ok im a scorpio female and my boyfriend is a cancer.
i feel that we are soul mates, i just love him so much. well the problem is he just tends to always get hurt by the things i say…even when im just joking wit him, he’ll leave the room and give me the slient treatment for a minute until i go after him and make him talk to me, but then when he finally do talk, he starts cryin and letting out all this emotion.
and im like :” where is all this coming from? ” i mean this is a all the time type thing…. sometimes i have to kiss him and show alot of affection to get him to open up. anyway my question is
is there any way that i can get him to toughen up ? ? ? all that sensitive gots to go. i thought cancers were like there sign, hard on the outside, soft on the inside.
Your Cancer is a double Cancer, with both his Sun and Moon in this sensitive sign. “Hard on the outside” has different manifestations: for him, it’s leaving the room and giving you the silent treatment, i.e., retreating into his shell. It is only when you seek him out that the softness comes out.
You cannot get him to toughen up. He is who he is. Better to focus on what you say that makes him feel hurt. You are extremely Scorpionic: Scorpio Rising, a Mercury-Saturn conjunction in Scorpio, and a Sun-Pluto conjunction in Scorpio. You may have a tendency to shoot verbal barbs laced with criticism and judgment. In addition, your Sun-Pluto conjunction in the 12th House suggests that you are not conscious of how you wield this intense power you have to expose people’s weaknesses. What kind of defense can a crab shell provide against a Sun-Pluto conjunction in Scorpio? It’s like you are in a possession of a nuclear bomb, and you don’t know how to use it.
Your boyfriend also doesn’t have it easy. His Sun-Moon conjunction in Cancer is opposed by Mars — he is prone to experiencing anger coming from outside of himself, and directed at him. It is possible that he has projected his Mars onto you (remember that Mars is the traditional ruler of Scorpio), ‘making’ you more likely to take on the role of the aggressor.
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