How to attract a man with Venus in Cancer

In a man’s chart, Venus represents the type of (young) woman to whom he is attracted. The mythological Venus is Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty. The planetary Venus does not travel beyond two zodiac signs from one’s Sun, meaning that a man with Venus in Cancer can only be a Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo or Virgo.

In general, this man will be drawn to a maternal type, a woman who will nurture him with her cooking or with her sensitive attendance to his emotional needs. The Cancer figure tends to be on the shapely side — think of the stereotypical mother’s warm bosom.

A Cancer man will obviously be the most straightforward to please in this manner, as his Venus seeks similar expression to his Sun. However, when a man’s Sun sign is different than his Venus sign, attraction gets more complicated.

A Leo man likes glitz and glamour, and his attraction to a shy, empathic cuddle bunny may be at odds with his desire to be seen in public with a trophy wife who serves as an accessory to boost his image. To attract this type of man, one would need to encase the caretaker in a slinky dress — to be the wild Moon to his Sun.

A Virgo man may be more comfortable with his Venus in Cancer, as both signs are on the introverted side. However, his critical tendencies and analytical mindframe are not at home in the world of emotions. He may project his Venus onto a woman (meaning that he disowns his Venus and makes a woman “take the Cancer on” for him) and then end up hurting her feelings by picking her apart. To attract this type of man, one would need to have enough self-confidence to not take his feedback personally, yet be receptive to his home cooking reviews … if they have any merit.

A Gemini man may have a hard time incorporating his Venus in Cancer because his propensity towards variety and exploration threatens the part of him that craves emotional security. He consciously wants to play the field, yet he’s drawn to a woman who wants him to stay at home with her to watch the Lifetime channel. To attract this type of man, one needs to be able to be caring without being smothering, and to provide a home base without insisting that he’s home all the time.

A Taurus man may have the easiest time with his Venus in Cancer (other than the Cancer man). Both Taurus and Cancer crave security and safety. Taurus grooves on being fed and nurtured. He may not be as emotional as the woman to whom he is attracted, but if she can translate her love into sensual acts and the creation of home-made knick knacks, she’s sure to have his heart.

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at


  1. Jara aka Blah Blah says:

    Great post! I used to think a Sun Gemini with Venus in Cancer is the man for me, but now I’m not so sure after reading your description (and having known a Sun Gemini/Venus Cancer all my life). You’re right, they aren’t comfortable with the dichotomy of needing constant variety, yet also wanting the security in stability, consistency, and domesticity. I figured someone who shares my “bipolar-ish” tendencies would understand me better and, therefore, we’d be more compatible. There’s no guarantee of that, though. Now I’ve got my eye on Taurus with Venus in Cancer. πŸ˜‰

    With the Sun Gemini/Venus Cancer I know, we alternate between relating very well and irritating each other. For example, I understand the Gemini’s preference to stay at home, but I miss us going out together. And I’m hoping that getting new life experiences will give the Gemini new stories to tell (her Geminian penchant for storytelling and random trivia + Cancer’s habit of rehashing the past = me tearing my hair out). The only way she will definitely leave the house is if I tell her we’re trying out a new restaurant. Somehow, this is the magical combination because “new” feeds her Gemini side and “restaurant” feeds her Cancer side. And don’t let the new restaurant be buffet style. She’ll beat me there! πŸ™‚

  2. The last three guys who have tried to pursue a relationship with me (I picked ONE, haha) all had venus in Cancer.

    One was a Leo and I guess he liked how I looked and carried myself.

    I am a taurus, and I like using feminine, natural things…. so they might be attracted to that…haha?

    I have a Virgo friend with Venus in Cancer. Before I checked his birth chart, I knew he was a romantic. Beatles love song? Cooking? Oh my. We often host dinner parties and cook together. Which is great. Though he is a neat freak.

  3. Jara aka Blah Blah says:

    How come I can’t find a guy with Venus in Cancer to save my life? May, you must be afraid to let your sensitivity show…

  4. Jara aka Blah Blah says:

    Oops, I meant to write you must NOT be afraid to let your sensitivity show.

  5. notanonymous says:

    I knew a Gem man with Venus in Cancer. He had a friendly, frumpy and incredibly comforting/nurturing girlfriend who put up with his constant crushes on beautiful, mean, flashy Leos.

  6. Anonymous says:

    My ex boyfriend was Gemini Sun with Venus in Cancer, and he was exactly as you described (I’m Taurus with Venus in Gemini). He also had Pisces rising with Neptune at the top of his chart… and Moon in Capricorn conjunct Neptune. Very atypical Gemini, at least on the surface; quiet and shy, extremely sweet. He did want to travel and go to parties and stuff but he had a hard time dealing with the stress. He’s getting better at it though πŸ™‚

  7. Anonymous says:

    Haha wow… to the anonymous person above me.. my current boyfriend has his sun in Gemini and venus in Cancer and the description is 100%. Also my sun is in Taurus and my venus in Gemini… just thought that was interesting πŸ™‚

  8. I am a gemini sun, moon in cancer and venus in taurs with an almost obsessive crush on a guy with a gemini sun, moon in taurus and venus in cancer. I’m glad these post were written because it shed’s light on how he may act!

  9. Morrigan says:

    I am dating a great (but insecure, very emotional) guy with his sun in leo, moon in virgo, venus in cancer and mars in leo… I on the other hand have my sun in virgo, moon in virgo, venus in leo and mars in leo… Will this work…??

  10. Uk_london says:

    Wow morrigan you have the same case as me except the guys mars is in Gemini .. can you tell me more about how he was before falling in love and afterwards?? I’m very intrigued?

  11. Quicksilver says:

    I have sun in Gemini, moon in sagittarius, mars in capricorn, venus in cancer. I like to think Im special.

  12. interesting comments…very insightful. I just so happen to be one of these Gem/venus/cancer men with venus in cancer. I am admittedly pretty close to these descriptions. I can safely say I have a unconscious desire for a variety of women. That being said it’s only a superficial desire…just in passing really. Its not something I deep down desire. Truly, that would be something different altogether.

  13. Virgo 78 says:

    I am a virgo who has venus and mars in scorpio. My boyfriend is a taurus who’s venus is in cancer and mars in virgo. Any advice?

  14. Jara aka Blah Blah lol you still lookin? i here!

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