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Venus in Love, Mars in Heat

August 1, 2007 by Sasstrology 72 Comments

Do you ever wonder why the person you’re attracted to isn’t reciprocating your feelings? Or why the person who you couldn’t care less about keeps following you around like a lost puppy? We can look to the placements of our Venus and Mars for answers to these (and other) questions. Which sign Venus is in tells us our ideal of love, how we attract (and express) love, and how we want to receive love. The sign in which Mars falls tells us how we exert our energy to attain what attracts us.

Here’s a rundown of how feminine Venus and masculine Mars work together as a team to help us get (Mars) what we want (Venus) in matters of love and sex (keep in mind that most people have Venus and Mars in different signs, so mix-and-match “teammates” is highly likely).

Disclaimer: There are others astrological indicators of love and sex styles, but this entry is only discussing Venus and Mars.

Note: In a woman’s chart, her Venus sign represents her love style, while her Mars sign represents the type of man that makes her feel … lusty. In a man’s chart, his Venus sign represents the woman in his fantasies, while his Mars sign represents how he tries to persuade a woman to choose him (for sex, love, whatever).[notpremise]

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Team Aries

Venus in Aries: believes love should happen at first sight; likes independent, go-getters; enjoys chasing and being chased; attracts love by inspiring/encouraging suitors to pursue and “win” her; flirts by teasing and picking fights; expects to be #1 in the relationship (and in her partner’s life) or will lose interest quickly; arguing and friendly competition is an aphrodisiac

Mars in Aries: boldly pursues object of affection using a direct approach; actively demonstrates his prowess in anything, acts adventurous, and is more than willing to compete for affection; arguing and/or physical fighting is instant foreplay; initiates a lot of right-now, anywhere-goes quickie sex

Team Taurus

Venus in Taurus: believes love should come after a lot of long-term consideration; likes (and is impressed by) wealthy people; attracts love by being emotionally stable and having consistent habits; flirts by providing physical comfort; wants to feel secure in relationships and “know where this is going”; rich, comfort foods, receiving massages, listening to music, and fragrances that smell like something edible (mmm vanilla!) are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Taurus: slowly pursues the object of affection using a persistent approach; acts like the typical strong, silent type; talks about his goals/plans or shows off his nice possessions when he’s attracted to someone, and may even present his credit report as proof of his financial stability and ability while asking for a date or during a marriage proposal (yes, I’m exaggerating here); gives massages, long embraces, and slow kisses as foreplay; initiates steady, lasts-all-night sex

Team Gemini

Venus in Gemini: believes love should mean never having to say, “I’m bored”; likes quotable, multifaceted people who have lots of diverse interests; attracts love by being infinitely entertaining; flirts by sharing thoughts & feelings and assigning pet names; wants 24/7 communication accessibility in relationships; variety, unpredictability, and verbal/written expressions of love are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Gemini: sporadically pursues object of affection using a now-you-see-me-now-you-don’t approach; attracts attention by making clever observations and extending invitations to fun and/or interesting events; provides playful, sarcastic teasing, writing/reading erotic letters, and sexually suggestive phone conversations as foreplay; initiates quick, multiple-session sex

Team Cancer

Venus in Cancer: believes love should be nurturing; likes people who need mothering (or who are mothering) and are appreciative of her efforts; attracts love by making people feel cozy and sheltered; expresses love by feeding and/or cooking for someone, remembering preferences, giving thoughtful tokens of affection; wants interdependence in relationships; emotional bonding and cuddling are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Cancer: haltingly pursues object of affection using a zig-zag, sideways, 2-steps-forward-1-step-backward approach; acts shy and quiet, but will adamantly defend a loved one against outsiders to show interest; providing a shoulder to lean (or cry) on, hugs, and cooking for someone/taking someone out to dinner are foreplay; initiates cuddling-that-hopefully-leads-to-sex sex

