is likely that you repeat a rejecting relational pattern that started with him. That is, if your father was withholding, you are drawn to men who seem familiar, and who also give you the cold shoulder. (Venus-Saturn correlates with an attraction to older men or men in positions of authority.)
However, there are positives to Saturn: commitment, duty, responsibility, seriousness. Astrologers often say that those with challenging Saturn-Venus aspects find love later in life, because Saturn is the planet of delay. Regardless, it is simply part of your path to master the obstacle course of love, and through confronting this hardship, you become very clear about what you need (and refuse to put up with) in relationship. Venus is the planet of value and self-worth, so put in some serious effort to build up your self-esteem, so that you don’t feel you have to prove your value to a man.
You are currently undergoing your Saturn Return — when Saturn returns to its original position in the zodiac when you were born — and this planet is also opposing your natal Venus by transit. In essence, you are going through a period of maturity in which you need to let go of patterns that weigh you down. I suggest you do some writing to analyze your relational patterns. Through taking an inventory of yourself, you become more aware of what’s holding you back from a satisfying love life.
Related post: Honoring Saturn and Venus
Great Post Jeff! So so true!
I have a similar deal with my Scorpio Saturn Square Venus
(also no 7th house) and I’ve had to realize EXACTLY what I need in a person, and stick to it.. I have a smaller amount of wiggle room than anyone I know. Don’t do “opposites attract” and set clear rules and boundaries (saturn demands it!). Also, have to fight off major deceptive tendencies. In fact, whenever I feel the urge to even “downplay” something, I tell the truth to my husband immediately so I can’t build it up. I wanted someone who works for me, and I will work for them and the relationship.
Yes. Perhaps not perpetual failure so much as perpetual disappointment.
My mother had Venus-Saturn square. Her love life was a very sad state of affairs, my heart still bleeds for her.
Thankfully my Venus is trine Jupiter. I strike it rich sometimes but it never lasts (my Venus is also conjunct Uranus/Pluto)
Such is life.
Jeffery,
Nice post. Extremely accurate.
I have this exact placement: venus opposes Saturn and no 7th house. My dad is emotionally unavailable and my love life is dismal at best.
I have had several relationships with emotionally unavailable men but I am working on changing that. I look forward to having a successful relationship someday.
I wish I knew all this then…I had that with my Scorp. Makes complete sense now. Angeline, I envy you. I want my Scorp till death do us part too 🙁
I have a friend who has the venus saturn opposition but with venus in gemini.
He prefers open relationships and always seems to be involved with women in one way or another (romantically and sexually), including long-term relationships. So I wonder how it is actually playing out in his chart. I don’t see any delays for him in that department!
I don’t know his houses though (no birth time).
What about Venus conjunct Saturn?
My Venus is squared Saturn and my love life is/was disastrous!
Why? Hmmmm….;)
Sun/Mercury/Neptune in the 7th..
relationships are immensely important to me though I idealize and depersonalize my loved ones till I fall by the wayside, disillusioned and disenchanted.
I have Saturn in 1st opposing my Venus w/in 1 degree in Scorpio in my 7th. I have 4 planets in 7th, so this is not an issue but my father- definitely was never available emotionally (until I was out of the house – then, I learned there are miracles, because we have a great relationship now!!!)
I have, yes, usually been in relationships where there is that brick wall, namely, Saturn, and it creates such dificulties (just had it out this morning over this very thing w/my bou – but at least ended it w/love).
I did read recently somewhere that to get over this saturn/venus confliction, one must just love the saturn person (the cold person). To be honest, this seems true, but I wish I could always remember this!?!
Well, if you have this affliction, there is no “getting out of it” and so, diving right in, this, I avow right here, that I will pledge to TRY with my heart to do this. There will be a possible forgetful day – but I am going to go w/this advise and just see where it takes me? (Maybe just loving them anyhow, sets off some “karma” that we have and also – saturnian energy, in general, is very loyal and committed, and so, maybe it will possibly help this to grow so that the Saturn meets up with the Venus and then there is committment AND love – nice idea huh?!) – opposites can balance (180 degrees?!?!)
@curious, Saturn conjunct Venus would have similar issues, but here’s the difference with conjunctions, as I understand them: although both planets are “unified” (especially when conjunct in the same sign, meaning that their expressions are congruent), there can be a blindness in the native regarding how the aspect plays out. With a square or opposition, one is forced to be conscious, because the conflict is right in one’s face. With the conjunction, it’s like if you have poor peripheral vision, you may not even notice what’s right next to you. There’s more of an Aries type innocence (I use Aries because Aries:conjunction as Libra:opposition), implying a lack of awareness of the aspect’s impact.
