About two years ago, give or take I got involved with a Scorpio man (Nov) six years younger. He had been trying to get my attention before, but I hadn’t noticed him. We started talking a little bit after he started dating his girlfriend (about a month) and made his interest obvious even when she’s around. Sometimes he looks around for me or calls or just shows up. He gets mad when other guys flirt with me even though I don’t respond.
Sometimes he asks my whereabouts and tells me where he is. We have such strong chemistry, it’s almost like we are vibing each other without words. Often I may be texting him and he calls at the same time or I walk out side and he drives up. We can see each other at times ’cause were both secretive (around some people) and vibe off of one another and not say a word. Were different, but similar which is somewhat weird.
Sometimes when I’m out and run into him, he looks at me like he’s mesmerized or something, then he hangs around to see me. His girlfriend and him have broken up off and on. I believe they are broke up now. No offense, but she’s seems kind of puppetish. I think she’s too easy or immature for him. Now last year he said we couldn’t be together (not that I asked), but then comes around and wants to be around me or calls constantly sometimes. He says we live too close to one another to be together, he still lives with parents, but is very mature for his age.
Basically he goes back and forth with himself. Once he said he had feelings and he was getting caught up, I was like WOW after only a few months.
I will admit sometimes I will be nonchalant because of the situation, I don’t care to get hurt. I let him see some of me, but not all. When I’m sure, I can and will open up to him. Our sex is so intense and passionate and he loves for me to seduce him, but he also does it to me too. We’ve been intimate for over two years now and he’s opening up here and there over time, but my question is will he eventually want a serious relationship with me or is he just enjoying the sex? I’m willing to see where this can go, I really love being around him and would love to be with him….only if he wants to be with me though…
Let me get this straight … he won’t go out with you because you live too close to one another?
It appears that you two don’t acknowledge publicly that you are sexually involved. You are his little secret, and I bet you’d like be recognized as his girlfriend. You don’t really want to just “vibe” off each other via covert glances.
You may have heard the saying, “Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?” I think you’re putting out too easily. I don’t mean this in a judgmental way — sex for its own sake is fine, if you have the right temperament. But you are protecting yourself, only letting him see a part of you.[ad]
The culprit may be a lack of boundaries. Your Moon is in Pisces, the watery sign that wants to merge with everything. It is in a stressful 90-degree angle (called a “square”) with Neptune, the modern ruler of Pisces. Neptune is the Martyr, the Great Dissolver. When you combine such a porous Moon with the planet that knows no boundaries, you get both an emotional sponge and a doormat. You are exquisitely sensitive and vulnerable, yet you lack the tools to protect yourself from being walked on. (A 135-degree sesquiquadrate from Saturn to your Moon may help you build walls.)
So despite sensual Taurus rising, affectionate Venus in stimulation-seeking Gemini and sexual Mars in playful Leo, you’re not really cut out for passionate sex unless your emotional vulnerability is cradled like a newborn.
Basically, I think you’re deluding yourself. If he really wanted to be your boyfriend, he would have asked you. Maybe he doesn’t think you’re appropriate as a girlfriend, or maybe he doesn’t have the incentive to make it official since he’s already getting laid.
Currently, transiting Pluto is in your Eighth House of Intimate Sex, opposing your Sun and Venus in Gemini. Scorpio themes abound, as Pluto is this sign’s modern ruler; the Eighth House is naturally associated with Scorpio; and Scorpio sits on the cusp of your Seventh House of Partnership (hence your attraction to this sign). It’s fitting that this Scorpio man is in your life, as he may represent the Plutonic in your life.
During this transit, you have the opportunity to undergo a major overhaul regarding how you approach relationships, and you can start to uncover how your sense of self-worth (Second House) as an individual as well as a woman (Sun and Venus, respectively) relates to your sexual activity.
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