Team Leo

Venus in Leo: believes love should ALWAYS consist of romance, drama, fun, and loyalty; likes people who stand out in socially acceptable ways (e.g., extremely attractive, owns/wears impressive things, speaks dramatically, has unique creative talents, etc.); attracts love by playing up strengths and downplaying weaknesses, and inspiring chivalry; flirts by complimenting; wants consistent (inconsistent doesn’t count!), emotionally-moving displays of appreciation and gratitude in relationships; receiving awe-inspiring gifts and positive, focused attention from an audience (e.g., mirrors, cameras, other people in the room) are aphrodisiacs (Btw, it’s no coincidence that this Venus description is the longest of them all. *wink*)

Mars in Leo: enthusiastically pursues object of affection using a confident, showy approach; acts like he’s the best at whatever, whenever, wherever ALL THE TIME, his gallantly dramatic displays of affection, his flattery, his style of presentation, his…well, just being with HIM in all of his glory is the foreplay, this Mars placement is the rock & roll icon and his lover better act like his groupie or else; initiates look-at-me, I’m-on-stage sex

Team Virgo

Venus in Virgo: believes love should involve making a commitment to take care of someone else; likes hard-workers who pay attention to details (conversely, is also attracted to flawed, disorganized partners that need fixing); attracts love by handling all of the “dirty work” in a partner’s life; flirts by making analytical observations, self-deprecating humor, or offering self-improvement advice; wants to feel needed and useful in relationships; good hygiene, a neat appearance, and an orderly environment are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Virgo: methodically pursues object of affection using a logical, organized approach; demonstrates ability to efficiently execute plans and complete tasks correctly to impress; spends a lot of time translating ideas into reality by making sure every seduction detail is just right; initiates technically proficient, nervous-tension-relieving sex

Team Libra

Venus in Libra: believes love should = 50/50 partnership + 24/7 romance; likes attractive, intelligent, and sociable people; attracts love by being charming company, understanding and attentive; expresses love through consideration and negotiating compromises, and thinking in “us” and “we” terms; f
lirts indiscriminately for attention and popularity; wants equality, romance, and lots of attention in relationships; beauty, making plans as a couple, and the usual romantic clichés (such as rose petals on the bed and long, moonlit walks on the beach) are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Libra: indirectly pursues object of affection using a classy approach; attracts love by being gracious, intellectually stimulating, and presenting ideas as win-win situations; foreplay is poetry, dinner, dancing, conversation, kissing, tickling, and soft love-bites; initiates romantic, sugar-and-spice “lovemaking” (Someone with Venus in Libra probably coined this term.)

Team Scorpio

Venus in Scorpio: believes love should be passionate, intense, and life-altering; likes to associate with powerful people whose sexuality comes in contradictory layers (e.g., dresses provocatively but is a virgin, looks understated but moves like a stripper in private); expresses love by keeping a mate’s secrets, developing an emotional bond, and not wanting to share the partner’s affection; flirts through seduction; wants to have control and trust in a relationship; a strong sex drive, instant chemistry, intensity, and loyalty are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Scorpio: obsessively pursues object of desire using a strategic approach; attracts love by getting people to let down their guards, providing emotional therapy, and delivering on unspoken promises of provocative sex; foreplay is continuous, penetrating eye contact, caressing, and anything oral; initiates all-consuming, us-against-the-world sex

Team Sagittarius

Venus in Sagittarius: believes love should bring happiness, great times, and good luck; likes outgoing, intelligent, independent, adventurous people; attracts love by being friendly, fun-loving, generous, and free-spirited; flirts through friendly conversation and making someone laugh; wants freedom, honesty, few expectations, and undefined commitment in a relationship; visiting exotic places, meeting foreign people, exploring foreign cultures, and different accents are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Sagittarius: optimistically pursues object of affection using a direct approach; acts like a daredevil, plays practical jokes, or extends and wins challenges to an athletic competition to impress someone; laughter and getting naked is foreplay; initiates spontaneous, outdoorsy, on-vacation sex

Team Capricorn

Venus in Capricorn: believes love should make people keep their word; likes responsible, successful people who can help with achieving aspirations; attracts love by being dependable and loyal; shows affection by honoring commitments and not leaving the relationship; flirts by getting straight to the point, assessing a potential mate’s value, and showing off their dry wit as they feel more comfortable; wants a solid commitment from the right person in relationships; knowing what’s coming next is an aphrodisiac