Wow, nicely said. As I have the opposition, my ex had the saturn/venus (and jupiter)conjunction; and he WAS obviously unconscious of it. Does this mean that they end up w/less pain about it? Or just as much, but later, when they are finally conscious of it. And if they are not conscious of it – do they not really feel that “lack of love” and inablility to quite reach it quite the same way? What would they be feeling, then, if they are uncounscious of it?!
Jeffery, is this true (see below)? In order to work-out saturn/venus opposition one has to love the cold-person? How does one love someone who ignores their needs?
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did read recently somewhere that to get over this saturn/venus confliction, one must just love the saturn person (the cold person). To be honest, this seems true, but I wish I could always remember this!?!
Well, if you have this affliction, there is no “getting out of it” and so, diving right in, this, I avow right here, that I will pledge to TRY with my heart to do this. There will be a possible forgetful day – but I am going to go w/this advise and just see where it takes me? (Maybe just loving them anyhow, sets off some “karma” that we have and also – saturnian energy, in general, is very loyal and committed, and so, maybe it will possibly help this to grow so that the Saturn meets up with the Venus and then there is committment AND love – nice idea huh?!) – opposites can balance (180 degrees?!?!)
Just imagine PLU making a kite with NatNorth Node and NatCHI and NatVEN. Fantastic pyrmide from the side with support from NatJUP. (NatNorth Node/NatMOO/ NatSUN !!/ and NatNEP. There’s a small link with NatJUP. This NatJUP could potentially be part of a grand trine. I wouldn’t be surprised as the NatMOO is involved. That has got to attract NatJUP to her. So, we have a Grand Trine with NatURA/NatJUP/ NatMOO/ NatMER/ NatMAR. You want more what exactly? Maybe it has enough to contend with the T from NatPLU/NatMOO and NatSUN. NatNEP links these two with a TRI to NatSUN@21_14ARI (for the T) and a SQR with NatMER and NatMAR, Then you have the North Node. Mmm it does place a lot of your planets into the R-hand side of the chart. I can see why now. I’d look out for strong visits, when VEN and SAT comes past NatPLU.
I am a happily married woman. I was in love before marriage. I am a taurus and he was a Scorpio. He also liked me. When i proposed him he acepted partially butdenied later.I need to know why it has happened and will i talk to him in future just as a friend?
Hello there !
Great comments on Venus opposite Saturn !
My boyfriend has this aspect, with Venus in Gemini
(6th house Venus, 12th house Saturn).
Any ideas what this means?
Thanks a zillion !!!
Hey Moira,
I was ready the article and found it very interesting also.
I’m no astrologer but I figure I give my opinion on your boyfriends Venus Oppose Saturn.
•The 6th house deals with his everyday routines,his work,his health, even pets. His Venus is in that house. He finds enjoyment in that house. (He’s probrably good with his hands too) wink wink
• The 12th house is a very subjective, house. All that’s hidden. Secrets, prisons, institutions, etc. Authoritive Saturn is there. Karma.
…..Hope that helps.
P.S. I found out personally its hard loving with Venus in Hard Aspects to Saturn. Lack either Maternal or Parental love.
My ex has Venus in Scorpio square his Saturn in Leo. My Venus and Saturn are in Leo!!
One way to explain that chemistry: I hate that I love you! Smile!
Olivia
HI OLIVIA !!!
I loved your response, and it helped too !
Thanks !!!
1. You’re right on the inability to express emotions due to Venus in Hard Aspects to Saturn. (Lack either Maternal or Parental love).
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My ex has Venus in Scorpio square his Saturn in Leo.
My Venus and Saturn are in Leo!!
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Well ! What an interesting, steaming, passionate combination !
Some thoughts on your synastry:
Your Venus in Leo indicates you’re attractive in an impressive way,
proud, and be it your appearance or your taste, you always get noticed !
You don’t indicate the aspect between your Venus+Saturn: Is it a conjunction, or these planets are in the same sign? Saturn in Leo would be over dignified, too proud and responsible in career, family and social matters.
You’d do anything to protect your loved ones.
