aries303 provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,
I’ve recently ended a 5 year relationship – my first real one, in part because I felt like I was “the man” of the couple and I longed to feel like the woman. As a single girl, I’ve been attracted to/attracting and dating Alpha types. 4 different guys I consider to be “my” type: powerful, aggressive, dynamic. But there is guy from my college days whoI’ve liked for six years. He is suddenly in my life again (we’ve been in schools in different cities and totally by chance, we’re now working in the same hospital). He’s the opposite of the guys I’m usually into . He’s a Taurus with his Moon, Mercury, Venus, AND Mars in Aries (why the self-esteem issues?)! I’ve never been able to explain how instantly we connected. The reason we didn’t get together in college was because – according to his best friend – he needed for me to make the first move, despite supposedly liking me a lot. I was bewildered and a little hurt and as a result, I refused to make the first move. Now I have the feeling he still likes me, since his best friend has started calling me again, wanting to hang out. This was always the only way this Taurus felt comfortable “going out” with me. I don’t want to have to go through his friends anymore! I want to approach him directly but I’m worried that I’ll scare him away! Is it a bad idea to be direct? How do I get the show on the road?
You and this Taurus man have two Sun-Moon conjunctions by sign (if not by aspect), with your your Sun and his Moon in Aries, and your Moon and his Sun in Taurus. These are good marriage aspects, for the Moon and Sun are the wife and husband.
I can also see why he’d want you to lead. As much as you want to be the “woman” in a relationship, you’ve got a lot of cardinal (initiating) energy, with Capricorn Rising and an Aries Sun. Other parts of your chart relate to your desire to be wined and dined: your love planets — Venus and Mars in Pisces — are more passive and yielding, and your Taurus Moon wants to be comforted.
Is it a bad idea to be direct?
How else are you going to get what you want? Taurus is reluctant to take risks, for he does not want to lose whatever security he has. He may be afraid of losing your friendship if he expreses his interest in you. So, you may have to be the “man” here to get things going. If you scare him away be being assertive, then he’s not ready for you.
Transiting Venus is just entering your Seventh House, and will conjoin your Seventh House Jupiter — planet of good fortune — around June 4. That will be a good time for looove. Transiting Mars will conjoin your natal Sun around May 26, which will give you an extra boost of assertiveness. The worst that can happen is that nothing romantic will come of your friendship with this Taurus man … and nothing has happened so far! Except for some potential embarrassment, you’ll at least know that you tried.