Mars in Capricorn: gradually pursues object of affection using a goal-oriented approach; acts very self-assured, proper, and guarded when trying to impress someone; a seduction game plan, dominant/submissive role-playing, and spanking is foreplay; initiates straight-to-the-nitty-gritty sex

Team Aquarius

Venus in Aquarius: believes love should be dessert with friendship as the main entrée; likes free-spirited, eccentric people who aren’t afraid to go against the status quo; attracts love by being friendly to everyone; flirts by sharing unusual ideas and opinions; wants a best friend, intellectually stimulating company and emotional detachment in relationships; discussing new, inventive ways to have sex is an aphrodisiac

Mars in Aquarius: determinedly pursues object of affection using an original approach; differentiates himself by talking about his principles, beliefs, pet causes, and idiosyncratic preferences when attempting to impress; trying something different is foreplay; initiates taboo, off-the-wall sex

Team Pisces
Venus in Pisces: believes love should be a perfect blend of an intuitive, spiritual bond and romance; likes nonjudgmental, creative people who think and communicate in imaginative ways; attracts love by being infinitely compassionate and seeing the best in people; flirts by developing and acknowledging a special connection; wants empathy, kindness, and sensitivity in relationships; dreamy kisses that cause tingles, foot massages, bubble baths, and mind-altering substances or practices are aphrodisiacs

Mars in Pisces: secretly pursues object of affection using a passive approach; impresses by knowing the right thing to do or say to make someone feel better, sharing psychic insights, and displaying creative talents; dancing, playing music, discussing dreams/innermost feelings, and generally pleasing the other person is foreplay; initiates pleasant vibes, which lead to transcendental, out-of-body-experiences sex.

Since most people don’t have Venus and Mars in the same sign, I’ll give an example of a mix-and-match Venus and Mars “team.” A man with Venus in Libra and Mars in Virgo would most likely be attracted to a beautiful woman with social graces. So far, his Venus & Mars would work well together in that regard, because both Libra and Virgo value keeping up good appearances and following proper etiquette. However, he might experience indecision over whether to woo her by planning their first date down to the tiniest detail (Virgo Mars) or let her make the plans because he really wants her to have a good time on their date (Libra Venus).

Now that we know how Venus and Mars work together, how can we tell the difference between falling in love and falling in lust? How does your Venus and Mars work as a team to help you get what you want in relationships?[/show_to]

About the Author

Jara Dan-Fodio has been gazing at the sky and observing people all of her life. After reading her first astrology book that went beyond the 12 zodiac signs 15 years ago, the patterns she noticed began to make sense. Although she dabbles in vocational, predictive and electional astrology upon request, her favorites are depth astrology and synastry. She’s an eternal student of life and astrology is just one of her many teachers. You can find more of this 8th houser’s astro-notes at Random Astrology or Twitter.

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  1. Kate says

    September 9, 2008 at 12:01 pm

    that’s what I wanna know too !

    A guy with sun in taurus, venus in aries, mars in taurus… I’d REALLY like to know what’s up with that ! (and so does Lisa apparently)

    If he likes you, does that mean you should take the first step or wait for him to do it ?

    When do you know if he likes you as “something more” than just a friend ?

    Plus, isn’t it awkward for him to be attracted to a girl (mars) that’s completely different than the one he wants to have as his girlfriend (venus) ?

  2. colbycakes says

    September 17, 2008 at 2:57 pm

    Hello Aquarius Sun, Moon, merqury; with Mars and Venus in Aries/ AS Leo. I Wanted some advice, if possibel, on the man I am dating. He is a Cancer sun/Venus with Mars in Gemini. Should I even invest anymore time. O and his moon is in Pisces/ merqury in Leo with AS is Leo.

