Virgo chick asked in the comments section of Uranus in the Seventh House:
I have Uranus at 6 degrees Virgo conjunct my Descendant in Virgo. I have never been able to sustain a long term relationship. The longest was 9 months. However, this is not because I chose to end the relationships. In fact having a long term happy relationship is what I yearn for and I feel continually frustrated and sad that I can’t develop anything significant that lasts. I also have the sun conjunct venus and pluto in Virgo and they sit between 13 and 15 degrees Virgo. Also chiron opposes from 14 degrees Pisces. Any comments or tips for me to break free of my 7th house curse!
Uranus and Pluto are transpersonal forces, by definition beyond human control. When these archetypes play out in your encounter with the Other, you can either channel the “will” of these outer planets in your intimate relationships, or just let them do with you what they will. With consciousness, you may be at the wheel, but you’re driving in severe conditions. Without awareness, you’re on a flat cart with wheels, but you have no way to steer — and the weather is just as chaotic.
Uranus turns tradition on its face. In the domain of partnership, rigid personal and cultural mores need to be dismantled. I do not doubt that you yearn for a long term relationship, especially with a Seventh House Sun. However, your definition of “relationship” may be contributing to your frustrations. You may need to intentionally develop a partnership that sits outside of conventions. You desire more freedom and independence than a typical marriage allows.
However, your situation is modified by your Sun-Venus-Pluto conjunction. You also yearn for a profoundly intimate connection, one that allows you to explore the depths of what it means to share yourself with another human. The power and control issues, as well as the feelings of possessiveness and jealousy, that arise in a Venus-Pluto conjunction make it difficult to simultaneously function in a relationship that thrives on independence. For example, an open relationship may be attractive to Uranus, but will raise the ire of Venus-Pluto.
Your strong Virgo emphasis may also contribute to the difficulty of maintaining a long-term relationship. Are you intensely critical of your partners? Do you have very particular ideas of what you need in a relationship, as well as daily rituals that may feel disrupted by the constant presence of another adult?
Perhaps you’d do well with a brilliant but obsessive iconoclast who’s not afraid of deep intimacy, someone whose presence instigates the death of your old schema of relationships. Fortunately, transiting Uranus is conjoining your natal Chiron and opposing your Sun-Venus-Pluto conjunction all of 2007. This transit will awaken the wounds related to your identity and appearance, as well as the part of you that requires a rebirth of your values concerning partnership. Unexpected changes and out-of-the-blue appearances are par for the course, so allow yourself to be open to change.