Since Eme Kah’s recent comment on Integration and dangers in the process of healing Pluto problems, I have been thinking about how we deal with our emotions. From a psychological perspective, we learn to be with our feelings from our interactions with our mothers (or primary parent.) The mother-child bond is governed by Cancer and this sign’s ruling ‘planet,’ the Moon. Your mother — through her mirroring of your emotional state — teaches you how to identify your feelings. No doubt, most of us are reared with less-than-ideal mirroring — our parents don’t reflect back to us our inner worlds, and we grow up not being able to identify or tolerate our feelings.
Of the three water signs — Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces — the latter two are ruled by modern planets: Pluto rules Scorpio, and Neptune rules Pisces. Scorpionic people process their feelings in a completely different way from Piscean people. (By Scorpionic, I mean having planets in Scorpio or strong Pluto contacts. By Piscean, having planets in Pisces or strong Neptune contacts.)
Pluto goes deep, and Pisces transcends or escapes. Scorpios are so intense because they dig into their emotions, turning over every rock, exploring every crevice to expose any unacknowledged feeling, image or memory. Due to the nature of being a fixed sign, Scorpio does not give up, and has the stamina to excavate its skeletons until there’s nothing left to unearth.
Pisces, on the other hand, is best at experiencing emotions through art. Pisces is not an investigator or psychoanalyst like Scorpio. Rather, the last sign of the zodiac is a dancer, a musician, a poet. This sign’s gift is expressing the ineffable through the creative act. Music, for example, is so powerful at conveying emotions that when we hear a song that resonates with our inner experience, it “hooks into” our minds and bodies — we play it again to help us access and identify our feeling state. The musican “matches” what we often feel we cannot express through rational thought.
The dark side of Neptune/Pisces, however, is escapism. It is not a surprise that so many musicians are also addicts. The creative act is an immersive experience that can both be cathartic and exhausting. And frankly, Piscean types can easily feel overwhelmed by both their emotions and their environment, such that they turn to drugs and daydreams to dull the knife of painful affect.
Scorpionic types thrive on the knife, for this sign’s traditional ruler is Mars, governor of weapons. The knife separates. The talent of the private dick or the shrink is their ability to differentiate between the clues that solve the case, and those that lead nowhere. It is the Scorpio who tells you to to cut the crap.
There is no separation for the Piscean. Remember The Matrix, when the bald child being trained by the Oracle says to Neo, “There is no spoon”? Well, there’s no knife, either. Because Pisces cannot draw a line in the sand, this sign goes swimming instead.
The dark side of the Scorpionic person is extremism. They draw a line in the sand, and get so stuck in either/or that they totally embrace one side while disavowing the other. And as with any polarity, the neglected side has to be expressed. Scorpio goes all out in one direction, only to cross the line and forget where they just were, or they attract someone to adopt the opposing perspective. There can only be a power struggle when there’s something to fight over.
Comment below: How do you process your feelings, and how does this approach impact your relationships?