YOUR EX’S VENUS IN SCORPIO tends to challenge your above values and patterns.
This is a passionate, possessive Love expression, which would feel threatened by your natural need to get noticed, feel special etc.
By these aspects alone, we can see you’re an extrovert, in love with love and life’s pleasures, whereas his actions would be more “to the point”, i.e. he wants you to be attractive just for him, affectionate just for him, etc.
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Olivia, it seems that your ex bf had a strong impact on you.
You surely had a superhot encounter with this man, but the
conflicts / ego+pride issues were too steamy to be ignored.
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Do you have any enhancing / rectifying aspects ?
I’ve been thinking that squares are not that bad:
A Leo Sun is conceived while Sun is in Cancer. If God created us in full perfection, this square between our time of conception & time of birth indicates a time frame where we improve and develop.
So, Olivia, think of this aspect and if you want it, give it a try with your ex! Next Wednesday, April 14, there is a New Moon in Aries! This trines your Venus and Saturn! Something exciting is in store for you !
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Maybe astrology & synastry indicates our strengths and weaknesses,
and our challenge and trophy is to make things work.
Our main tool is to improve our own faults, and this way we’ll see any problems with our beloved ones disappear.
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Best of luck,
Moira xxx
Marsey + Jeffrey,
You’ve posted some very interesting comments on Venus – Saturn hard aspects.
They say that opposition over time gets better and better, i.e. the initial clashes offer wisdom over time. The person works on stability of emotions,
and eventually things work out.
Some Class A+ Astrologers consider the opposition as second best aspect, right after the trine !
Cheers,
Moira
Hello , very interesting comments to read. I have a Saturn-Venus square in my birth chart (Saturn in Libra, Venus in Capricorn). Empty 7th House (but it’s in Aquarius, and also I am not very interested in marriage itself – remember this is the House of legal union, not of all the kind of relationships) . I’ve had a couple of long lasting relationships in the past, both quite troubled. Well in my experience, I can give a hope to everyone who has this aspect , because what really cleared things up in my mind, and in my life, was the transit of Saturn trine my natal Venus. Beside giving me the chance to understand so many things about my personal way to love, it was also a gorgeous period, very happy!
Wishing you all the best,
L.
P.S: Ops, I forgot , for Moira
That’s a pretty challenging aspect your boyfriend have there – he might experience feelings of loneliness, sometimes not because he really is but because someone who has a certain authority on him (father, boss…) treats him in a way that he perceives as a not proper consideration, making him feel just as a part of the mass, someone like anybody else while he would probably desire a more relevant part (in the family, or at work, wherever this aspect tends to show up in his life). Does he work in the health field?
Saturn in the 12th House also warns us about forced loneliness (jail) , and I assume it is in Sagittarius from what you said, so it might happen due to a excessive naivety. I’d suggest him to stay away from troubles and “crooked” people, especially if his Mercury and/or Pluto are not very “shiny” 😉
Anyway, there is no way to imagine how this aspect might be affecting your relationship without at least checking up his Moon, if it is quite relevant he might have in you a good support. Good luck!
L.
My relationship chart isn’t all that great (I have Saturn in Pisces in the 7th, and Venus in Taurus opposite Neptune in Scorpio). Seems most of my issues have not only revolved around this dynamic of delayed or unrequited love, but my sexual issues are also affected. This I feel was because of my sensual Taurus Venus in the 10th was always being “watered down” by that 4th house Neptune in Scorpio. As you know both Taurus & Scorpio are related to the physical and psychic aspects of sex. Plus I have the moon in Virgo in the 2nd house widely opposed by Mars in Pisces in the 8th. That’s another sexual dynamic.! For the past 10 yrs, I didn’t have any sex since I didn’t have men interested in me. Maybe my progressions have changed, cuz now I have improved my appearance through diet and supplements (Moon in Virgo) and exercise (Sun in Aries in the 9th). So now I have some guys talk to me in public places & seem friendly & interested, also on Facebook where I have my best photos posted, guys contact me often. But I get these guys who are either married, too young, not my type mentally or physically, etc.
