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How to satisfy a male Scorpio in bed

October 9, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner 510 Comments

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Sex advice columnist Dan Savage has coined the abbreviation GGG: “good in bed, giving equal time and equal pleasure, and game for anything — within reason.” The Scorpio man is drawn to taboos and the underworld of sexuality, so a few kinks are to be expected. Bondage, domination, sadomasochism … power and pain are old friends to the Scorpion. This is not to say that all Scorpios like to dole out punishment: The sign is truly about the depths of intimacy, which means exploring every nook and cranny of your English muffin. No! I mean that he will want to connect intensely with you — staring into each other’s eyes (even during orgasm), or achieving tantric bliss through controlled sexual techniques.

If you want to satisfy him, you have to overcome your fear — fear of closeness, fear of exploring the boundaries of pain and pleasure. By all means don’t do anything that feels violating (unless, of course, you’re into that sort of thing.) But be willing to turn lovemaking into an attempt to excavate your hidden turn-ons and wounds, eroticizing power dynamics and family traumas to gain a sense of mastery over them.

And if all else fails, stick your finger up his patootie.

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Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

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  1. Julia says

    December 20, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    Sharon, I’ve been there done that so trust me when I say this man will not marry you.He is already making you suffer and doesn’t understand your emotional needs.Let go of him for the sake of your own sanity and happiness.All this emotional roller coaster is not worth it.Let him procrastinate, you at least think of a back up plan girl.Please find a single guy who gives you the kind of attention,love and care you deserve.He will keep you around until he suddenly realizes one day that oh well he actually does get along with his wife,he just didn’t notice how caring and giving she is blah blah..trust me girl..run faster!

  2. love122 says

    February 23, 2015 at 11:05 am

    OK my Scorpio is so wishy washy it’s been a month since we had sex yesterday it WAS so passionate it lasted for at least two hours but when we fist had sex it was fast ,then it became I’m not having sex now it long lasting, passionate and kisses durning and he gives a a sweater or hat when I leave his house I’m trying to figure out does he like me tho I’m a Pisces BTW and he suffered a really bad relationship that lasted 10 years I’m the first girl that he has been seeing consistaly with sex involved besides he ex and he sleeps close to me now at first he would separate his shelf after we have sex now my hand is on his and his legs are leaning on me ,is that signs of progress ?towards a relationship I Also give him time because of his 10 relationship and she was also a Pisces he also says from time to time he is not dateing anymore network girls knowing I just moved down here from Atlanta a few months ago !

  3. love122 says

    February 23, 2015 at 11:18 am

    OK my Scorpio is so wishy washy it’s been a month since we had sex yesterday it WAS so passionate! it lasted for at least two hours but when we fist had sex it was fast ,then it became I’m not having sex now its long lasting, passionate and kisses durning and he gives me a sweater or hat when I leave his house I’m trying to figure out does he like me tho I’m a Pisces BTW and he suffered a really bad relationship that lasted 10 years I’m the first girl that he has been seeing consistaly with sex involved besides his ex and he sleeps close to me now at first he would separate his shelf after we have sex now my hand is on his and his legs are leaning on me ,is that signs of progress ?towards a relationship I Also give him time because of his 10 relationship and I don’t want to rush or scare him off I Also take little breaks to give him space ,we argue witch I assume if I wasn’t worth the time he wouldnt!right ?and when I give breaks he always replies like nothing ! Has happen with a I’m happy to hear from you kinda additude never a delay or no reply ,what you all think ,let time take it’s course?

  4. 122like says

    February 23, 2015 at 11:20 am

    OK my Scorpio is so wishy washy it’s been a month since we had sex yesterday it WAS so passionate! it lasted for at least two hours but when we fist had sex it was fast ,then it became I’m not having sex now its long lasting, passionate and kisses durning and he gives me a sweater or hat when I leave his house I’m trying to figure out does he like me tho I’m a Pisces BTW and he suffered a really bad relationship that lasted 10 years I’m the first girl that he has been seeing consistaly with sex involved besides his ex and he sleeps close to me now at first he would separate his shelf after we have sex now my hand is on his and his legs are leaning on me ,is that signs of progress ?towards a relationship I Also give him time because of his 10 relationship and I don’t want to rush or scare him off I Also take little breaks to give him space ,we argue witch I assume if I wasn’t worth the time he wouldnt!right ?and when I give breaks he always replies like nothing ! Has happen with a I’m happy to hear from you kinda additude never a delay or no reply ,what you all think ,let time take it’s course?

  5. Saskia says

    April 24, 2015 at 11:39 am

    Reading all of this makes me miss my Scorpio so much! Wish we could be physically together right now, and I can just stay in his arms – holding each other…

    I’m a Libra w/ a Scorpio stellium. His Sun conjuncts my Moon (as well as Mars, and 3 other planets w/ a wider orb) and his Venus conjuncts my Sun and Venus, among other aspects.

    This guy just makes me melt. Just thinking about him turns me into a pool of water – words can’t explain. He brightens my heart and lights me up 🙂

    My kink is less around him; he brings this affectionate, playful side out of me…. for example, I feel more inhibited in expressing my ‘wild side’ (think super kinky, BDSM, porn star, pure sex) mainly to not give the impression he’s all sex to me (not to worry, he’s not). Plus, in the past, there’s no feeling or I tire of a guy when this becomes the norm.

