Scorpio on the receiving end of a breakup

In the comments section of How Scorpios get over breakups, Dramatoso Scorpioso wrote,

A Scorpio get dumped?

I’ve known a few Scorps and this one thing holds true in all cases, male or female– they do the dirty work (the dumping). They are well ahead of the game and as master strategists will not place themselves in a position to get dumped.

If their spidey senses pick up on a waning interest, they pull out the knife and slash it then and there. Hurts like hell but you gotta do what you gotta do.

Masked woman holding a knifeI feel suspicious whenever I read “one thing holds true in all cases.” Sun sign behavior is not as reliable as, say, the orbital pattern of Mars.

Scorpio is not only about control, strategy and manipulation. This sign ultimately concerns the depths of intimacy one experiences with another person — the true sharing of one’s innermost self, as well as one’s body and belongings. To be this close, a Scorpio must relinquish power. As long as she holds the knife, she is on the defensive, fearful of getting hurt. Vulnerability can be terrifying to a Scorpio, for wounds to this intensely emotional water sign can feel as painful as death. Thus, the scorpion develops an arsenal of shields and weapons, as well as enhanced detective skills (the spidey sense).

But who says Scorpio needs to be locked and loaded? Can’t she have enough trust to let down her guard, to leave the sharp utensils in the kitchen? Although I would not go so far as to describe Scorpio as innocent, I can imagine a young scorpion falling deeply in love, willing to connect completely with another — no games, no ammo. If she gets burned by her first lover, then the stingers come out. She toughens up and resolves never to let it happen again.

But there is a beauty in her initial willingness to go to the depths in a relationship, and it is a shame that she may not recover that all-consuming passion — for how can she love truly, madly and deeply when she’s packing a pistol? She may be possessed by desire, but as long as her inner Mars is at the ready, she’s destined to remain separate.

Comment below: Are you Scorpio who’s been dumped? Share your stories.

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  1. I Just kicked out and force my scorp man to packed all his shit in the middle of the night with and his 5 years old daugther was with him. It was because the lacked of trust From my end. He lied to me one time that it is so hard to gain back the trust that I had for him. He was very attentive to me but at the same time he is intertaining all this ladies he met online. I feel bad for kicking them out in the middle of the night but I was so fed up already. Its been 3 days now no contact. I miss him and I love him with all my heart thats why it breaks my heart so bad when he lied to me multiple times. I have a lot of restoring to do for myself. In 2 weeks I will be done with my RN course and plan to hit the book for NCLEX review. Start working out and eating healthy. If we are meant to be we will be.

  2. Wrong! My Scorpio was amazing and would og multiple times. Maybe u just suck in bed?

  3. Lol bed is way beyond that my dear. I think i overdo it to the point he become powerless?

  4. Scorpio Moon says:

    Scorpio men get dumped. They’re not always one step ahead, believe me!

    I’ve dumped mine several times. We’re both addicted the physical connection which keeps us coming back for more, but the manipulation, the game playing, the drama, the head games, the tests… really gets old after a while.

  5. I’m a male Scorpio that was blindside dumped and I’ve never been through such a massive force of a ride of emotions. Absolutely the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I was so in love with her and saw us together forever. It’s been almost a year and I think of her everyday whether I want to or not

  6. I don’t know if Scorpio men are psychotic or if it is just me. They play the victim. I am a Sag sun, Aries Moon, Aries rising dating a Scorpio sun and he was so manipulative. So many tests. It felt like I was raising a child. I could tell he was sensitive and emotional by the way he would act after sex or whenever he would open up to me. But I got tired of waiting for him to fully open up and stop being Secretive Sally. So I dumped him. But I feel guilty because he is going through a lot and I don’t want him to think of me as another person who has abandoned him. I care, I just don’t know if he cares about me. It’s like I know, but how can I be sure? One day he loves me, the next I’m a doormat. I’m a Sag, we can’t take that. I’ll give you space, everything, because I love space, but the moodswings no. He’s completely iced me out, but it’s only been a day so I’m waiting.

  7. samestuff says:

    I am experiencing the same crap with my now x scorpio. I love him, but I love me more
    They are users who play victim. They have so much extra baggage and always looking for pity. They are addicted to online fantasy affairs.. I miss him, but im done. He could fall off the earth for all i care.

  8. ScorpAscAQminded says:

    Same situation with Cap Sun Scorpio Mars. Plays victim and loves testing. Thinks being emotionally distant is a great way to maintain a long-term relationship. When I decided to break it off, responded like it was me being dishonest and holding back. Similarly, I understand how deep the emotions are, and I know that he loves me… but it’s very hard to love him anymore if he is constantly trying to manipulate the relationship. Couldn’t agree more with the idea of space, and the questioning of where or not he actually cares about me, instead of being focused on his feelings the whole time. Done trying to ace his games, leaving.

  9. Randy Holler says:

    Trish, Run! A Sag Sun and Aries Moon, Aries Rising is so much better off without the weight of an unevolved Scorpio. You are more than likely magnetized because of the mystery he evokes within you, but you are the key to the relationships vibrancy. That’s how they feed on their prey and over time you will more than likely see that it is a waste of Fire energy to cater to that instinct. It’s a lower vibration for imo, and you can do better than that!

  10. Cancer Girl says:

    I was seeing my Scorpio man for about 3 months. We got along very well, we had a lot of chemistry between us and my friends would say they wished they could find what I had with him. In the time we were seeing each other, he said he wanted us to be exclusive to each other although he always referred to me as his friend, never girlfriend or partner. In the time we were together, he booked an overseas trip, he said he expected to be away for 2 – 3 months, it was a dream trip – the trip of a lifetime that he had planned all his life. He told me that when he returned he would focus on our relationship more seriously. I never really felt that I could trust him completely, I caught him out lying to me about things that he could have been honest about – this didn’t stop me from falling for him. The week before he left for his trip he took me to meet his family and increased the amount of time we spent together. At the time I thought it was because he wanted to see me as much as possible before he left, but now on hind sight I see that it was to hold on to me while he went on his trip. He never agreed that he planned to stay falthful to me while he was away, but he mentioned a couple of times that he expected me to wait for him. I don’t like double standards, so to saved myself the heartache; while he was on the way to the airport texted him and I claimed myself a hall pass to even up the playing field. He did not like this at all. Normally super confident, he said things that showed how insecure he really was, like “by the time I come back I’ll be at the bottom of your list”. I reassured him that this wouldn’t be the case. For the first week I missed him painfully, I literally felt like I wanted to die. We communicated daily by text and minimally by voice calls. When it came to the weekend, he started stalking my Facebook page and scrutinizing my posts, he became paranoid about what I was doing which caused arguments between us. I had never seen this side to him before, he got extremely nasty, told me I was ruining his vacation because he was focused on stuff back at home. Truth is that while he was in control, everything was fine. When I took the control away from him, he couldn’t deal. He thought he would do his thing overseas with whoever he wanted to do it with, and stupid me would wait patiently for him to come back to me. I dumped him, I told him I never wanted to hear from him again. He tried to come back to me with a response, but I never opened the message and I deleted WhatsApp so that I would not accidentally open his message. I froze him out completely and I blocked him on Facebook. I have no idea if he has tried to contact me since, but I don’t care. He thought he had me hooked and he did, but he underestimated me, and while he thought he was playing the game, I wiped the board clean.

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