But it all just seems like a strange dream…even though I have more chances now, the men I have been more involved with I notice have even worse relationship charts than I do (I’m almost at the point of breaking up with a guy I’ve dated for a year who’s chart hits mine, but his chart is awful for relationships too. He also has Saturn in the 7th in Taurus oppose his Venus in Scorpio in his 1st. His Saturn is on my Venus. But he has some nasty aspects like his Moon squares his Venus and Saturn, making a difficult T-square. So even though we have some good aspects between us, I think we have our own bad stuff that makes potentials less feasible. He praised me so much this past year But then recently he hung up on me out of a selfish argument. His 1st house Venus charm and looks seem to be fading a bit too, though I think his biggest issue is his lack of intimacy with me (because of his harsh T-square, I believe). Its interesting that he is the first man I’ve had a relationship with in these past 10 yrs! And that we have these Scorpio-Taurus, 2nd-8th house connections (either through synastry or individually). Despite our appearances and our educations, neither of us have been married before (He’s Persian, which is considered somewhat strange that he hasn’t been married in his culture). But seems when he did have good relationships, he always had to leave them behind. I think now he thinks if he’s not with me he’ll have better luck with women of his own culture, but he doesn’t know that even so, its a rough road for a person with a chart like his. My chart ain’t no picnic either, so I have different issues to tackle too.
I just still have hope (Venus opposite Neptune) that I find that all encompassing male who relates to me mentally (my 9th house Sun and Mercury in Aries) and one that fulfills me sexually (my Mars in Pisces in the 8th, Moon in the 2nd house). I have a big aspect to fulfill also with that Venus in Taurus- “sex”, with its opposition to Neptune in Scorpio, Scorpio being the sign that rules sex!
No wonder I’ve turned to spiritual practices (Pisces/9th house stellium), lol!
I have Saturn opposing Venus (and Jupiter); and my relationships are never. In other words, I never had a relationship and I am 42.. As I write this, my heart is bleeding. I have never been lucky in love, never. It ends before it starts. I guess I am paying for some bad karma in a past life. I know I have to try harder, yet painful as it is, I have to try and approach more women. Guys in prison get more p!ssy than I do. Sometimes I wonder. I feel like I am trapped in a box and there is no way out.
There was on Astrological article that summed it up succinctly: Either you have lots of “relationship karma” or you don’t. Or as another article put it, either you’re “relationship prone” or you aren’t.
I’m going through a Saturn-Venus hard transit right now. I’ve given up completely on relationships at this time and have turned my focus elsewhere.
Going off on a tangent, society has failed us in terms of teaching humans how to form lasting relationships. Instead we have bevies of crooked characters who are unemployed, married, mentally unstable, etc. – all completely unsuitable for relationships. Furthermore, I don’t know of a single happily married couple. Sad.
My chart is probably the worst one could have for relationships. 7th house Neptune conjunct S.Node, 12th house Venus, 5th house Saturn. I have had to work hard to break the bad relationship patterns I had – only to find that, like Lisa, it’s always the married and extremely unattractive who are the quickest to approach. Also, the control freaks and other mentally unsuitable creatures. Part of this may have to do with the fact that I am in an environment where I am exposed to low-class individuals exclusively. I am looking to continue my education to remedy that problem.
I look forward to the day where married couples are in the minority, and people learn to accept independence and stop living for another person to solve their problems. A pox on marriage and the married.
Does Saturn-Venus mean perpetual failure in love? If you are 45 going on 46 and have a Saturn in Aries exactly SQUARING your Venus in Cancer and to another degree your Sun in Cancer and your a middle-aged struggling single woman in a youth-obsessed environment like SoCal, I’d have to say with a resounding ‘YES’! I’ve never been married nor had any children and have spent most of my life totally single without love (hardly any sexual pleasure) nor being a committed healthy loving relationship. The ONLY 3 short-lived boyfriends that I’ve had in the 45 yrs I’ve been alive have all been abusive and emotionally unavailable with addiction and commitment issues. I honestly ‘feel’ that at this grim point in my life, that I probably will never find my true love/soulmate. I have seriously given up especially now with Pluto in Cap opposing my Mars in Cancer (soon my Sun) then Saturn in Scorpio squaring my Moon and Uranus in Aries squaring my Mars transiting my 7th house. Volatile, destructive, abusive mean people are ALL I have been attracting. Sick unbelievably SICK of it! Literally, it is making me ill beyond mere depression.