    I’d like to try but it doesn’t feel right. Think this side of me also makes him curious, because we sext and/or plain talk dirty, and it’s probably better to leave his fantasies to task d:

    Yeah, what we do is love making haha. It feels so warm, safe, secure and tantric – it’s beautiful! He dominates but he’s gentle and oh so attentive; he’s not very affectionate, so it makes it super nice when he is. In any event, I pour enough affection and touch out for both of us lol

    He seriously needs to quit being so bloody handsome and magnetic; it’s hard to focus!!

    A question for Scorpios out there: what is your take on karezza or tantric sex? It’s my preferred form of sexual expression, for lack of better term.

    I’d like to give it a serious go with this guy some time down the line. I suggested it to him, he’s read and still is reading about it (although he hates reading…bless him). We’re both busy academically so maybe in the summer we’ll have time to set aside for it..? I’onno. Will keep you guys posted 🙂

    I’ve probably come off all goo and mush hahaha.

    As an aside, my father’s a Scorpio too. Actually there are strong Scorpio/Plutonic elements in my family. What intriguing creatures!

  6. Ebony says

    June 2, 2015 at 5:31 pm

    I am madly in love with a true Scorpio. He is all of the things I’ve read about them. I’m a Capricorn & I love as deep as he does I even gave up control & that’s very hard for us Caps to do but it’s easy with him I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He makes me open up & he let’s me be my self he understands me he has problems but so do I so I will wait for him to be completely mines. We have a big problem he is with me and another b#$%& I am the better woman for him I love him with my mind body heart & soul I love him with every breathe in my body I have been dealing with this almost 2 years & he has left me many times but he always comes back to me reminding me how much I love him & I will never love another my heart won’t allow it I belong to him always

  7. Angelface Leo says

    June 18, 2015 at 1:47 am

    I have been friends (no benefits-yet) with a Scorpio man for many years. I am like you Ebony, he is seeing another B#$%& and I know for sure that I am the better woman. I am noticing that she is on the way out as he is really frustrated with her inability/ unwillingness to improve her lifestyle. She won’t go to school, she won’t pursue a higher paying job, just waits for him to pay for everything. But I am pretty confident that I am THE woman he will marry. Anyway, our conversations have recently been about sex. He knows that I am celibate (6 years) and he has been “digging” to see if A) Im lying about being celibate and B) if I am ready for a relationship. The “energy” between us is already so strong, I am just worried about not being able to please him WHEN we eventually have sex…..What should I do to prepare?

  8. Sonia says

    June 23, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    Ladies don’t put your heart into it. Be yourself love yourself. Let a man any man that comes in your life know you are the Goddess and you deserve to be someone’s play toy. Scorpio’s men and woman are very faithful when they love someone they don’t have two woman or men. Only when they have you for there thrill. I know I am a Scorpio woman and if you stay around he will dump you when the woman that fills all his desires. I love and respect myself and I will not be put in the middle of a relationship with a man that has another woman. I am the goddess and you ladies need to start putting your self at that level. Other woman will respect for that especially Scorpio woman. And men will fall at your feet.

  9. Sonia says

    June 23, 2016 at 6:24 pm

    My apologies ladies a little upset how woman fall after men. Their is no point men don’t like that let men stay at home and cry not us. I wanted to correct myself I wrote to quickly without out checking what I wrote to passionate in this subject of love. Let a man any man that comes in your life to know you are a goddess and not there play toy. And woman will respect you especially a Scorpio woman if you carry your self high. Let men wait at home calling, wondering what are doing. Enjoy your summer, live life. Stop waiting for a man. Change the perception of what men think about us. Don’t be what a man want to make out of you. Smile at every woman to know you have received this message and that all woman have strengthened themselves and you love your selves. And where that freaken dress and high heels and rock it with confidence.
    Love thy self
    By Sonia Esk

  10. Lyric says

    December 29, 2016 at 12:18 am

    I’m a gemini married to a scorpio. He is the most loyal, driven man I have ever met. He was extremely guarded and a bit of a mystery when we first met. Very broody and dark, but we have been married for 3 years now and been through so much together. He feels things so very deeply and got to a point with me where he felt it was ok to let me in and open up to me. I think he knew that I wasn’t judging him, but honestly just listening to amd trying to understand him. Now, he is more prone to talk about things. He tells me things I’m certain he wouldn’t share with anyone else because he trusts me. He should. Five years together, three of them married, and two beautiful baby girls later and we’re still going strong. We rarily fight but when we do it’s usually a huge blow up, we talk about our frustrations, decide how to fix it, and move on. We don’t dwell on fights. We confront them head on and clash pretty hard initially, but when it’s over, we both have come to an understanding. (Gemini and Scorpio isn’t the most common harmonious match I’m told. Haha!) It works for us though. I think we were both attracted to our opposite natures. It is true. Scorpios will not hesitate to go after what they want. I met my husband at a party and he walked right up to me, starged a conversation, and asked me if I wanted to come back to his place. I declined since I don’t make it a habit of going home with complete strangers. He did call me and take me to lunch the next day and from there we started a pretty exciting, sometimes turbulent courtship. Sex is amazing because well, he’s a scorpio so there’s that. It was not uncommon for him to take me in a secluded room at friends parties, pull my dress up, push my underwear aside and sex me to oblivion. Scorpio men are great when they are yours and committed. Not so much when they are giggilo-ing about.

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