  3. zero says

    September 22, 2008 at 12:16 am

    hello..thanks for the article!
    i am gemini with venus and mars both in cancer..and i like an aquarius guy with venus mars in capricorn. good lord!
    no progress at all 🙁

  4. Anonymous says

    October 21, 2008 at 1:46 am

    WELL MY MARS IS IN SCORPIO! and umm im just realizing how POWERFUL this placement really is. plus my venus is in aquarius i am always at odds and ends with my love life. but i wouldnt have it any other way. i am not overly jealous because of my venus thank god. even considering im a water sign(sun and moon) but i do have a thing for taboo things…and being intellectually stimulated…
    but it is sooooo HARD TO DEAL WITH!
    but the best placement because ppl do actually fall at my feet at times…

  5. Delia Franz says

    January 3, 2009 at 4:10 pm

    any advice for Venus-Pisces Mars-Cancer girl involved with a Venus-Aries Mars-Sagittarius man. fire plus water= steamy….?

  6. Christine says

    January 14, 2009 at 1:06 pm

    To the author of this article,

    I have never read a satisfying description of Mars in Pisces.
    Well done. 🙂

  7. Crystal Hayward says

    February 7, 2009 at 7:05 pm

    Good article!!!
    LOVE them mars in Scorpio MEN – forget the SUN – sensual, most intimate sex, took us out of this planet throughthe whole experience. Both long term relationships:)
    (Firey mars NEXT Leo, ARIES, Saggi they are too aggressive but great in bed:))

  8. Capri_Girl says

    February 7, 2009 at 8:59 pm

    WOW…Thanks Jara.

    Right on point, Venus in Aquarius- believes love should be dessert with friendship as the main entrée; likes free-spirited, eccentric people who aren’t afraid to go against the status quo; attracts love by being friendly to everyone; flirts by sharing unusual ideas and opinions; wants a best friend, intellectually stimulating company and emotional detachment in relationships; discussing new, inventive ways to have sex is an aphrodisiac” and add the 5th House/House of Pleasure to that, ooooh baby. While Mars is in Scorpio, I love me a passionate, Intense, powerful man, I could go on and on.

    I think I am finally understanding why I am so hypnotize by this guy.
    We have the exact birthdate, born 5 mins apart. We have all the planets in the same signs & houses.

    P.S.*** What do you think of this Venus in Aquarius & Mars in Scorpio twin combination?*** I think they are perfectly match, am a wrong?

  9. aqua girl says

    June 21, 2009 at 2:08 am

    so, how does sun-mars and sun-venus compatability affect sexual/romantic compatibility? if a man’s mars isn’t THE most compatable sign for your venus (say, sag mars to cap venus) but your sun (and moon, come to think of it) sign is fine with his mars, does that help out the situation a lot?

    also, what if your mars sign opposes his venus sign? good? bad?

  10. Sun&Jupiter says

    July 7, 2009 at 11:35 am

    just an opinion question for everyone:

    what do you think is more powerful in determining compatability: sun, moon, venus or mars? or something else entirely…?

    i know that the combo of all these is important, but i have met people for whom one planet is the most powerful in their “love lives” and it’s not necessarily the one you’d expect…

    thanks for your thoughts…
    🙂

  11. Andy says

    July 7, 2009 at 2:31 pm

    I’m an Aries-Sun with Mars in Pisces and Venus in Aries, my potential is a Gemini-Sun with Mars in Taurus and Venus in Cancer. Even though my chart doesn’t say so, I’m into the staying power and these somewhat submissive points on my potential’s chart. But she’s giving mixed signals. She flirts, then I do, but then she says she doesn’t know what I’m talking about. Is this a game? Or is she flirting without knowing it? Or maybe she’s sensitive when I flirt back? And how compatible are our aspects together?

  12. Jeffrey Kishner says

    July 7, 2009 at 3:10 pm

    Sun&Jupiter i really don’t think you can make a generalization. It has alot to do with which of your planets are strongly aspected by your partner’s, as well as what your planets signify. If Mercury rules your 7th house, it will have a pretty strong significance even thought it’s not a “love” planet.