I have this. Saturn in tenth Sag opposite Venus in Gemini! Also S.Node Libra 7th house cusp, no planets in 7th and did I mention I have Chiron conjunct my Venus!!!! At 27 I’ve only had one boyfriend for 6 months that was emotionally distant but he had saturn in 4th house issues. I honestly don’t know if marraige and children is on the cards for me which is hard being a Cancer with Sun in 5th as I crave romance and love kids. Seems like even after the saturn return there’s no hope…
Well it’s been exactly 8 years since I have written Jeffrey about my Venus-Saturn opposition.I was in a terrible period of my life.I had no hope.After 2 years 2010 when transit jupiter conjunct my natal venus I met my future husband.And we married in 2011.I was happy but you know life is not a hollywood movie.Since we are married I have been having trouble with his family and finance issues.My marriage is not like what I dreamed of.I think this venus-saturn aspect ruins the love and money of the person.I am writing this for the people who have this aspect.There is always hope but be aware of struggle about love and money when you have this aspect.
Wow, @Celine, I’m sorry your marriage hasn’t been exactly what you’ve wished for. I hope it gets better. Keep us updated. 🙂
As for me, I have Venus (6th house) sextile Saturn (conjunct ic from my third house) and at 19, I have yet to have a relationship. Honestly, I can’t even make friends.
My mom has the sextile with her Venus in Gemini and her Saturn in Leo. Her relationships haven’t gone so well either. She has been married three times, divorced twice. I believe both were alcoholics, and abusive. She also doesn’t have any friends. But, at 65, I guess that’s normal to drift away from friends.
My step-dad has the square and his wife, prior to my mom, cheated on him. He also doesn’t see any of his friends.
Together, my parents have a terrible marriage, and if finances weren’t an issue, I believe they would be divorced by now.
I have become a bit turned off from having a relationship of any kind. I’m trying really hard not to become jaded, but it’s difficult.
Hang in there all of you venus-saturn creatures before giving up hope.
For venus-saturn the love needs to be real, tangible, roles need to be defined a bit. We need to ‘work’ for the relationship, and the relationship has to ‘work’ for us.
Im a 31 year old giy, my parents had a terrible marriage, dad an alcoholic who was never home, mother struggling to raise the kids. They divorced when I was 7 years old, from 10 years old my father never spoke to me again.
My mom had a second relationship, also very bad, which ended after 10 years, with her becoming schizophrenic and sort of homeless, I gave her my appartment, and rented a room for myself (She has a taurus sun-mercury in the 8th, retrograde venus in aries in the 7th, square capricorn saturn in the 5th). She has been gradually becoming a bit better, after a long time found the right medicine, but all went awry when my younger brother went homeless, lived with her for a while (which was a terrible experience for her because he’s aggresive and irresponsible, and just started to get psychoses) and subsequently fled to peru, the country she’s from.
She has first become very sad, and then entered a psychoses again and became very angry and reminded of all her past trauma’s, became unbearable for people to deal with her. She has now been admitted to a mental institution against her will and is recovering there fortunately.
Now to make my point. I have a terrible chart i.m.o, with sun-venus in leo in the 4th square mars-saturn in scorpio in the 6th. Pluto in the 6th squaring the sun and midheaven. Retro Uranus in the 7th. Retro jupiter-neptune in the 8th (which I believe is the most potent force in my chart, gives me a feeling that all will be well in the end, to endure in crisises and support others, and a feeling of wellbeing unrelated to materialism).
I’ve been shy in my teenage/adolescent years because of my father having abonded me, and because I had a missing front tooth untill I was 13 years old, when my mother finally had some money for me to have it fixed (chiron in the 1st, or/and venus square saturn). Thought of myself as ugly, undeserving of love.
Had my first real girlfriend at 19 years old, didnt last long. And first real relationship when 23 years old, which did not work out because of her being too possesive (her venus conjunct pluto I guess). I then met my current wife when I went back to school, and we had a brief affair of a couple of months. Then separated because of my lack of effort, I found another girlfriend. But That didnt workout and we came back together. Now were together since 2009. Married in 2014.
Then I met someone last year (2015) I fell deeply in love with (her sun conjunct my venus, her venus-mercury mars in my 5th, her moon conjuncting my uranus in the 7th) never had such strong feelings for someone. I see this as the most important decision I ever had to make and decided not to pursue the relationship any further since I’m married and didnt get married to abandon her a year after, even when I thought I found the ‘one’. It hurt very very badly, like I had to wave ‘true love’ away due to responsibilities(venus-saturn?)
But now, a half year later, I’m very glad I took the conscious decision, me and my wife are now expecting out first child which will be born this summer. All kinds of (family) problems arise in our life, but our bond and love for each other is strong and we help eachother through it.
