If your Virgo drags you to a book-signing and you flirt with the author, what reaction will you elicit in your boyfriend?
Fellow Earth sign Taurus is possessive because he thinks he owns you. Scorpio acts this way because he doesn’t trust you. But Virgo? He’s more likely to feel self-critical. “What’s wrong with me? Maybe I’m not nerd-chic enough for her, so she makes eyes at the published author. And how come I haven’t gotten it together to write a book yet? Maybe I need to work on myself more.”
In general, mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces) are so flexible that they neither cling to objects nor people. Gemini needs the variety, Sag loves their freedom, and Pisces loves the whole world! But Virgo’s a strange combination: an Earth sign that craves order, but ruled by Mercury. This mental planet lends Virgo an analytic perspective focused on pragmatic (Earth) matters. [notpremise]
If seeing a girlfriend flirt is like seeing someone move his stapler from its ordained position on his desk, anxiety — not possessiveness — arises. Not all is right in the world, so he wonders how he can improve the relationship so that she doesn’t get chat-happy with another man.
And if he starts picking you apart, it’s just him projecting his self-criticism onto you. Sure, he’s angry … but he won’t admit it. When he says, “Gosh, you made a fool of yourself talking to someone way out of your league, especially when you confused Derrida with Foucault …” he’ll justify his lashing with the excuse that he’s just trying to help you better yourself. See, there’s a difference between not wanting to share … and hating yourself.[/show_to]