The sign your Venus is in shows how you attract people. But what if you just don’t identify with what the astrology books say about your Venus sign? (Read Venus in Love, Mars in Heat to learn more about what your Venus sign means.)
When Venus is in a different sign than the Sun
One form of “dissonance” occurs when your Venus is in a different sign than your Sun. The Sun is your conscious identity, your will. If your Venus is in the sign immediately before or after your Sun sign, then your love planet attracts in a manner incompatible with what you intentionally strive for. If your Venus is two signs away from your Sun, their expressions are more compatible, because they are both either yang/masculine (Fire and Air signs) or yin/feminine (Earth and Water signs.) And if your Sun and Venus are in the same sign, then their expressions are congruent.
A quick example: Say you’re a woman with Sun in Aries and Venus in Pisces, the sign immediately preceding Aries. You’re direct and impulsive, you know what you want and you go for it. Yet when it comes to attracting potential partners, you tend to be more passive and hard-to-grasp. The Venusian part of yourself feels at odds with how you identify yourself. Frustrating!
(I have also written a post about Venus in Cancer and the five Sun signs that can accompany this placement.)
When Venus makes a hard aspect to an outer planet
Your Venus’ expression, however, can be totally disrupted when one of the outermost planets (Saturn, Uranus, Neptune or Pluto) makes a stressful angle to it. The most stressful aspects are typically squares (when two planets make an approximately 90 degree angle to each other) and oppositions (when two planets make an approximately 180 degree angle to each other).
I’ve already written about Saturn in aspect to Venus. In general, an outer planet’s hard aspect to Venus overwhelms her expression — both by adding its own powerful influence and by possibly bringing out the worst of the zodiac sign in which Venus is placed.
Venus in Cancer attracts by caretaking and nurturing, and is generally conservative in nature, valuing the past and family traditions. Yet Uranus blows Venus out of the water! This outer planet disrupts the status quo and urges you towards independence. One part of you wants to settle down with your boyfriend and make him a quilt, while the other insists on the freedom to do what you want, even if your actions challenge traditional notions of partnership.
See? You’re a hard nut to crack. And I haven’t even mentioned Venus’ house placement!
Know Your Chart
It’s easy to get overwhelmed when you realize that you can’t understand your “powers of attraction” just by looking at your Venus sign. But you can’t simplify desire! Do yourself a favor and either learn your chart, consult a professional astrologer, or purchase an astrology report to understand yourself better.
Comment below: Share your Venus sign, Sun sign and hard aspects to Venus from other planets. How do you make sense of your powers of attraction?