She has her cappy saturn in the 7th house, square her venus in aries in the 10th. Her Sun-mercury in taurus in the 11th. Pluto in scorpio in the 5th (Which conjuncts my mars and squares my venus) Jupiter-chiron conjunction in cancer in her 12th, which conjuncts my moon.
We both have venus aspecting saturn and uranus, just I have uranus in the 7th, saturn in the 6th. She with saturn in the 7th,uranus-neptune conjunction in the 6th. My uranus in the 7th needs to roam free sometimes, do crazy stuff with friends, but I always find my way back to her. Her capricorn saturn in the 7th makes her work hard and dedicate a lot of her time to work, after work socializing with colleagues.
I guess as a man that has been unfaithfull at times in the past, writing my story will certainly not win me a popularity contest here. But i’m trying very hard to do good by her and contain my uranian crazyness.
What i’m trying to say I guess is one can overcome his own chart and life situation, but you have to believe it is possible, and a hard look in the mirror and reflecting on ones past and current decisions is key. What are you willing to give/do for the other, what are you expecting in return. Saturn things takes time but are built to last.
@Giancarlo Your testimony helped me a lot. I’m so happy for your family!
I have Saturn in Aries (6th house) squaring my Venus in Cancer (9th house). Even though I don’t perceive this aspect with a negative conotation, I tend to be insecure about my love life in the future, as if a long lasting relationship is out of my reach, so I simply gave up on it. However, something in my mind tells me that there’s still hope! (I tend to be waaaaaaaaay too romantic! :P)
I’m not sure about the quality of my chart. I’ve just begun my studies in astrology, so if anyone who’s far more qualified than me to share your opinion on the venus-saturn aspect, go ahead!
This sucks ! I have this and my father was never there for me he always gave my mom and brother more love then me he gave me cold shoulder and my love life is HORRABLE I dated MENY men and been married 2 times first one was ABUSEIVE and on drugs the man I am married to now is VERY COLD never loves me we fight all the time there’s no love he does not do drugs but he tell my son I am mental I’ll he thinks everyone likes him and no one likes me but he has only one FREIND he’s family treats me like crap and they are nasty people just like him he is alot like my father my father was ABUSEIVE to me both men and others treat me like crap and I wish I would have alot of money but this Venus opp sat Never gives me hardly nothing so I can get my son and get a house of my own and pay with out men’s crap so sick of love l feel like a LONER I WONDER if any one with this has took there life some one told me in a past life’s I have done so this sucks WHAT DID I DO IN A PAST LIFE TO GET THIS NO LOVE NO MONEY THIS SUCKS !
I’d just like to give a glimmer of hope that if you have Venus – Saturn in hard aspect you’re not necessarily doomed to a loveless life 🙂
My partner of 10 years has Venus almost exactly opposite Saturn [orb of 0’25]
We have one of the happiest most stable relationships of our entire social group. Very deep loyalty & love.
Don’t really argue, laugh a lot & just get a lot of joy out of being together even after 10 years.
However in synastry we do have a double grand trine between our Sun / Saturn positions & we also have a double banger aspect of both our vertex exactly conjunct the others AC.
And my partner was adopted, didn’t have any real relationships before he met me at 40, and is sexually dysfunctional [not that he seems to care]
So in his case it started off rough, but has gotten better
Hope this helps someone out there in cyberspace!
Im an exact venus -saturn square. Had several boyfriends, but nothing lasting past two or three years. The happy ending eludes me. I dont know if I care anymore. In a good way. Came from a difficult home, have powerful feelings but crave independence. Still want to end up with someone. Working on it. Have tenacity.
First of all, I’m so happy to have found this website. Being new to astrology, the information here is very clarifiyng and uplifting, even if you have aspects considered very bad in a natal chart.
So I have venus sqaure pluto, venus square saturn and moon square saturn, all of which tell the story of having emotionally cold parents and having been abandoned through childhood. This is true of my childhood as well, but, and here comes the question: Some years ago I realized that without the presence of my father, who was very strict, stern and often angry, I would have commited suicide at some point earlier in my life. I feel that he saved my life just because he really wanted me, in contrast to my mother who never really wanted a third child. This is something I still can feel as a huge difference between them towards me.
So here is question: I am wondering if saturn square venus and moon could also mean that your father was the parent who took care of and was nuturing you?