  13. thecountess says

    July 15, 2009 at 5:41 am

    I think someone asked this already but i’d like a little more clarification if anyone would like to jump in. if your venus signs aren’t completely compatible (your ideals about love) but one person’s SUN would be attractive to the other person’s venus, does that help in any sort of way? and also if your love ideals aren’t the easiest matchup, like say venus sag that wants “undefined commitment” with a venus in cap that wants “solid commitment”, how can you leverage these two aspects to work for mutual benefit? and p.s. we both have mars in aqua so we’re all set in THAT dept. – especially being one scorp sun and one aqua sun. insane crazy sex that may just save the world one day! 😉

  14. shai says

    July 19, 2009 at 6:57 pm

    OMG,this is so true. I’m a Virgo sun,pisces moon, with scorpio in venus and mars in cancer. Its so true, I do flirt through seduction and love to cuddle, LOL.

  15. Kelly says

    September 4, 2009 at 5:03 pm

    Had to laugh out loud when I did a search for the two guys in my past who were very passionate, loving, caring, and incredible in bed. Both are Venus=Capricorn and Mars=Sagittarius! I am a Pisces female with Venus=Aquarius and Mars=Aries. How did this happen???

  16. Chip says

    January 10, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    for LL (Aqua/Venus in Pisces)…

    you mentioned “dead end jobs”, and that you have a child… I’d like to echo, be alert… Aquarians can take a comment at face value… for example, if money is an issue, they’ll go out, and make it… if you intimate that you want to avoid introducing confusion to your child, they’ll alleviate, and bring harmony to that child… once these aims are achieved, they’ll deduce that there should not be any barriers to commitment on your part… and you may see their impatience grow… so, if your hesitation runs deeper, they won’t sense it… let’s say an aversion to marital involment, or cohabitating… or if the courtship is fresh …and you would like to see how the dynmaic changes when it ripens, or starts to grow stale …you may have to consider telling him this …he’ll offer to help you make up your mind …to which, you can reply that you need to exorcise your own demons, but as it stands, his current comportment is helping you to mitigate any fears you may have …and reaffirm that you will not hold him off indefinitely

    …met an Aqua Thurs. night; she asked if I wanted to be her bf; not certain if she was trying to gauge my response, or if she was serious; she invited me to buy her dinner; round 2… we’ll see how it goes; I should get my head examined, but as I say, “no two sun signs are the same”

  17. cherryblossom says

    June 7, 2010 at 5:19 am

    this article has helped me a lot in discovering why ppl im uninterested in or platonic friends hang around like puppies while those i am interested in just won’t come near. venus in aquarius/mars in taurus. so whenever I play the coquette/befriend guys, they’d be attracted to me romantically. and I realize I often try to prove how successful i am or would be in life to guys i am interested in (unconsciously and have no idea why i speak like a fund manager) and totally turns them off. should flip the feminine/masculine side now. love this article.

  18. isabel says

    August 24, 2010 at 1:23 pm

    I am a Cancer with Aries asc. My Venus is in Taurus and Mars in Sagittarius. I don’t know why, but I am insanely attracted to this guy I know, he is a Virgo with Libra asc, with Venus in Libra and Mars in Virgo. When we are around each other, there is this feeling of nervousness and attraction, we speak a bit but there are moments where he just looks into my eyes and doesn’t say anything, its a bit awkward. Does this combination work?

  19. danny says

    October 29, 2010 at 4:27 am

    I have capricorn venus and mars pisces my girl has sag venus and mars pisces (me 1/5/70 -3am-philadelphia,pa) (her 1/14/68-1pm-jena,la)

  20. Val says

    December 14, 2010 at 5:39 pm

    I am Venus in taurus mars in Virgo

    Xoxox

  21. D.S says

    December 1, 2013 at 2:52 am

    I just broke up with my bf,he is sun in gemini 10th house,venus in aries 8th house,mars in pisces 12th house,and me,i am libra rising libra 1st house,venus in scorpio 2nd house and mars in libra 1st house.I ean born on 10.20.1987 and him 05.26.1990,I just want to know if we ever have a chance to be together again.We have heated fights!

  22. Shels says

    October 3, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    I’m a Sun Cancer, Moon Taurus, Venus Leo and Libra Mars. What male zodiac placements are most compatible with my placements?

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